Teach you how to meet people.

It is a wise myth that a generation seeks the sage Zhuge Liang and strategizes. Whether marching for war or dealing with state affairs, he will use a lot of talents. Therefore, in his political career for many years, he has already formed his own method of knowing people.

In the article "Knowing People and Commenting on the World", he formally put forward his own views: "On the one hand, ask him right and wrong and watch his ambition; Second, the poor observe their changes through arguments; Thirdly, the consultant looks at his knowledge with the consultant's eyes; Fourth, tell it's difficult and watch it's brave; 5. When you are drunk, you can see your sex with wine; Sixth, look at the benefits and see its sincerity; On the seventh day, I read the letter by the matter. "

In short, it is an all-round investigation from the seven aspects of the other party's "ambition, change, knowledge, courage, sex, sincerity and trust", which can be said to be all-encompassing.

Ask them right or wrong, and see their ambitions.

Zhuangzi? There is a saying in the Theory of Everything: "He is also right and wrong, and this is also right and wrong." People and I have our own right and wrong, and our views on the world are always different.

A person who has no ambition is either mediocre or pushed down by everyone. Such people can't form their own views on the world, they can only speak like others, and even talk nonsense when they meet people. So, ask a person's view of right and wrong, and you can see his ambition. The firmer your attitude towards right and wrong, the greater your ambition.

The poor argue with words to see their changes.

"Change" refers to adaptability. If you want to know a person, you should talk to him more. Drive him to the point where his words are poor and see how he responds. Zhuge Liang believes that an eloquent speaker must have a flexible mind and quick thinking.

People with inner persistence, although their arguments are complicated, will never leave their sect. Little people with no bottom line, although they speak in a variety of ways, are empty and boring.

Consult a lawyer and check the knowledge.

"Knowledge" refers to knowledge. Temporary countermeasures can show a person's knowledge level. No matter how kind and noble a person is, if he can't do anything, he is only a person who is harmless to society after all. People who contribute to society must be people who can make suggestions for improving society and improving the environment around them.

But we should carefully distinguish who is the real intellectual and who is just an armchair strategist. A person's actual experience is much more, and his views are easy to hit the nail on the head, which is called being knowledgeable; If it's just a nerd, their ideas, though unconstrained, are useless, and that's an armchair strategist.

Tell it's difficult and watch it's brave.

When encountering difficult things, this is the time to test each other's courage.

People who have no courage complain in the face of difficulties and don't know how to solve them. A truly brave person can often combine rigidity with softness, face difficulties and solve problems with twists and turns.

See the essence of drunkenness by drinking.

People's nature is often hidden deeply. We can open each other's hearts with wine and let him pour out his true self.

Vulgar people talk nonsense after drinking, even get as drunk as a fiddler, and the scene is embarrassing. People who can exercise self-restraint sometimes express their deep feelings at this time, or talk about ideals or setbacks. Therefore, Bole, who knows people, should examine people's personality on the wine table.

Use it and observe its honesty.

Observing the other party's attitude towards interests, we can see his moral integrity. People with virtue will never enjoy ill-gotten gains. There is a cloud in Mencius: "Being unjust and rich is like a cloud to me." Ill-gotten wealth, no matter how big, can't escape an empty day after all.

On the contrary, if you get a hard profit from your honest ethics, you can enjoy it for a long time, even though it is small.

Look at this letter from the perspective of things.

When asking the other party to do something, you can also observe whether the other party can do it as promised.

Chao Shuo has a famous saying: "If you don't believe it, you won't stand." Whether a person can stand firm in society depends on whether he can keep his promise.

If a person can't do what he promised, he will sincerely apologize to others, and sometimes even recommend someone who can do good. Although he broke his word this time, it shows his quality.

The social network in modern society is developed, and everyone has to face many strangers every day. Therefore, although Zhuge Liang's method of knowing people has been put forward for more than a thousand years, it is still of great significance to modern society.

Making good friends and appointing suitable talents is of great benefit to our life and work.

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