What influence does the family education model of "strict father loving mother" bring to children? have both pros and cons

"strict father's loving mother" is the traditional education model of China's family. Another way of saying it is "a good policeman and a bad policeman". In the process of educating children, fathers usually play a strict and inaccessible role, while mothers play a gentle, considerate and accommodating role.

So, what kind of influence will this family education model bring to children?

In the movie Nezha, Jing Li and Mrs Yin can be said to be a pair of loving mothers in strict father. Although both of them were very busy at work and were not at home for three days to defend Chen Tangguan, Mrs Yin was very gentle with Nezha.

Li Jing is a serious and strict father. Of course, he also loves his son deeply, but his personality makes him not good at expressing himself. Therefore, Nezha thinks that his father doesn't love himself, and although he is eager for his father's approval, he still shows the appearance of rebellion.

It was not until Nezha was heartbroken that he learned from Taiyi Zhenshan what Excavate had done for him that he knew that his father loved himself. It is also this opportunity to cheer him up.

1, the traditional family model of "the man is the master and the woman is the master"

The traditional family model in China is that the man is in charge of the family and the woman is in charge of the family. Men work hard outside and women do housework at home. This kind of family division of labor will naturally affect family members' getting along: fathers have high expectations for their children, but because of their busy work, they rarely study how to get along with their children, so their attitude is usually tough; Mothers spend more time with their children and often pay more attention to their emotions and state.

2. The influence of "male chauvinism"

Some dads have "baggage" and are embarrassed to "pull down their faces" to get close to their children. Because of their personality, they can't make intimate moves and say too considerate words to their children. So they look more serious, and when educating children, they often focus on criticism.

3. "strict father's loving mother" brings out the best in each other.

Parents should not only care about their children, but also not lose their authority. Strict father's loving mother model fits this feature. The mother's responsibility is to care and take care of all aspects of the child; The father is responsible for establishing a dignified image, educating his children with prestige and making them awe-inspiring.

The positive influence of "strict father loving mother" on children

1. Educate children and don't hurt them.

When "strict father" educates children, his posture is majestic and his tone is harsh, which seems a bit inhuman. After children are criticized and scolded, they will generally be hit, and they may think that their father doesn't like themselves. At this time, their mother's comfort and concern will make them feel much better and suffer much less harm.

2. Children know how to appease others.

In this family model, the father can let the child know where he is wrong and let the child realize the seriousness of the matter; Mother's comfort will calm children's emotions and soothe their hearts. These children can understand the bad situation and sadness of others and know how to appease others.

The negative influence of "strict father loving mother" on children

1, children tend to become "two-faced"

The model of "loving mother in strict father" may lead children to become two-faced, depending on the parents' faces. In front of their father, they are clever and obedient, thinking about getting away with it. After all, the other party is "not easy to provoke"; As for the mother's advice, these children will not take it to heart, and even blame their mothers for being "easy to talk" and talk back to their mothers.

2. Children are in a dilemma

Under this educational model, fathers are usually strict with their children, while mothers will directly express their distress and relax their requirements for their children. Parents require their children with different standards, which will make them in a dilemma, at a loss, not knowing who to listen to and falling into it.

3. Children are close to their mothers and alienated from their fathers.

Parents want their children to admire them, and it is best to be close to them. But the image of "strict father" is too deeply rooted in people's hearts. Children will feel alienated from their fathers. When they grow up, even if they know that the other person cares about themselves, they can't do anything intimate or say anything intimate. For a mother who has been gentle with herself since childhood, the children are not so restrained and intimate.

Influenced by western ideas, parents reflect on the traditional education model. Nowadays, many parents think that "making friends with children" is a better educational model. In this mode, couples can maintain consistent requirements and standards for their children and respect them. In this way, children will be close to their parents and respect them equally.

1, respect and listen to children's ideas.

Although children are young, they also have their own ideas and thoughts, even if they are whimsical and naive. When playing and communicating with children, parents may wish to ask their children what they think and let him know that their parents care about his views. At the same time, we should also give respect to children, and don't interrupt them easily. Even if they have different opinions, don't rush to blindly deny them.

2. Give children some freedom and choice.

In the traditional family model, parents are used to making plans for their children, whether it is important or trivial, such as getting married or buying clothes. In fact, in raising children, parents should adjust their mentality, learn to trust their children, and let them practice and experience appropriately. Give children freedom and choice appropriately, and children will become more and more independent, more and more opinionated, and thank their parents.

Step 3 make family rules

If you only know how to "make friends" with your child, then parents will easily lose their authority, causing the child to laugh and cry after making mistakes. In order to establish authority, parents need to formulate detailed family rules, abide by them with their children, and create a good family style. In this way, parents can also criticize and educate their children after they make mistakes. Making family rules should be rigorous and feasible; It is strict to obey the family rules.

4. Learn to empathize.

Children have different ways of thinking from adults. In order to get closer to children, parents need to learn to put themselves in their own shoes and think from their children's point of view. Parents' empathy also helps to educate children, and will let them know that parents understand themselves and educate themselves after thinking, rather than indiscriminate criticism.

Today's interactive topic: Is your home a model of "loving mother in strict father"? What do you think are the advantages and disadvantages of this model? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area!

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