Five pieces of advice from the women in The Walled City

Many people like to use a phrase to comment on Mr. Qian Zhongshu's Siege of the City - at first reading, I don't know the meaning of the text, and then I read it again, I am already a man in the city. The sentence in Siege of the City: "Those who are surrounded in the city want to escape,

those outside the city want to rush in,

for marriage too, career too,

most of life's aspirations." Almost a household quote.

It doesn't take a lot of words to describe how hot the book was. In 1990, Huang Shuqin put this novel on the screen, if you can't be quiet to see the original, then you can also look at the TV series adapted from the novel of the same name, each character in the play is very close to the original, each plot is also very careful, but if you want to really get into the world of the book, the original is forced to look at.

The first reading of the "Siege" many people will sigh the book protagonist Fang Hongzhi's life, but what I want to say today is the "Siege" in the women, Mr. Qian Zhongshu "Siege" in the description of each woman's appearance is not much, but no matter whether it is a famous name or Mrs. x x x are portrayed very full.

A Su Wen Duan

A woman can be vain, but don't build her vanity on a man.

Su Wenlian is the most educated woman in Siege, and the book describes her as: a woman who wears sunglasses and has a novel spread out on her body, and her clothes are extremely elegant. Her skin is white among Oriental people, but unfortunately, this white color is not fresh, with some dryness. She removed the dark glasses, the eyebrow is clear, only the lips are too thin, lipstick is not rich enough. If she stood up from the canvas recliner, she would look thin, and perhaps the lines of her silhouette would be too hard, like those of a square-tipped fountain pen.

This description brings out the arrogance and conceit of Su Wenlan. It is true that the condition of a single female doctorate is enough for her to be proud of herself, coupled with her family's wealth, it is more so that her eyes grow on the top of her head, however, her surface is high and proud as a lotus flower, but inwardly she is a vain willow branch, her vanity comes from the men's pursuit, and she intentionally set up a banquet to see Zhao Xinzhi and Fang Hongzhuan for their own jealousy of the drama, if not for that letter of apology, she thought that all the world's people were in the same place, so that they would not be able to see her, and she would not be able to see her. If not for Fang Hongguan's letter of apology, she thought all the men in the world could be played by her, and eventually she married Cao Yuanlang to satisfy her own vanity, who was "determined not to get married at the age of fifteen, but when he met her, his outlook on life was just like that of a Japanese house in the middle of a major earthquake".

Su Wenlan thought she was a winner, but she was just a companion to the man's facade, a companion to his own vanity.

If Su Wendi had just relied on her diploma, she could have made a living anywhere, and her accomplishments would have been far more rewarding than marrying Cao Yuanlang.

Second Miss Bao

You can use beauty as your stepping stone, but don't use it as your ultimate weapon.

The description of Miss Bao, the most accurate than that "partial truth", the reason why Miss Bao in Su WenDan behind the writing, is to and Su WenDan contrast, Miss Bao does not have Su WenDan's family as the family power, she did not have the opportunity to go to study abroad, but she used their own beauty to make the "bald fiancé", the "bald fiancé". But she used her beauty to make her "bald fiancé" willingly send himself abroad for further study. And Su WenDan than, she is shrewd, but she put all the chips are pressed in their beauty above, although is in the foreign study of the nursing profession, but her words are full of wind and snow, clothing is out of place, especially exposed.

That's why the men will flirt with her is "partial truth, cooked meat store", lost the connotation of beauty, is just "cooked meat store", people will be greedy, but the end will not have half respect for her.

Three Tang Xiaofu

You can be pure and flawless, but also to be clear that "the water is clear, there is no fish", who have the past, but the past is not important, it is important to be able to "out of the mud without dyeing".

Many people say that Tang Xiaofu is the author's favorite character, so the book's description of her only to break up with Fang Hongguan. Undoubtedly, Tang Xiaofu is a clear stream in the "Siege", she fell in love with Fang Hongjian, but also because Fang Hongjian has the same simplicity as her, the author's description of her is like this "her hair did not burn, eyebrows do not tweeze, lipstick has not been rubbed, seems to be at ease to abide by the innate limitations of the stops, do not make up for the defects of the creation." A simple description that could make countless people yearn for her. But this is not different from the kind of yearning for "Ms. Bao", seeing her, most of us will produce "hold in the hand for fear of breaking, in the mouth for fear of melting" cherish. She is a piece of flawless jade in "Siege", she said: "The person I love, I want to be able to occupy his whole life, before he meets me, there is no past, leaving a blank waiting for me--" However, there are few people like this in the world, perhaps in "Siege", Fang Honggeng is the only person who meets her requirements. Perhaps Fang Honggeng is the only person who meets her requirements, but her requirements are too high, where can there be true flawlessness? It's not easy to be able to do that in life.

So we should always try to accept the other side of the imperfections, so as to be able to long.

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It's good to be independent, and it's good to be opinionated, but please don't be too strong and let your opinion be thorny.

I believe that many people hate Sun Roujia in "The Walled City", she has a heart of gold and is good at disguise, but she is one of the few women in "The Walled City" who is opinionated and independent.

First of all, in choosing a spouse, she knew her own nature, and she also figured out Fang Hongguan's nature, she knew Fang Hongguan's indecisiveness and his incompetence, but she also figured out the little bit of simplicity he had left, and she guided Fang Hongguan until Fang Hongguan married her, which is why Zhao Xingfang said, "Ms. Sun is just like the whale that opens its mouth, and you're the one that's confused! (Fang Hongguan) is like the boat that was sent to the door."

Secondly, in front of her elders, she was clear about her parents' lack of attention to her, so she chose to stay away from her parents and go to the mainland to teach instead of trying to please her own parents, and so her marriage was one of the few marriages that she made her own decisions in "The Siege". Imagine if she had worked hard to please her parents, then her marriage would have been a victim of pleasing her parents.

Even after her marriage, she is independent, and she is the only woman in The Walled City to achieve financial freedom.

As a matter of fact, such a character would have been admirable in her time, much less inviting. But she had too many thorns in her side, and her words were always offensive. Fang Hongguan's relatives and friends, as well as his lover, were all attacked by her language, and she said Su Wenlan was "the daughter of a young wife, too cheap". She even said, "(Fang Hongjian) you and your father's mind are antiques from thousands of years ago", and she always mocked Fang Hongjian as Zhao Xinmei's dog. There are countless thorns mixed between her words, and she stabs the very husband she has coaxed by all means.

So even if she is independent and opinionated, she is still annoying, and no one likes a person with a mouth full of thorns.

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There is no such thing as a couple being "bullied" by anyone, and there is no need for an "outsider" in a small family to do justice.

The author describes her very little, she is more behind Sun Roujia, like a "shield" with thorns, "protecting" Sun Roujia, but the main reason for the conflict between Sun Fang and his wife is also her, she will always give Sun Roujia instilled with "

The first time I've ever seen a man in my life, I've seen a man in my life, I've seen a man in my life.

The real relationship between husband and wife is equal cooperation, is for each other's sake, not as a "child" in charge of each other, to show their superiority. Sun Roujia aunt in this small family, even if seldom appear, but has a high position, as if a harmonious family out of nowhere more eccentric judge, in order not to let their "dereliction of duty", she always have a reason to judge one of the parties. The result is that the more the trial is more and more chaotic, until the tragedy arose.

After reading this book, you will realize that you are already in the "walled city", you are a certain type of people in the walled city, but it does not matter, when you try to have spiritual and economic independence, plus a soft and resolute heart, then, no matter whether you are in the city or in the city, we will have a good life.