What do you think of the idea of not having grandchildren, not letting children eat old, and not supporting the younger generation after 60?

There are three views on this issue: one is to advocate not bringing grandchildren, the other is to prevent children from getting old, and the third is not to support the younger generation. I am over 70 years old, and I have experienced and faced all the above three problems. Let's talk about my experience and feelings:

First, advocate not having grandchildren. I think this proposition must add a premise, that is, if children have the economic conditions and ability to raise their grandchildren by themselves, then there should be no grandchildren after the 1960 s. No matter how many years later, anyone who has no economic conditions and ability to raise a grandson must bear the burden of raising a grandson. I have a son and a daughter. When my daughter got married, I said to them, "You are married, and we have done our duty. If you have children in the future, you will bear it yourself if you have the ability, and you will help if you have difficulties. We have no obligation and responsibility. " We have been following this principle for many years. So my daughter gave birth to a grandson, hired a nanny herself, and didn't make her parents work hard. As for my granddaughter, she goes to high school in other places and needs someone to take care of her life. Her wife has been with her for three years and was admitted to a famous university in Hong Kong this year. But this labor is paid service, and they are paid every month. My wife and I both have retirement wages, and we can live without money. They pay wages to let them know that, first, they respect the workers, and second, it is the wife's due remuneration. The third is to let them understand that everything depends on themselves. The purpose of doing this, even if it is to save money for grandchildren to study in the future, is another matter. So, more than a year after I retired 10, I had time to go to more than half of China, and to many countries in Southeast Asia and North Korea 10.

Second, children do not have the economic conditions and ability. No matter how old you are, you should shoulder the burden and responsibility of raising your grandchildren together. China is a big agricultural country, and most of its population are farmers. Due to historical reasons, farmers in our country have no retirement wages and must stick to their houses and fields to survive. However, due to the new situation of reform and opening up, a new generation of farmers have to work in cities. So a group of new grandchildren were born: "left-behind children". These "left-behind children", except a few parents, have been working for a long time and have a successful career. They can take their children to study in the city, but most children after the fifties and sixties must stay in the city to grow up with them. It is not in line with the actual situation to blindly emphasize that there will be no grandchildren after the 1960 s.

Third, don't let children get old. This is a problem of family education. First, for various reasons, some families in some cities or rural areas are facing difficulties in life and are in urgent need of parents' help to tide over the difficulties. This kind of "gnawing at the old" is human nature, and it is natural for relatives to help each other. Second, some children are lazy. They don't work hard. They put all their hopes on the elderly and expect their retirement wages. Such people are few and far between, and they should certainly be opposed and stopped.

Fourth, the idea that the younger generation does not provide for the aged is completely wrong. The concept of "endowment" includes economic endowment and spiritual endowment. Respecting the old and loving the young is a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation for thousands of years, and the culture of providing for the aged should be passed down from generation to generation. Urban cadres and workers have retirement wages in their later years, but they can not only survive when they are old, but also need their children to seek medical treatment for three diseases and two pains. Children should also visit frequently, because children have this obligation and responsibility according to law. In particular, most farmers in rural areas do not have retirement wages, and their lives must rely on their children to provide for the elderly. Therefore, it is unrealistic to rely on the government to provide for the elderly without relying on the younger generation.

These are my experiences and opinions for your reference.

Please pay attention.

Talking about this problem depends on where you stand. From the perspective of young people, this is selfish; From the perspective of the elderly, there are three words: get through it.

After 60, now they are all over 60, saying they are old and tender. This generation has suffered a lot and has not enjoyed happiness for a few days; I went to the countryside, and I worked under the reform and opening up. At present, most people have retired or are facing retirement, and advocate the "three noes" concept of not taking grandchildren, not letting children get old and not caring about the younger generation. Because of this, to put it bluntly, it is not easy to come all the way after the 1960 s. Considering that the next days are numbered, I have suffered for half my life, and I should enjoy my life and live my own life for a few days.

Some people may say: this is unreasonable. Excuse me: what makes sense? The unit retired and went back to work after returning home, taking care of the grandchildren and taking care of the children to eat and drink; Find a way to support the elderly yourself, and don't bother your children. Yes! I don't deny that, in the eyes of some people, it makes sense. But the reality is, even if you do, even if you think you have done it perfectly, what can you leave behind? Of course, parents are selfless to their children and don't talk about anything in return. But when you were a child, did you also think about your parents?

As the saying goes, children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren. Children grow up and parents get old. If you want to count on children, you might as well say it yourself. If children are in trouble, do your best to help them.

First, don't tie the rest of your life to your child's life. Children have children's lives, and there will always be old days. Although you are a parent, you can't accompany your child for life. Instead, mind your own business! If you can't manage yourself well, how can you manage others?

I'm a post-90s generation, and I'm also a stay-at-home mom. My baby is only over one year old now. We don't have a house, and the car is still a dowry car given by my parents. We are children in the countryside, with low diplomas and no one to help us. My husband's monthly salary is almost only enough for our expenses. Even under the premise of no other expenses, he doesn't even dare to get sick. Every month is not only moonlight. Sometimes there are even debts, and parents-in-law are not willing to help us with the baby. Now we don't know what to do. I should have tried to take care of the children at home. Many people say that it is good to survive these years. The baby can go to work after kindergarten, and there is such a suitable job.

I want to work on the construction site with my husband and my parents. My in-laws also said that it was hard, alas! I think at least I can take care of the children and my parents can help us. I panic every day. I really don't know where to start if I'm in a hurry. If someone takes care of our children, we can work hard while we are young. The conditions are getting better and better, and everyone is good!

My parents are farmers, and they don't have any retirement salary when they are old. We don't need to give them money when they are old, and we don't run around when they are sick. If we don't work hard now, we can give them more when they are old.

Sometimes I really envy those. Mother-in-law helps with the children, and the rest of the family makes money. Their days are thriving.

I will be my mother-in-law in the future, and we all have social security. I think if my children are well trained, I will leave them alone and they will not be old-fashioned. If they were ordinary people, I would definitely help them. Now the social pressure is great, and I also want to work together as a family, so that the family will get better and better. As for providing for the elderly, we have social security and food, that is, we still need to run before and after illness.

Don't take your grandchildren with you, and don't let your children grow old, but your children must provide for the elderly, because "you are like me, I will accompany you to provide for the elderly" is a legal responsibility, and it is also the ethics of China people.

Such post-60s generation should be rare, and people are handed down from generation to generation.

Class instinct, no matter how to say it, is useless. The meaning mentioned in the question is not for children and grandchildren. What did you do when you had children?

It's no use trying to stop your children from getting old. A person living in this world has to work hard for his own life. All your wealth cannot be so accurate. Just enough for him to eat for a lifetime. The rest can be taken into the coffin and not left to future generations. Without children, it is even more impossible to support the elderly. "People over 88 don't know how to be lame and blind." Life can only be seen in front of us, and no one can predict what will happen in the future. With the growth of age, there will always be a day when you can say or not, and it is up to you to decide. What's the use of talking hard? Time and tide wait for no man, naturally there will be a day when you can't take care of yourself, and then your descendants will have to help you take care of it. If you are over 100 years old, you will die. You can't control the rest, it's all empty talk anyway.

There should be very few people born after 1960 who have this idea. Old people should take care of their grandchildren and their children to support the elderly, not only because of their responsibilities and obligations, but also because of their family relationships.

Some old people regard seeing their grandchildren as a burden, and feel very bitter, tired and reluctant. However, some old people first take care of their grandchildren as a good thing. I have really seen that grandparents must let their children leave their children to look after them, or they will turn against each other.

That's what my mother does. My mother was very happy when my daughter was born and wanted to take her to take care of her, but my wife and I insisted on staying here and taking care of ourselves. I was angry with us for this, and finally brought my mother to us.

But many times we still take care of the children ourselves, because we know that it is very tiring and hard to take care of the children.

Old people have worked hard all their lives, and they really can't bear to let them continue to be tired, so as long as they have a little ability, they should try their best to take care of themselves.

Respect for the elderly and love for the young are the traditional virtues of our nation, and the concept of family may be stronger than that of any country or nation.

Some people envy that children in western countries have to go out by themselves at the age of 18, without having to support their parents or take care of their grandchildren. I don't think this practice is quite in line with our national conditions.

During the epidemic, I saw some western media reports that some old people were alone at home. Nobody cares, and it's urgent. The children stood at the door of the apartment at a distance and left without saying hello.

In China, many children take their parents home to live together because of the epidemic. Old people in China pay a lot for their children, but most of the time they can enjoy the family happiness.

Pay and return are often in direct proportion, and there may be some children who don't know filial piety, which is only a minority and will be spurned.

Just retired in his sixties to take care of his daughter. Everyone knows that taking care of children is tiring and bitter, but why do so many parents leave as soon as the children speak? One word, love. Parents live for themselves and also for their children. Watching their children bear all kinds of difficulties, they can also do what they can and share the burden of some children. How can they bear not to go? What's wrong with giving up eating, drinking and having fun for children for a few years? Parents are of course willing to make sacrifices on the basis of their children's gratitude and filial piety. As for not helping their children to support the elderly, it will make them feel guilty for a long time in their later years, and make them feel resentful but bear the stigma of unfilial. Therefore, in old age, it is not just enjoyment but life, and the happiness of children and grandchildren around their knees!

Tell me my opinion:

First, one generation takes care of one generation's affairs, and parents take care of their children. Grandchildren take care of their parents, and grandparents love them, but they don't love them. Who is responsible for childbirth, it's as simple as that.

Second, don't let children get old, let them earn their own living and be responsible for their families and children. Need an old man? How much chewing did they give you? Can you chew for life?

Third, the younger generation is not allowed to support the elderly. First, they have the ability to support themselves (except incompetence) and don't need you to support them; Second, modern society has a fast pace and fierce competition. In order not to drag down the children, not to increase their financial burden, and not to occupy their limited time for no reason, let them run their own businesses and families.

Isn't that a bad reason?

I am a post-60 s generation, and I never advocate this. Why? The children are under great pressure now and can't just leave work. If you don't look after the children, they are bound to find a nanny. Nanny and children's expenses are all money. As an old man, I have the ability to help them now. Why should I oppose them and ignore them? Therefore, in the case of good health and financial ability, I choose to take my grandchildren and help them. There is nothing wrong with providing for the aged. First, my wife and I should support each other. One of them is gone, and the other can take care of himself. I can't look after myself. I can listen to my children's arrangement, find a live-in nanny or go to a nursing home. Anyway, the pension is enough I sincerely help my son and daughter-in-law, and try my best to help them. From now on, my son and daughter-in-law have a good outlook on life. This summer, I suddenly vomited and was hospitalized. My son and daughter-in-law asked for leave to accompany me in the hospital and give me comfort. I'm better. I drove them to work and tried not to disturb them, so I was not afraid that they would let me go.

Just saying! I believe that most people born after 60 can't be so free and easy.

Take the idea of not having grandchildren as an example. Nowadays, children's financial strength is not so strong. Children hire people to take care of them, and many of them can't afford it. If they hire people to look after their children, their parents and their grandparents, they can't rest assured.

Nowadays, young people work very hard and busy. Parents will be very tired if they don't take care of their children. What's more, a large part of them have not really settled down. They have to use their spare time to recharge and improve themselves. Fortunately, in this era of rapid development, they have a foothold in capital and skills.

Therefore, after retirement, many post-60 s are taking care of their grandchildren, being logistics soldiers and giving their children a solid backing.

Don't let the children gnaw at the old age. It is also necessary to wait until the children really get married and settle down completely before weaning, because the cost of getting married to the children now, whether it is a boy or a girl, is not small, mainly borne by parents. Do you think this is gnawing at the old? If parents don't contribute, their current salary savings will be indefinite.

After marriage, many parents will still support their children. In their words, it is better to give money to a child when he is alive and to whom, than to give it after death.

As for not allowing the younger generation to provide for the aged, it is now a view held by many post-60s, but now it is just talk and their helpless prediction, because they feel that they only have one child and four elderly people, their children have to take care of, and they have to go to work, so they may not have time to take care of them.

The most loving thing in the world is parents, and the happiness of children is their greatest blessing!