Now the four attributes of family education are

Kindness, enlightenment, life, complexity. The first is "please". This kind of parents want their children to be happy, but they don't want their children to have negative emotions. They think it is normal to satisfy their children, and it is easy for them to meet their needs when they grow up naturally and sensibly. Everything is child-centered. When their children are angry, parents will try their best to make them happy. In this way, children's needs are getting higher and higher, and the concept that children have no boundaries will become more and more willful, taking what they get for granted.

When the child makes a request, the mother will also ask: "It is right to do well in the exam. Why should we reward it?" But when the child has a stronger desire to express, she will also satisfy the child without understanding the motivation behind the child's needs.

The second is "preaching". This kind of parents hope that their children's behavior conforms to the social code of conduct, hope that their children will succeed and think that their children should do well. They have a strict code of conduct. When children's behavior doesn't conform to theirs, they will say what they think is right They tend to pay more attention to the outcome of things than to the children's emotions. As a result, children may not be recognized and affirmed and lack self-confidence; Opposition and anger between parents and children are easy to occur, which will affect the development of parent-child relationship in a worse direction.

Sometimes, the wife's husband tends to this type. He believes that children "should study hard" and will be severely criticized when they do something wrong. He also failed to appreciate and affirm what the children did well, pay attention to their emotions and help them build their confidence.

The third is "indifference". This kind of parents hold the idea of "everything goes with the flow". Although they love their children in their hearts, they think it is enough to know that their children are safe. They believe that it is useless to interfere in a world where children have children. Under the guidance of this idea, such parents often take a "no care, no interference" attitude towards their children's behaviors and emotions. As a result, children may not get correct guidance, feel insecure and don't know how to communicate with the outside world. They may also become aggressive or have symptoms of autism.

The fourth is "corporal punishment". This kind of parents think that "children will not succeed without struggle", and parents must have the authority of their parents. When children have negative emotions or behaviors that do not meet their own standards, they will be reprimanded or even beaten. In this way, their self-esteem may be frustrated, their self-confidence is seriously insufficient, they often feel humiliated and worthless, and even have a tendency to self-abuse or violence.