The last two sentences of "poverty means silence, meanness means discouragement" are more classic. Do you know what they are?

As the saying goes, "if you talk too much, you will lose." Indeed, communicating with people, communicating with people, and how to say good things are really a great learning. If you don't master it well, you will offend people, and you don't know it yet.

I am such a person myself, and I am not very good at talking. My wife said that what I said should not be trampled on by cows. My superiors also said that my emotional intelligence is low, which seems to be an understatement. As we all know, people here are embarrassed. I also realized my own problems and always wanted to change them, but I never did.

Then I calmed down and thought about it, and finally found the source. My dad is such a person, so stubborn that he can't even pull back nine cows. He only thought about himself, and then he said that sentence, completely ignoring the feelings of others and offending many people. Until now, he is almost 90 years old, and he still has this problem and can't change it.

Really, when you associate with people, it may be because one sentence can impress the other party, or it may be because of improper words that you lose friendship. It can be said that a word can achieve a career, and a word can also do bad things.

Isn't there an old saying, "If you speak proudly, your tongue will make trouble", "If you talk more about right and wrong, all your troubles will come out because of your strength" and "Sit still and think about yourself and gossip about others". In fact, the ancients have long summed it up and warned us, but many people don't realize it and can't change it.

Today, let's talk about a classic folk proverb: "If you are poor, don't talk; if you are humble, don't persuade;" Don't look for relatives when you are in trouble. "If you ask me, this summary is really too in place and too realistic. In just 20 words, it contains profound truth and reveals the essence of human nature and embarrassing reality.

The literal meaning of "people are poor and don't talk" is easy to understand, which is nothing more than: people are in trouble and don't talk casually. Why? As the saying goes, "people speak lightly", and what such people say is neither listened to nor believed, so it is better not to say it.

There is a saying in the Book of Changes: "A word is broken", that is to say, a person is in adversity or poverty, and even his own food and clothing are not solved. As the saying goes, how can you talk about others when the shit on your ass is not cleaned? In other words, no matter how much truth and knowledge such people say, no one will believe them. The so-called "if you don't sweep a house, why sweep the world?"

This also warns others that when people are poor, they should not say more because they speak lightly and what they say has no weight. What they have to do is to listen more and feel more, not to say that the address is unknown.

Isn't there a saying in Augmented Xianwen? No one asked if you live in a busy city, but if you have money, you have distant relatives in the mountains. In reality, few poor people are willing to communicate, and even have no right to speak (of course, not to say that you can't speak).

Therefore, in our daily life, it is not difficult to find that those who talk and laugh loudly are either rich or expensive, while those with low status either follow the class or remain silent and have no right to speak at all, because they have no resources, status or power. Without these, they can't speak at all. This is very realistic. If we want to change this reality.

As for "modesty does not persuade people", it is the same as the above, because "people speak lightly."

We have all heard the story of Su Qin during the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period. Before he became famous, he was poor and humble, and even his wife at home didn't take him seriously. After hard work, Su Qin finally worshipped the six countries, and its position soared. When he came home dressed in gold, his wife, parents and neighbors came all the way to meet him.

I have a relative who grew up without any position at home. Because he is the eldest son, his parents beat him the most. After graduation, because I was admitted to a technical secondary school, I spoke softly, didn't earn much, and couldn't stand up straight. Later, he worked hard, taught himself computers, went into the sea and started a small company. After 10 years of efforts, the company is getting bigger and bigger, making more and more money and getting bigger and bigger. Even abandoned his original wife, hired a mistress and raised five children. There are five or six houses, bought dozens of acres of land in rural hometown and built a super-large villa. Now, his parents are proud of him and tell everyone. He said a lot at the dinner table for people who celebrate the New Year. You can tell his story and his experience from beginning to end. Those ordinary relatives just listen, but it's okay. Eating, drinking and having fun with him is a pleasure. Smoking and drinking can win at cards, and a group of people praise him to the sky. That is the reality.

Why? Because people have money and status, they talk a lot and talk a lot. If a person has no social status and humble status, how can he talk endlessly? So, when you are humble, don't convince others, because others may not believe what you say.

Let's give another example. Many of our parents want their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed. So the discipline is very strict, the standard is very high, and the starting point is very high, but they don't want to think about it themselves. Aren't you the same Impose what you can't do on your children. Will the child accept it? Will you listen?

Therefore, a person must have the ability to do one thing first, and then he will have the confidence to convince others after making his own achievements, and then he will be recognized by others if he speaks out, otherwise, I believe you are a ghost.

The general idea of this sentence is that if you are weak, don't do things beyond your tolerance. You have been an office worker for a long time. Can you bear the weight of 200 Jin at once? In other words, do what you can and don't try to be brave.

There is an idiom called "mantis cart", which is said too much. If you don't have two brushes in the workplace, but you want to occupy an important position and sit in a high position, the result is that you can't get away because of your ability, and eventually you make a mess of things and get teased by others. This is embarrassing, everything should be done according to one's ability.

It is more realistic to "not find a relative if you are in trouble". This seems to be an understatement, but it deeply reflects the face of the world and the warmth and coldness of human feelings.

Blood is thicker than water, which is very important in our traditional culture. Relatives walk around every day to keep in touch, so it's nothing to help each other within their power. However, we should also pay attention to the discretion and don't let the elderly ask for help. If there are many such things, people will alienate you and even dislike you.

In general, when encountering difficulties, try to solve them by yourself, instead of always asking for help. Especially when you are in trouble, if you really want to ask for help from relatives and friends, you have to consider whether it is feasible. Don't be reckless Most people don't want to help those poor people. As the saying goes, "Save the poor, don't save the poor." If you seek the help of relatives and friends when you are in trouble, if others don't help you, it will be embarrassing, make you feel condescending, and this will lead to the alienation of relatives, and even relatives can't do it in the end, so you should think twice before you do it.

"People are poor, don't talk, don't persuade people; The phrase "don't look for relatives when you are in trouble" is a summary of the experience of the ancients and a way to behave. Although it seems unreasonable, it is indispensable knowledge in our daily life and worth savoring.

Don't talk when you are poor.

Be modest and don't persuade others.

Put down the burden and have a rest.

Don't look for relatives when you are in trouble.

This is a wise saying left by our ancestors, which still applies even in today's society.

Don't talk when you are poor, and don't persuade people when you are humble. These two sentences have similar meanings. It doesn't mean that you are not allowed to talk, and your daily communication with people is still the same. Only when others encounter problems in their careers, the poor should not talk nonsense and participate in opinions. No one will care if you say it, and some people will even laugh at you. Because you are poor, it determines your position in people's hearts.

If nothing else, just look at the general wedding banquet. This is the first kind, and that kind is not respected and unsuccessful. Toasts don't start with the rich. "Don't believe it, but look at the wine table and respect the rich first." It hurts the poor, but it's true.

Some people may think that it doesn't matter if I am poor, as long as I am talented. By the way, if a person is talented, will he be poor? Although many people complain that modern society is unfair, modern society gives everyone enough room to play. As long as you are good at one thing, you will never be poor (except in special circumstances).

Put down the burden and have a rest. Literally, if you don't have that much strength, don't move such a heavy thing. In a deeper sense, it is how much ability you have and how much work you have undertaken. If you are an ordinary person and have no talent, can you be president? Don't bite off more than you can chew.

The last sentence; Don't ask relatives when you are in trouble, that is, don't ask relatives for help when you are in trouble. Because relatives give money to help you, they will be afraid that you will not pay him back, and you will feel hard if you don't help. Many relatives broke off contact because of borrowing money.

I am deeply touched by this. When I was a child, my brother was seriously ill and spent a lot of money. At that time, my father's sister, a colleague nurse, was too scared to come into my house for five years. My aunt's family was rich, and my father wanted to borrow some money. He stopped going when he saw this.

Finally, many of my father's friends sent money to tide over the difficulties themselves. Of course, menstruation's worry is justified. The debt owed by my family was not paid off until our brother grew up. It took five years to pay off, and we lost a lot of interest alone.

A few years later, although my aunt went back to her family several times, I went to see her every year, and I always felt even worse when I saw her. As for my cousin, he lived in my house for several years when he was a child. He was embarrassed to see me and even avoided us. Now that we have entered middle age, we are more alienated, and the Chinese New Year is limited to walking around. Father sighed, this relative, if I don't have it, will come to an end.

Therefore, don't underestimate the wisdom of the ancients. In just four sentences, the world is exhausted and human feelings are warm and cold.

Don't talk when you are poor.

For example, your friend is terminally ill and you are poor. What can you say? Don't be afraid, you say, everyone will have such a day, right?

For example, your child is getting married and has no house. What can you say if you are poor? You said don't worry, wandering the streets is true love?

Refusing to face the reality is a poisonous chicken soup forced by poverty. The correct way is to cut the crap, roll up your sleeves and work hard.

I am very modest and don't persuade people.

This sentence is the highest wisdom in the workplace. Do what the leader tells you to do. Where is there so much nonsense?

Huawei used to have an example. A newcomer just came in and went to Wanyan Book to suggest company reform. Ren Boss replied: Please send it to a medical appraisal for mental illness.

Put down the burden and have a rest.

There is a saying in the Book of Changes: Virtue is thin and respected, wisdom is small and ambition is big, strength is small and heavy, and it is rarely inferior.

This tells everyone to be self-aware, not to aim too high, not to mention vegetarian meals.

Is it realistic for you to let a three-year-old child carry the refrigerator up three floors?

Now some bosses recruit a soldier with a monthly salary of 3,000 yuan, but expect Decathlon to do the work that millions of people can do. If you can't do it, blame the employees for not making progress. Who drank too much poisoned chicken soup?

Don't look for relatives in trouble.

This sentence is the basic function of modern civilized society.

In modern society, citizens should get basic protection. It is difficult to save, and the disease depends on it.

For example, when the flood comes, we hope to find our relatives to escape? What is the difference between that and the Republic of China? We count on the help of the people's soldiers and the government.

For example, when the epidemic comes, we expect to find relatives to take refuge? Wouldn't that expand the spread of the epidemic? Should be isolated at home, and believe in the government, should be cured.

Of course, the government is not omnipotent. But there are even fewer relatives. Everyone is under great pressure and their help is limited. They still have to rely mainly on themselves.