What are the marriage customs in Qiqihar, Heilongjiang?

Boyfriend is Qiqihar, I am the South, we are both now working in Shanghai, recently decided to get married. Their family conditions in Qiqihar is not bad, I want to understand, Qiqihar this side of the marriage some of the customs rules? For example, how much is the change of name fee for the man to the woman, and how much for the woman to the man. What is the bride price and so on. There are a lot of rules on our side of the family, and I'm worried that the customs of the two places are different, which may cause both parties to be unhappy about this. So I want to know beforehand. The more detailed the better thank you question to add: we discussed is in the two people's hometowns to hold a banquet, respectively invited their local friends and relatives. The money for the banquet on our side of the family is my wife out of the money? Because the price of housing in Shanghai is very high, their family bought us a house, there is not much left. We can understand that. What my boyfriend means is that the banquet will be paid for by whichever party is held, and the gift money will go to whichever party is held. I didn't ask for any wedding jewelry, just a plain ring. I didn't ask for any clothes or dowry. They didn't send gifts to our house even once during the holidays. It's just because my parents understand that it's inconvenient for them to be so far away from our home. Is there something wrong with me? My parents raised me so well, I'm not unwanted, I should have nothing in my life if I get married, and I have to pay for the banquet? His mom asked me how much I wanted for the change of address fee. According to the custom in Qiqihar, how much is usually given? Must buy a ring for the bride, not when you propose a ring, is the wedding ceremony when the bride in front of friends and family to wear the ring Oh. And there are families where the mother of the man to the woman to buy a ring or earrings and necklaces and so on, which is not necessarily, depending on your own ability or whether it is necessary, of course, buy the words, in front of the guests seems to be very dignified ~ ~ otz .... There is also the male family will give the future daughter-in-law to prepare new clothes, specifically how many sets do not remember ~ this also has a reason, the general old man, then there will be a book or something to record the usual home red and white or children's school to do the table to receive the amount of gifts and gifts to people, of course, their own family gifts out of the record, the so-called gifts to each other well ~. Like my mother has such a book, is also based on this book to determine the next time someone else's family has what needs to be with the gift of things when their own family to pay how much, but also to see their own family last with the gift out of their own family this time when there is something is not to receive back, generally follow this book to invite guests. It seems to be very important. So the money received by both parents' guests is not for the newcomer. The above is my explanation, I am also based on my usual wedding or experience, I hope to help you. As a result of this, the actual wedding ceremony is going to be held at the same time as the wedding ceremony, and also the wedding ceremony is going to be held at the same time as the wedding ceremony, and also the wedding ceremony is going to be held at the same time as the wedding ceremony. It's not a big deal, is it? Even if we follow local customs and pay each other, what's the point? Are we selling you or him? It's a burden for you to worry too much. You said it's not easy for your parents to raise you. Getting married is like paying back the money that raised you? So what if you ask for hundreds of thousands of dollars? Are you going to stop supporting your parents? If you don't, you can ask for as much as you want, just don't go too far. But that's not true. You'll still have to support your parents when you get married, won't you? So don't use that as a reason to ask for money. And you're saying that you're not unwanted, so you feel bad about being with him, right? If you think so, I'll tell you you're wrong. What's so great about women? Men get tired of living with you in 10 days or so and want to be held by someone else. You still think you're a treasure? The worst thing is to delay you for a few years and see if you still want to pretend when you're old. So you remember, don't be too selfish; money is not necessary.