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With Miss Mary, the use of the given name indicates friendliness, but the addition of the title indicates the respect they feel they ought to show.

< p>With Miss Mary, the use of the given name indicates friendliness, but the addition of the title indicates the respect they feel they ought to show.

And with Smith, the lack of a title indicates friendliness, but the use of the surname prevents if sounding too intimate.

And with Smith, the lack of a title indicates friendliness, but the use of the surname prevents if sounding too intimate. with Smith, the lack of a title indicates friendliness, but the use of the surname prevents if sounding too intimate.

However, both addressing used by the Chinese sound very strange and uncomfortable to the westerner.

However many of the Chinese speaking techniques sound very strange and uncomfortable to the westerner.

3. Compliments and ResponseTo compliment is to praise the addressee's virtues, ability, behavior, appearance, clothing, personality and belongs.

3. belongs.

To compliment and ResponseTo compliment is to praise the addressee's virtues, ability, behavior, appearance, clothing, personality and all.

Appropriate compliments can serve as effective supplementary means in inter-personal communication.

Appropriate compliments can serve as very effective supplementary means in inter-personal communication. Western and Chinese culture are at polar opposites about compliment.

Western and Chinese attitudes toward compliments are at polar opposite ends of the spectrum

A western hostess, if she is complimented for her cooking skill, is likely to be able to give a compliment to her husband. for her cooking skill, is likely to say, "Oh, I am so glad that you liked it. I cook it especially for you."

If a western hostess receives compliments on her cooking from a guest, she is likely to say, "Oh, I am so glad that you liked it. compliments on her cooking skill, she is likely to say, "Oh, I am so glad that you liked it. I cook it especially for you."

Not so is a Chinese hostess, who will instead apologize for giving you "Nothing".

Not so is a Chinese hostess, who will instead apologize for giving you "Nothing". If translate this into English "I just made some dishes casually and they are not very tasty.

They will say "I just made some dishes casually and they are not very tasty. " If you translate this into English "I just made some dishes casually and they are not very tasty."

Perhaps the foreigner will think why you invite me to your family and have the untasty food.

Perhaps the foreigner will think why you invite me to you family and have the untasty food.

You aren't respect me.

The English-speaking people are more active to praise others and to be praised than Chinese people.

The English-speaking people are more receptive to praise from others and to praise others than Chinese people.

For example, the Americans are "straight forwardness", the Chinese take pride in "modesty ".

For example, the Americans are "straight forwardness", the Chinese take pride in "modesty".

That modesty has left many a Chinese hungry at an Americans table, for Chinese politeness calls for three refusals before one accepts an offer and the Americans hosts take "no " to mean "no ", whether it is the first, second or third time.

Modesty can make the Chinese at the American table hungry, and the Chinese tend to habitually decline several times before accepting an offer, but Americans believe that no matter how many times, not eating is not wanting to eat.

Still bigger differences exist in people's attitude towards compliments, i.e., in the response to compliments.

Still bigger differences exist in people's attitude towards compliments, i.e., in the response to compliments. words of praise.

Chinese are tend to efface themselves in words or refuse it, although they do feel comfortable about the compliments.

Chinese are tend to efface themselves in words or refuse it, although they do feel comfortable about the compliments.

Chinese are tend to efface themselves in words or refuse it, although they do feel comfortable about the compliments.

So many westerners simply feel puzzled or even upset when their Chinese friends refused their compliments.

Many westerners feel puzzled or even angry when compliments are refused.

The Chinese people are not intending to be modest with the sacrifice of friendship in so doing, but it is ratherdue to the traditional Chinese philosophy, that of modesty.

The Chinese people are not intending to be modest with the sacrifice of friendship in so doing, but it is ratherdue to the traditional Chinese philosophy, that of modesty.

The Chinese people regard modesty as a most valuable virtue, so they seldom agree to the complimenton their own. acknowledge compliments and praise from others.

4. Apologies and ResponsesIf wrong things are done, there must be apologies .

4. Apologies and ResponsesIf wrong things are done, there must be apologies .

As to how to offer apologies,both western and Chinese people may "I am sorry...." , "I apologize for...". Etc.

As to how to offer apologies,both western and Chinese people may "I am sorry" , "I apologize for..." etc etc.

But Chinese would like to apologize for the crowded state of their dwellings and for small numbers of dishes, although the room is big enough and

But Chinese would like to apologize for the crowded state of their dwellings and for small numbers of dishes, although the room is big enough and there are many dishes.

Chinese stay these to express self-depreciation only out of courtesy, not having other implication.

Chinese stay these to express self-depreciation only out of courtesy, not having other implication.

Chinese people mostly apologize for putting themselves down.

But the westerners would wonder, since the room is so large and there are so many dishes, why do they say so. May be they do not welcome our visit, they don't like us to eat more. don't like us to eat more.

But the westerners would wonder, since the room is so large and there are so many dishes, why do they say so. May be they do not welcome our visit, they don't like us to eat more.