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What should I do if my in-laws are conservative and feudal?

In-laws' views are very different from ours. It is impossible to really change their minds and keep them in line with us! I suggest that you are still in the second trimester, don't worry too much, have a good rest and let yourself have a healthier body. Let them take care of the children for a while. If your in-laws are people who can listen to other people's opinions, tell them your opinion. It's just that the method is different, and it won't have much impact on children for the time being. If you want to take him in the future, bring it yourself!

The most difficult thing to deal with between in-laws is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Let's talk about how to get along with my mother-in-law.

1, make out with your mother-in-law. Don't participate in things outside the small family, try not to express your opinions, and be respectful and filial to your mother-in-law.

As a daughter-in-law, you must know your identity: a daughter-in-law, not a daughter, so don't think that your mother-in-law treats you as a daughter, just like we usually meet. People tell you that they feel the same way about you, and they just feel the same way, and they can never be the same as the parties. My mother-in-law treats you as a daughter, not as a daughter. Similarly, when you say treat her as a mother, you just treat her as a mother, but she is not. There is a big difference.

3, there is a mother-in-law present, don't have any language and behavior that belittles your husband. Her son was born to her mother-in-law. In her eyes, her son is better. If you belittle him in front of her, you are directly against her.

Take care of her mother-in-law's preferences as much as possible in daily life, because she is old and many things are difficult to change, so she should learn to be filial.

When you encounter problems, your husband and wife will definitely fail to negotiate. If you think hard and feel that you are really right, you can ask your mother-in-law for advice as a friend. Over time, your mother-in-law will become your ally.

6. When it comes to your small family, you should have your own bottom line and principles. Don't stand up for things beyond the bottom line and principles, and persuade your husband to stand up and communicate with her mother-in-law. For example, your mother-in-law says you want to do this, but her practice is beyond your bottom line, so don't rush to answer. You should discuss with your husband and ask him to tell your mother-in-law what his opinion is (his opinion is higher than your bottom line), and then you come forward to show that your practice is actually a compromise, and your mother-in-law will think that you understand the righteousness deeply.