What are the customs when getting married in a dream of red mansions?

The ancients had many beautiful imaginations about marriage, for example, "We hope to fly in the sky, two birds will become one and grow together on the ground, two branches of a tree." This is an outward, two people can always be together; If two people love each other, then think, "If you don't leave, I will live and die together"; If two people have reached the point of talking about marriage, then I hope everyone can "hold your hand and grow old with your son."

Marriage is the most wonderful piece of music in life, because when you meet the person you like, you want to be husband and wife with each other and stay together forever. There are many customs of marriage management in A Dream of Red Mansions, so that everyone can know the part of marriage regulations and know the seriousness, seriousness and romance of "taking my name as your name".

? First, discuss marriage. Before the formal marriage, there will be an existing marriage negotiation process. Parents will ask matchmakers to recommend suitable families to unmarried children, because men and women in ancient times were less likely to fall in love freely. Generally speaking, it is "the life of parents, the words of matchmakers."

A Dream of Red Mansions embodies the process of discussing relatives. Among them, when Xiangyun was about 13 years old, historians began to discuss relatives for her because others had taken a fancy to her.

Baoqin's father even married Xiangyun when he was very young. Sun Shaozu invited the official media to wander around Jia's house, and finally decided to take Yingchun as his concubine.

When Aunt Xue saw that Xing Xiuyan was good in Jiafu, she wanted her to be Xue Pan's wife. Aunt Xue asked Jia to be the matchmaker, and finally finalized the marriage between Xue Pan and Xing Xiuyan, but they were only engaged.

Second, perform six rites and start the process of getting married. If the two families have negotiated marriage, then they can go through the marriage formalities.

Asking the name means that the man's family asks someone to ask the woman's name, ranking and date of birth. In fact, these news were known as early as when discussing relatives. This time is a certain process. The names of girls in ancient times are very important, among which women like Jia family generally only have surnames but no names, which is also the reason why names cannot be easily displayed.

Najib, this is the etiquette that the man tells the woman his name and the broken character after asking his name, and presents gifts to start the engagement. After Xue Pan took a fancy to Xia Jingui and decided to get married, these things began. Najib, this custom has existed since ancient times, and now it is also highly valued in the family, mainly to let the two children live a harmonious and beautiful life in the future.

Expropriation means that the man goes to the woman's house to send a dowry. Baochai and Wang Xifeng once talked about the process of sending bride price.

When Baochai joked with Xing Xiuyan, she said that when Xing Xiuyan officially married into their family, there were still several boxes of ornaments like Yu Pei, so there was nothing to show off. Wang Xifeng once said that once Baoyu and Daiyu were married, the dowry and dowry between them were all made up by the grandmother herself, and there was no need to use the money of the Jia family.

Invitation, that is, the man chooses an auspicious day, writes down the names of his two children on red paper, and asks the matchmaker to send them to the woman's house to discuss the wedding date with her elders. Yingchun was the first girl to get married in the Grand View Garden, and her wedding was decided by her father Jia She. Sun Shaozu was in a hurry, and her wedding didn't go well, so she got married in a hurry.

Kissing, the man officially went to the woman's house to marry the bride home. After this process, the woman bid farewell to her parents, followed the man to their home and finally got married.

Third, get married and formally get married. If two people really decide to get married, then the last step is for them to meet the bride and get married with everyone's attention. When the woman goes to the man's house, she needs to make three big gifts, namely, "worship heaven and earth, parents and husband and wife", and the master of ceremonies talks about "ceremony". Then the man and the woman officially become husband and wife, which is the last step of the wedding.

For girls, marriage is the most important event in life. Because from now on, she will go to live with her husband's family from her family. She is not a young lady at home, but a young lady at her husband's house. After that, her husband's family became the main focus of her life. She needs to wait on her in-laws, take care of her husband and children, and do housework. These are all things that she should do well.

However, despite these responsibilities, she also has a good place, because from now on, she has someone who can accompany her, not asking for two people to last forever, but to love each other. Life has changed because of him, but it can also harvest another kind of happiness.

Generally speaking, although the custom of marriage is complicated, it is the most important sense of ceremony in life, which makes the two married people know the meaning of "taking my name as your name". Marriage is not a child's play, but a promise to each other. From now on, you and I are husband and wife, and that is the person who will be together for life.

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