Whose surname should the child take?

From the perspective of traditional culture, the Chinese people are an ethnic group that pays great attention to the concept of clan and lineage, and it is very common for families to gather together with their surnames, which are usually accompanied by ancestral halls, and the surnames are just like a line of blood.

From the point of view of genetics, the male carries the XY gene, the female is XX, the family name follows the male Y gene to pass on, this is a form of renewal, the son follows the father's last name, the family name can be passed on for generations.

And the child follows the father's surname, can enhance the feelings of the father and son (female), because no matter what the child's surname, the mother's love for the child will not change, after all, through the pregnancy, the pain of the birth, and men can not empathize with, if the father's surname, the man will instinctively close to their own things, if they follow the mother's surname, they can not get the sense of identity in their hearts.

But with the progress of society, "male superiority", "son preference" of feudalism has been eliminated, we began to advocate equality between men and women, the original traditions should be abandoned, the child to follow the mother's last name, can enhance the female social identity, prove that their family status is equal, the child's last name is the same as that of the mother. The child's mother's last name can improve the woman's social identity and prove that her family status is equal.

What are the advantages and disadvantages of having a child with the mother's name?

One of the benefits

1, enhance the relationship between husband and wife, promote family harmony

If the husband agreed to the child to follow his wife's surname, then it shows that his heart is willing to respect and understand his wife, the wife will also be grateful to her husband's thoughtfulness and tolerance, the relationship between husband and wife will be more harmonious and stable, and in-laws will also be very happy and excited about the son-in-law's love increased, contributing to a more harmonious family. This will make the family more harmonious.

2, so that children grow up healthy

Couple good relationship, the biggest beneficiary is the child, in this good atmosphere of the family environment, the child grows up, character is very good, physical and mental development is very healthy.

Second, the disadvantages

1, easy to cause misunderstanding

Proper siblings have different surnames, easy to cause misunderstanding of outsiders, so that people mistakenly think it is a reorganization of the family or a single-parent family, causing unnecessary suspicion and gossip, aggravate the child's inner anxiety and uneasiness, for the mind has not yet matured for them to a kind of stealth violence, the child is very easy to feel the lack of love and love in the voice of others, and the child is not a good choice. The company's website is a great source of information about the company's products and services, and the company's website is a great source of information about the company's services.

2, the old man may favor

Particularly in the old generation of ideology, the idea of the son with the father's name is y rooted, difficult to shake. If the old man has a big opinion on this, it may make it selfish and favoritism, to follow their own family name of the child extra love some, a different family name may be cold neglect, invariably to the child caused great harm.

3, the impact of hand and foot feelings

In the child does not have the ability to distinguish between right and wrong before the different surnames may allow it to have a different position, easy to produce a gap or exclusion, the emergence of "our surnames are different, we are not a family," the idea, and then caused by the hand and foot feelings are not close enough to affect family harmony. The first is to make sure that you have a good understanding of the family's relationship with the child.

4, the husband was mistakenly thought "inverted door"

"Inverted door" is the door son-in-law, in ancient times, the family is not good for the man into the woman's family, the children follow the mother's family name, this kind of men are often labeled as "soft eaters". "eating soft rice" malicious label, may hurt the man's self-esteem, but also a challenge to the status of the family.