What was the original intention of the ancient bridal chamber?

The ancients made trouble in the bridal chamber, took the meaning of exorcism, lived in harmony with the newcomers, and expressed the wishes of the guests. As long as the words and deeds are not out of line, properly "making a scene" and playing some humorous and interesting games can add festive elements to the wedding and make the couple memorable, which is the icing on the cake. There is a saying that "three days after marriage is no big deal", which means that within three days after marriage, neighbors, guests, relatives and friends, regardless of rank, men, women and children, can gather in the new house to tease the bride and groom, which means "the more noisy, the happier".

However, in recent years, the custom of taking marriage as fun and celebrating it has changed, and even evolved into a "vulgar game" out of control. Some vulgar marriage-seeking events frequently appear in major media. For example, the groom was sprayed with a water gun, threw eggs, splashed with ink and beaten with a bamboo stick. The bridesmaid and bride were even ridiculed as "no lower limit". Marriage is a icing on the cake and an interesting thing. It should be based on making both parties feel comfortable and happy. Any "crossing the line" behavior is inappropriate. No matter how few bad marriages violate social public order and good customs, or even touch the legal bottom line, as long as the behavior makes the troubled party feel uncomfortable, it should be stopped and corrected in time.

Married people are righteous, bystanders are clear, and married people submit to humiliation. Most marital quarrels occur in remote rural areas and underdeveloped areas, and some guests have low educational level and cultural level. They regard vulgarity as fun, farce as comedy, and crossing the line is common. Most other guests will also have a "watching the excitement" mentality, watching and even participating in the wedding behavior. Most of the bullied newlyweds and bridesmaids will choose to submit to humiliation based on the psychology of "don't ruin wedding date" and the human feelings of "all relatives and friends", and will not investigate and stop the "cross-line" marriage.

In 20 18, the Ministry of Civil Affairs proposed to comprehensively promote the reform of marriage customs and advocate simple and appropriate marriage customs and etiquette. In July this year, the Decision of the Central Committee of the State Council on Optimizing the Birth Policy and Promoting the Long-term Balanced Development of the Population was officially announced, proposing to get rid of stereotypes such as sky-high bride price and build a new marriage and childbearing culture. The Ministry of Civil Affairs will actively promote all localities to take opposing sky-high bride price, vulgar marriage, resisting extravagance and waste, and doing big things as important contents of village rules and residents' conventions, give full play to the role of mass self-governing organizations such as urban and rural community red and white councils, and strengthen the compliance and implementation of village rules and residents' conventions.