Boys can't be "sissies" and girls don't want "tomboys"? Gender prejudice hinders children's development. Why?

Yue Yue is a 10-year-old girl, but her parents are quite envious of the little girl of her daughter's age. She likes wearing beautiful flowered skirts, singing children's songs and reading fairy tales. She looks cute. Because the word "cute" has nothing to do with Yue Yue.

Today, Yue Yue clamored to go out to play as soon as he got up. She wore short-sleeved shorts and pigtails, barefoot and went fishing in the river with a group of little boys. By the way, she climbed the persimmon tree in the yard yesterday and picked back some hard persimmons.

Watching her daughter come home dirty every day, her mother "dislikes" it: "Why can't you stay at home and read quietly like other girls and run around all day, and the little boy will be a little naughty. What is a girl's family like? Just a tomboy! "

Usually in people's gender stereotypes, boys are naughty and girls are quiet. If a boy is quiet, gentle and timid, it is estimated that he will be called "sissy"; If a girl is careless, fearless and mischievous, she may be called a tomboy.

If parents raise their children according to gender stereotypes, boys must be "men", so they are forced to exercise; Girls must be clever and obedient, so forcing children to stay at home quietly will really delay their development.

0 1 Parents' Gender Stereotypes of Children

Psychological research believes that gender stereotypes in parenting will hinder children's free development.

Boys will be naughty and girls will be quiet?

In our impression, boys are generally naughty and girls are quiet. But everyone is different. It is impossible for everyone to have the same personality. Different personalities naturally have different ways to express their preferences, and there will also be "tomboys" and "sissies" in everyone's eyes. In fact, this is just our prejudice, just because children have different personalities, some are gentle and some are bold.

Many parents have this kind of inertia thinking. They always think that girls should not do what boys do, and conversely, boys can't do what girls do. Once the child does the opposite, parents will stop the child very severely.

In fact, this method is wrong. Parents should follow their inner thoughts when educating their children. Maybe that's his hobby, and we shouldn't have anything to do with the sex of the child.

If parents have a certain prejudice against their children's sex, it will also have a great impact on his future.

What effect does gender bias have on children?

Once at our classmate's party, while drinking, an old classmate suddenly burst into tears. He said: "everyone thinks I'm a sissy, but I'm just too soft." Can boys only swear? "

At this time, the classmate next to him comforted him and said, "It doesn't matter, everyone who knows you knows what kind of person you are, and you don't have to pay for other people's gossip."

That classmate cried again and said, "It's not someone else. My parents often say that I am not a man. " Then many students comforted him one after another, but I felt that no matter how comforted, there was no way to heal the pain brought by his parents.

In retrospect, many parents once had gender prejudice against their children when they were young. Everyone has been criticized by their parents: "Boys should look like boys. What do you look like in strange clothes? " "You are just a little girl who wears big underpants every day, not like a lady at all."

These parents always have gender prejudice against their children, and this prejudice will accompany their children for life. It often causes a lot of troubles to their hearts, so educating children should not be too rigid.

Every child has his own bright spots and hobbies, and we should cultivate him according to his characteristics.

Parents should break gender stereotypes and cultivate their children correctly.

Parents set an example and establish a correct division of labor for their children.

Many traditional families in China believe that girls should do laundry and cook, while boys can only earn money to support their families. This is obviously not the case in today's society. Women also need to go out to work to earn money to support their families, so naturally they can't just do housework after returning home. Therefore, parents should share housework equally at home and let children know that boys also need to share housework. If she is a girl, she can also ask her father to take her to do some sports that boys can do, such as playing football, basketball, toy pistols and so on.

Don't set limits for the child, let him try everything he wants to try.

Some parents think that boys should not play with dolls, so they don't buy them for him. And girls should not do some exciting sports, so they will always limit him. But this kind of education is not scientific. We can let children try these different sports according to their interests. Don't tell your child what you should do when he is young. You can let him choose what he wants to do according to his own preferences.

Encourage children to read more books and find themselves in books.

"Books are the ladder of human progress." Gorky's words tell us that reading more books can promote our progress. In the process of educating children, children are also free to choose the books they want to read. Don't dictate to him, "What should a boy read? What should girls read? " As long as he is encouraged to choose his favorite books bravely, children will find different themselves in the process of reading.

Now that the times are progressing, so should our thinking. Don't use the traditional concept of "men are superior to women" to educate children, and let children freely discover their interests is the best way to cultivate.