What is the biggest "problem" for the elderly?

The biggest problem for the elderly is not that they are deaf and blind, that their legs and feet are inconvenient, that they are not itchy here, that they are not dull, and that they cannot make many contributions to the family and society like young people.

All of the above are understandable by young people and acceptable to society.

The biggest' mistake' of the elderly that young people can't understand and accept:

First, relying on my rich experience and life experience, I like to mind my own "meddling" and interfere with the normal life of young people. Many old people have a strong sense of responsibility all their lives and love to worry. Once they are old and their children grow up and can stand on their own feet, the "inertia" they developed as children still can't converge, and they are always worried about this and that. From work to trivial matters of life, from family to society, from children to grandchildren, everything has to be taken care of, which has caused a lot of resentment and complaints among young people.

Not long ago, my 40-year-old son visited me for this matter.

Here's the thing. A few years ago, my son and daughter-in-law bought two expensive pianos, one in my house and the other in their house (because my granddaughter sometimes lives in my house and sometimes in his house) to ensure that her granddaughter can keep practicing piano every day. After New Year's Day this year, my granddaughter got the Grade 10 certificate of China Amateur Piano Test and the Grade 8 certificate of Britain's highest level. In view of the fact that children can't be forced to practice piano regularly in the future, I suggested to my son several times to sell a piano. The son's answer is very direct: "What do you care about this? We still don't know what to do? " ! "

I'm not angry with his answer, but I think what he said is reasonable. My son and daughter-in-law have reached the age of no doubt, and people will handle this matter correctly. I really care too much.

The second is to sell the old with the old, and to oppress people with the old easily and carry out moral "kidnapping". The first way of communication between people is to reason and convince people by reasoning. Many old people are reasonable when they are young, and often use facts to convince others. They also tend to be persuasive and communicate with people in simple terms; They are always good at following well-founded statements and dare to admit their mistakes or shortcomings. But when they are old, they often stick to their own opinions, don't listen to different opinions, and use their elders' status to subdue the younger generation. Especially in family life and treating their children. It annoys young people and even dares to be angry and dare not speak.

The third is to relax the demands on yourself, not pay attention to behavior and disrespect for the elderly. Nowadays, most elderly people grow up in a difficult living environment. In them, many virtues and glorious traditions of the Chinese nation, such as self-improvement, hard work and simplicity, courage to contribute and hard work, are maintained, which are always worth learning and emulating by the younger generation.

However, it is undeniable that due to historical limitations, the accumulation, renewal and improvement of cultural knowledge, and the acceleration of urbanization, many rural elderly people have entered cities, and the rapid development of science and technology and the great progress of society have made the old people's backward ideological concepts, moral concepts and behavior habits very obvious. There are a few old people who lack civilized quality and behave rudely, which is incompatible with the humanistic relationship in modern cities. Every time the media exposes some disrespectful phenomena of the elderly, it is condemned by the world. Such a "black sheep" has greatly damaged the image of the elderly in people's minds.

Although everyone gets old sometimes, I firmly believe that every generation of old people will be better and more perfect than their elders, although they will never meet the hopes and demands of young people.

Finally, I want to say that the elderly should have self-knowledge, consciously restrain their words and deeds, correct their mistakes when they know them, and don't artificially add unnecessary trouble to the already stressed young people.

My mother is 85 years old, and my father just died. The age difference is 90 years 19 days. I'm afraid my mother will be lonely, so she will accompany me during the day. I didn't see that she had become an old child, willful, arrogant and stubborn, and refused to listen to my persuasion. When chatting with her, I always struggle.

Once I quarreled with my mother, I got angry and left. I met a girl in the alley and asked me, how is the old lady? I cried and said, alas! My sister advised me that after 80 years old, I would do whatever I want, regardless of the consequences. I looked at her in surprise and didn't speak for a long time.

As soon as these words came out, they revealed the characteristics and laws of the elderly's personality. My mother can take care of herself, go out for a walk occasionally, and sometimes she is in poor health and insists on walking. She said, "If I don't exercise, my health will be ruined." She has cardiovascular and cerebrovascular diseases and should not be overactive.

Tired from exercise, I get angry when I go home. Of course, there are a few unhappy things at home. ) She is ill in hospital these days. I can see that she is very upset and always impatient. I hired a nurse to help her. My mother said that she could do anything by herself without a nurse. I was afraid that she would fall, so I asked the nurse to follow her. Because of worry!

What is the biggest problem for the elderly? Director Xu always treats me like a child: no, it won't be like this. I don't think I can express my feelings. Be especially polite to outsiders and always feel dissatisfied or unhappy with the people around you. Are old people like this? I really don't know?

What are the old people around netizens like?

Old man, this is a difficult hurdle to cross!

People with many physical problems are undoubtedly difficult! There is a saying: the patient is a bad doctor. A sick person is in a bad mood and easily loses his temper. He often loses his temper with nurses, doctors and family members who take care of him.

The old man is particularly repetitive and makes people very tired!

Old people love to talk empty talk and mind their own business! He is old, weak, poor in hearing, poor in memory and poor in eyesight, but he also talks about young people on the other hand, accusing them of this and that, which is particularly disgusting and endless. Such an old man is the most disgusting. I feel deeply about this, because I have the above problems myself, but my relatives or my students, out of respect for me, don't accuse me face to face, they save face for me!

But from other people's speeches and young people's accusations against people with the above problems, I deeply feel this.

Most old people are wrong. Because of the face problem, few people will admit their mistakes in front of young people, so the gap between young people and old people is getting bigger and bigger. Many young people are unwilling to live with old people, especially the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very tense.

Although the elderly have a lot of experience, most of the past experience is too late. There are not many elderly people with knowledge and education, and there are many illiterate people over 80 years old, which makes it difficult to adapt to the development of the new situation.

But because most old people have suffered a lot when they were young, most of them are simple and frugal. They hate people's living habits now and don't like the food, clothing, housing and transportation of the younger generation. Some accuse young people face to face, which also leads to family conflicts.

If the country can open some special places for the elderly to study and play, for the elderly to relax, let the elderly accept some new things and gradually adapt to the new life! The effect may be better.