Recognition of the ancient concept of love

Traditional Chinese culture is y influenced by Confucianism's "etiquette", and it is more subtle in expressing feelings, including love, so compared with modern times, it is faithful, introverted and subtle, not free and not autonomous, but also simple and timeless. Restricted by the ancient social class, the ancient love stories ended in tragedy; at the same time, the ancient marriage emphasized on the order of parents and the words of matchmakers, so the ancient Chinese love has nothing to do with marriage. In love and marriage, women suffered both physical and mental pain. In the eyes of the Chinese, love is often characterized by anxiety, sadness and despair. The long-standing confinement of Chinese women has made Chinese love poems sad and mournful. After the Tang Dynasty, more and more love poems expressed longing and disappointment, attachment and longing after parting. In the Song Dynasty, as the concept of rationalization deepened, there were more and more taboos against love between men and women, and foot-binding for women began to emerge at this time, with men and women not being intimate. Cheng Zhu's theory, such as "starvation is small, the loss of chastity is big" all kinds of chastity concepts, reflecting the "existence of heavenly reason, extinction of human nature". It has caused a certain degree of distortion in human psychology, dignity and freedom. It can be said that in feudal society, this is also considered a standard of abstinence.

The biggest difference between the ancient and modern concepts of love is that one emphasizes the results and the other emphasizes the process. Ancient love tragedy, generally caused by the feudal system, the author expresses his feelings at the same time also criticized the ruling class of the society at the time, which is also regarded as a kind of resistance; either is a common comedy, "but I wish people long, thousands of miles of *** Cain Juan," a marriage for life. So marriage at that time should be regarded as a carrier of love, there is no marriage facade, and then the great love will eventually be scorned, and for this love sacrificed in addition to honor, future happiness, and the possibility of losing their lives. The rulers wisely formulated various tortures to deal with the women who fell in love under the parapet of no marriage.