The causes of the differences between Chinese and western family education

Social competition is not only a contest between knowledge and intelligence, but also a contest between will, mental state and being a man.

Due to the different historical traditions and social and cultural backgrounds, there are great differences between Chinese and western family education concepts. From these differences, we can find many ideas and practices worth learning from parents in China.

(A) pay attention to daily life behavior and habits

● Western parents: teaching from childhood to daily life.

Western parents attach importance to educating their children in their daily behaviors and emotions, respecting others in their inner feelings, and cultivating behaviors and habits in their daily lives.

● China's parents: neglected the "education of being a man"

However, parents and kindergarten teachers in China are often divorced from the reality of children's psychological development. At present, our children's moral concepts are indifferent and their social development is poor, which is not unrelated to parents' neglect of the most basic "life education" for their children.

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Let the children learn to be independent

● Western parents: Let children learn to be independent by themselves.

Western parents generally believe that children have the ability of self-reflection and education. Children should work hard, live by themselves, get happiness from their efforts, get all kinds of knowledge and skills from their hands. Let children do what they can, which is respect for children.

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● China's parents: protect various levels of doting.

China's parents are afraid that their children will bump into each other, so they often hold or pull their children.

(3) Let children develop naturally

● Western parents: Let children develop freely.

Westerners have a relatively weak desire for their children to become famous and start a family. Instead of painstakingly designing their children's future, they pay attention to their free development and strive to cultivate their children into social people who can adapt to various environments and have independent survival ability.

China's parents: High expectations only focus on learning.

Many parents in China are eager for their children's success, so they go beyond the high requirements of their children's actual level, encourage their children to pull out seedlings to encourage them, and hate iron to produce steel, which is pervasive in their families.

Pay attention to spiritual communication with children.

● Western parents: communicate frequently and attach importance to mental health.

Western parents pay more attention to the cultivation of children's healthy psychology, so they attach great importance to emotional communication with children and care about their psychological needs.

● China's parents: they are more concerned about physical needs and ignore psychological needs.

However, in real life, many parents in our country do the opposite. In daily life, they basically focus on children's physical needs, pay little attention to or even ignore children's psychological needs, and ignore the cultivation of children's healthy psychology and the tempering of character and will.

Children need respect and understanding.

● Western parents: respect and understand children's psychology and choices.

Western parents generally believe that children are independent individuals from the day they are born, with their own independent will and personality.

● China's parents: dominant, demanding that children obey their own wishes.

Most parents in China require their children to be obedient and obedient.

(6) Encourage children to innovate and explore.

● Western parents: encourage innovation and exploration.

Western parents "encourage innovation", while China parents are often "satisfied with cloning". The former encourages children to surpass their predecessors, while the latter teaches children to stop in front of their predecessors.

● China's parents: often satisfied with "cloning"

Most parents in China hold a negative attitude towards their children's exploration activities. They often regard children's own "exploration activities" as "nonsense" and stop them.