About Mutual Modesty Throughout history, some classic examples of modesty.

The most classic is the story of Lin Xiangru and Lian Po. As a traditional Chinese virtue, humility seems to be increasingly questioned in modern society where competition is the order of the day. Those in favor of modesty say, "Modesty and forbearance are not only good cultivation but also great wisdom." Those who are against modesty say, "Modesty has long been outdated. The weak are the strong, and competition is the right thing to do." However, there is no denying that things like humility seem to be very rare around you and me. Whether it is riding in a car, shopping, queuing up, buying tickets, or cooperating and getting along with others, prioritizing one's personal interests is not only human nature, but also a survival instinct inspired by real life. Liang Shiqiu once wrote in an article: "When I was a child, I read the story of Kong Rong's concession of the pear, and I felt that it was really rare and honorable, and I was ashamed to be inferior to him. Some people thought that Kong Rong had a bad stomach and was afraid of eating cold food, so he was happy to give up the pear. I don't dare to speculate. But we have to admit, the place of profit, can make people forget, humility is not an easy thing. The story of Kong Rong letting the pear, carry forward, there is indeed educational value, but unfortunately did not happen much practical effect: today's Kong Rong, and not much." Is modesty really outdated? Of course not. Humility is a kind of bosom, a kind of virtue, a kind of style, a kind of wisdom, but also a kind of cultivation. We need the spirit of humility, this era also calls for the spirit of humility, today, humility is not out of date.

During the Qing Dynasty, a large family wanted to build a courtyard wall to separate themselves from their neighbors. There was a serious conflict between the two families over the location of the wall foundation. Although the big family is rich and powerful but not as prosperous as the neighbor's children and grandchildren and suffered a loss of face, deep sense of loss of face, immediately in the capital as a senior official's son to write a letter, detailing the troubles at home, asking his son to return to his hometown to think of ways to rectify the neighbors, for the family to regain face. This high official in Beijing saw the letter quickly returned home an urgent letter, the letter explains the reasoning of distant relatives worse than close neighbors, and at the end of the letter wrote four sentences: "Thousands of miles to send a letter just for the wall, let him three feet of no harm. The Great Wall of China still exists today, but not when Qin Shi Huang." After seeing the letter, the big family was y educated, and quickly repaired with the neighboring family, and decided not to build a wall between the two families, and never to separate their hearts! As the saying goes, "One step back and the sky is the limit", humility is not a disadvantage, it is to give yourself room for error

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