Attention Family Management Approaches for Parents, Selected Chapters Series IV: Coping with ADHD

Family Management Core Idea #2: Your Child is Not Your Child

As parents, we need to respect the free will of our children, not to conceptualize their future with the limitations of ourselves and our talents; not to control them in the name of love; not to make decisions for them against their will under the banner of "for your own good"; and not to treat them as their subordinates, as their own personal fulfillment.

Therefore, parents and friends need to pay attention to the following two points when communicating with their children:

If it is illegal, affecting the life of the irreparable wall, we may need to help the child out of danger; but if it is harmless, the child can learn from the wall after the wall, the wall in time to remedy, we may be a little later, slower to interfere.

Some parents see their children out of the problem, they can not wait to act as a "judge", to the child to point fingers, or a face to face a criticism of accusations, and even say words with a sense of ridicule, "who let you do not listen to me, something happened to it". In fact, this is very dangerous, because after the problem of the child has been frustrated, in addition to further aggravate the child's frustration, hurt the child's self-esteem, affecting the relationship between parents and children, the child's growth will not be helpful.

More intelligent parents, their approach is:

1. pull the child to the side, ask the child's feelings about the failure, and when appropriate to give comfort;

2. listen to the child's views on the failure,

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(Understanding the inner needs of the child, and always with the sole purpose of defending his legal rights )

From the maintenance of the child's self-esteem and confidence and the fundamental interests of the child, and effectively according to the needs of the child to provide assistance,

so as to promote the growth of the child, to enhance the child's ability to solve problems,

The child is not the only one, but he is also the only one who has a good understanding of the situation. The first thing you need to do is to get a good understanding of what you are doing and how you are doing it.

So what can we parents do to help our children on their journey to becoming their own person?

Please believe that your child's future has infinite possibilities, and that every possibility can lead to a great life!

Please believe in the infinite possibilities of your child's future.