What are the misinterpretations of traditional culture that keep women's classes banned?

The so-called "Women's Durban" is really tenacious, appearing every once in a while, even if it is constantly cracking down.

In 2014, the "Women's Durban" taught modern women not to fight back and not to curse back.

In 2017, the "Women's Durban" preached that women who order takeout and don't do the dishes are not "women's morals".

In 2018, the "women's class" advocated that women's hands and feet would rot if they switched boyfriends.

In 2020, the "women's class" believes that "if you don't study traditional culture, you'll get stomach cancer" and that "looking cheap every day will hurt you"

Anyone with a little common sense would know that these statements are simply not true. That's the question that deserves deeper reflection.

It is mainly because there is too much misinterpretation of traditional culture.

Is the culture of the ancients the same thing as traditional culture?

The culture of the ancients is the culture of each generation in a particular period of time, to clothing, for example: the Qin Dynasty, black, black for the most honorable, the Tang Dynasty, purple, red and yellow for the royal family, the Ming Dynasty, yellow and purple, this and the Tang Dynasty is somewhat similar.

From here we can see that the degree of clothing color respectability is differentiated and inherited.

Each dynasty does not receive all the culture of the previous dynasty or the ancients who predate them, but selectively acquires it.

This is the difference between the culture of the ancients and the traditional culture.

The culture of the ancients should not be treated directly as traditional culture; there should be an act of renunciation, not a wholesale acceptance.

Obviously that kind of three-following-four-virtues, what not to abide by women's morals and such things should have gone into the trash can a long time ago, this is the culture of the ancients, not the traditional culture.

Why would parents spend so much money to send their children to the so-called "women's class"? We will comb through the thunderous words of the "female class" over the years, and it is not difficult to find that one of the core of their message is to be obedient, and the method used is intimidation.

Wang Yangming's views on educating children

The famous Ming Dynasty philosopher Mr. Wang Yangming, who is familiar with quite a lot of people, founded the "Yang Ming Xinxue", which has a great influence on the future generations, and has been honored as a saint by the future generations. He had a classic discussion on how to educate children in "The Great Idea of Training and Education".

By and large, the child's feelings, happy to play and scrupulous inspection, such as the beginning of the sprouting of grasses and trees, soothing is organized, the destruction of the impotence of the decline. Now teaching children, we must make their tendency to encourage, the center of the joy, then their progress from the can not be.

This sentence is to the effect that the child likes to play and is afraid of constraints, just like the grass has just sprouted, Shu can be organized, if the beginning of the constraints on its destruction will soon lose the vitality of life and wither away. The children's education should follow their interests and encourage them to feel joy in their hearts and enjoy these things, so they will naturally make progress.

If you don't learn traditional culture, you will get stomach cancer. Is this a kind of intimidation, is it a kind of destruction of children? What will be the result of the destruction? Mr. Wang Yangming said something like this:

Such as when the rain and spring wind, dip is flower wood, not budding hair Yue, natural day long months; if the frost peeled off, the business is sluggish, long withered carry on.

Zai Yu sleeps in the daytime, Confucius is very angry, so Confucius will also scold people, he scolded Zai Yu is rotten wood can not be carved, dung wall can not wenwu also. But did he scare Zaiyu what will happen to you if you don't study hard?

Of course not. Criticizing and scaring are two different things. Criticism is pointing out the problem of something, while scaring is intimidating the person.

Some people may argue that this seems to be working.

I'll give you another example, some places organize "filial piety" speeches, invite a lecturer to come, with a good sound, called on the children and parents, in a certain atmosphere, these children are moved to tears, some will cry that they are worse than dogs. The parents were also moved.

This situation I believe some people have encountered, after this after the child really "filial piety"?

Can remorse induce "filial piety"? It's not necessarily the case, as remorse can also lead to hate.

It is only when a child realizes that he is not filial enough that he will be filial, not if he is made to feel remorse. Some people say that remorse is not a way to make oneself realize that one is not filial enough, then one will be filial in the future.

This is a different matter, Repentance focuses on repentance, and when he feels he has made amends, he naturally stops. Why is it said that there is no filial son after a long illness? Because when they feel they have given enough, they stop automatically.

This is not filial piety at all, this is a transaction. How can filial piety be a transaction?

Shun's father set him up many times, why would Shun continue to be filial, because he felt that it was because he didn't do enough to be filial that his father treated him that way, and here there was only not enough, not remorse. If Shun felt that he had done enough to be filial, he would naturally retaliate against his father and his estranged brother.

These things that seem similar, but aren't really the same are what we really need to understand and figure out.

Maintaining the thought in your mind that you don't feel filial enough is the source of continued filial piety; remorse is not the source at all.

How to understand traditional culture

This is where we get into the third topic.

Traditional culture has a lot to offer, so how do you understand it? You can't understand all of it in your lifetime, but I can give you a line of thought, and that is:

The Tao begets one. One begets two. Two begets three. Three begets all things. Everything is negative Yin and embraces Yang, and rushes Qi for harmony.

This is a passage from chapter 42 of the Tao Te Ching, what does it mean? I have recorded a video explanation, yesterday I also wrote an article "from a cultural perspective to see the heavenly stems and earthly branches, know Changrong have some immature ideas to share with you? Let's take the example of the Heavenly Stems and Earthly Branches to decipher the meaning of the above sentence.

Some people think of fortune-telling as soon as they see the Heavenly Stems and Earthly Branches, ignoring its cultural characteristics. Fortune-telling uses the Heavenly Stems and Earthly Branches, but it is not that the Heavenly Stems and Earthly Branches are fortune-telling, which are two different things.

The heavenly stems are composed of a, b, c, d, e, f, g, xin, non, dec, a little understanding of the people know that the a b can symbolize the spring, the vitality, wood, c, d, can symbolize the summer, fire, g, xin can symbolize the autumn, gold, non, dec, symbolize the winter, the water withered silence.

A B C D is equivalent to the rising situation, just like the temperature from spring to summer is rising, geng Xin non dec is equivalent to the temperature is falling. Does this constitute a yin and a yang. But a Yin and a Yang how to transform, that there is a key point, this key point is the E and He. These ten numbers represent a completed process from birth to silence, while each stage is divided into yin and yang, such as A and B is A for Yang, B for Yin and so on.

This process has both the rule of two and the rule of three, so I won't go into details.

Then again, why are the lines of Zhouyi six? Because each hexagram expresses a process, a process is naturally from the beginning to the return plus a turning point, or the opening and closing pivot of these three processes. Each node is divided into yin and yang, so there are six. Three yin and three yang and three is the same thing, because each can be divided into yin and yang, you can feel it when you look at the Qian Gua.