In real life, is it necessary to educate "Kong Rong to let pears"? Being positive is necessary.

Kong Rong Jean Pear is an example of children's education that we have always admired, but how should we interpret it today?

In ancient times, there was a child named Kong Rong. He is very smart, studious, quick-thinking and humorous, and everyone praises him as a child prodigy. At the age of four, he could recite many poems and poems, and he knew manners. His parents love him very much. One day, my father bought some pears and specially chose the biggest pear for Kong Rong. Kong Rong shook his head, but picked out the smallest pear and said, I am the youngest, so I should eat a small pear. Give your pear to my brother. Father was very surprised after hearing this and asked, Is that brother younger than you? Kong Rong said that my brother is younger than me and I should give it to him. Kong Rong let the story of pear spread quickly in Qufu, and it has been handed down all the time, which has become a good example for many parents to educate their children.

In our traditional education, we constantly encourage children to share their own things with others selflessly, and at the same time, we constantly warn children not to ask for things from others at will, nor to accept things from others at will. However, in the process of our traditional culture and education, it goes against children's nature, and children's nature cannot be judged by good and evil. In the process of our own growth, a big defect is that we are educated-others are more important than our needs. But how can a person who doesn't cherish himself learn to cherish others? How can a person who doesn't even feel important to himself perceive the importance of others? We interpret the concept of selflessness from a psychological point of view, of course, not to conflict with social morality. It is important that children learn to respect themselves, love themselves and be responsible for their actions in the process of educating their children. I think if children have this idea, they can show self-confidence and self-sufficiency in social activities and learn to respect all life around them.

There will always be such a situation: in public places or kindergartens, toys or beloved snacks that children are playing are taken away by other children; Friends at home brought their children as guests, and a plate of fruit was served. The baby looks big and small, hesitating. From the heart, as a parent, what do you want your child to do? When walking alone with your child, how will you educate your child when you encounter such an incident?

Should we always advocate the spirit of "pear making in Kong Rong"? What do children lose while learning humility? Let children learn the contradiction between "humility" and "safeguarding rights"? Welcome everyone to express their opinions and speak freely!

Out of date. People's moral standards and behavior norms should be adapted to the economic system. What people do and don't do, what is right and what is wrong, are actually determined by "economic status" and the overall level of social and economic development. Let pears, is the product of the feudal system, if it is capitalism now, it is time to grab pears.

I think it is right to teach children to let pears. But things are different, and we have to use different methods.

When the amount is small, it is very weak, and other children don't know what to do when they rob him. So I often lose things. Later, it was found that this was not possible at all, and such education was not good for children. This will only make him weaker. So my education on quantity is: if people don't attack me, I won't attack. If people attack me, I will attack. Not too soft.

I don't approve of advocating "Kong Rong lets pears" regardless of occasions and reasons.

Kong Rong made pears virtuous. If we emphasize this virtue blindly, we will lose many opportunities in many things because of this humility. If two people have the same results in the college entrance examination, only one place can be admitted. If we carry forward the virtue of humility at this time, the price we pay may be borne for life. Of course, we don't deny that a blessing in disguise is a blessing in disguise.

Especially in this competitive society, you can carry forward this spirit, but not everyone will do so. What is advocated now is grabbing, not letting!

However, at home, in front of the elderly, such virtues still need to be carried forward. Respect for the elderly and love for the young should be advocated at all times. From the closest point of view, when Chen was at her grandmother's house, the children of her relatives and neighbors were younger than her, and she was taught from an early age that her sister wanted her younger brother and sister, so she was never stingy with any toys younger than her. After she came back to me, she gave it to someone else when she was having fun on the playground several times. Afterwards, I asked her if she didn't want to play at that time, or did she think that people should let others play if they wanted to play? Her answer is that she still wants to play, but if others want to, let others play first and wait until others stop playing. I remember telling her at that time: "If this happens in the future, you should tell the child:" I haven't played enough, I'll give it to you when I'm done! "

This kind of education has been carried out many times, and some effects have been seen, such as fighting for building blocks in the Science and Technology Museum and Xinxin, and fighting for toys in IKEA. I asked the kindergarten teachers, and they all agreed that Chen is a good boy and never steals children's toys. I am worried about this kind of good behavior. It seems that the "no" education will continue. I don't advocate that she must steal from others. At least make sure that what you own is not taken away by others.

Maybe I am a narrow-minded parent. I teach my child to be moral and caring, and I want to teach her to protect herself!

Yang Guangming Zuo's:

Treat people well, there is a story of "Kong Rong let pears" in China, and there is a story of brothers sharing cakes abroad.

Treat people well, there is a story of "Kong Rong let pears" in China, and there is a story of brothers sharing cakes abroad. The story goes that two brothers had an argument over a cake, so they asked their mother to share a cake. My mother just gave a rule to supervise the implementation of the rule. The rule is: brother cuts, brother takes first.

I think these two methods are very enlightening and instructive.

In the education of "letting pears", people who let pears undoubtedly learned a very important psychological skill: fighting their own desires. However, the status of the transferee is uncertain. He may be humble enough to produce beneficial learning, or he may choose to accept it, thus keeping himself out of the educational process and even producing the opposite effect.

In the method of "dividing bread" to solve the problem, the education given to people is that a person eats less bread than others, and the responsibility lies only with himself. He has no reason to blame others. In the education of "letting pears go", it seems that people who eat small pears can publicly accuse others of not being modest. Is this education the result of complaining about others?

We have reason to ask: is it fair to let humble people suffer often? Whether Kong Rong can eat big pears depends on whether the transferee is sincere and humble. In real life, this unfair phenomenon is often the majority.

In my opinion, sometimes rules are more effective and powerful. It is often a simple rule that makes a mess orderly.

Yanjing beer:

Hehe, let me tell you something. I told my little fellow the story of "Kong Rong profited", and he listened carefully. After a day, he asked me, "Are you too old to eat a few pears?" Dizzy! !

However, I think children should know what modesty is and good virtues should be maintained. Children will know better than us: when to fight and when to give up. (I just don't argue! )

What is the essence of morality? Morality is the criterion for mediating the relationship between people. Why is there such a criterion? Because we have to mediate the gains and losses of interests.

Haha, what is the essence? It is something that mediates everyone's interests, just like the price of goods mediates the interests of buyers and sellers! Morality is a valuable thing! Then the times are different, and the prices of things are naturally different. Water used to be free, but now it costs money. The mobile phone used to cost 30 thousand, but now it costs 300 Liang. So is morality.

In fact, the essence of some things has never changed, just the understanding and expression of the essence!

Reflections on the Problem of "Kong Rong Concessions Pears".

The story of Kong Rong's pear release is an example of traditional moral education in China, which advocates a spirit of humility in the face of material interests. This spirit is undoubtedly noble and should be studied and spread all the time.

If a person lives only for himself, he can't live well, or even can't live, not only because of material shortage, but also because of material abundance. Because a person can't live independently in the world, if he wants to live well, he must have a cooperative relationship with others to create and enjoy wealth. In the process of cooperation, if everyone wants to do something for themselves, or contribute less, or enjoy more, then this kind of cooperation will be difficult to carry on, or the original voluntary and equal cooperation will evolve into forced and unequal cooperation. This is obvious in the early days of material poverty, when productivity was low and material products were limited. At this time, everyone must do their best to get more things to feed everyone in cooperation, and at the same time, we must implement the distribution principle that everyone, men, women and children, should eat when there is not much material. However, considering various factors such as male physical labor and female child-rearing, there is a problem of who eats more and who eats less. The solution to this problem depends not only on the generally accepted principle of "from each according to his ability, to each according to his needs", but also on a spirit of apology. The principle of the former is a bit mandatory, and the spirit of the latter depends entirely on consciousness, so the latter is noble. "Kong Rong Lirang Pear" is the praise and eulogy of ancient people for the spirit of modesty.

If "modesty" is reasonable when material is scarce, should it be advocated when modern material is abundant? I thought I wanted it! First, because the current material wealth is relative to the past, it has not reached the level of meeting the needs of all people, and there is a huge gap between the rich and the poor between countries, regions and people. This gap is somewhat reasonable. Due to the level of education, science and technology, etc. ; Some of them are unreasonable, such as aggression and exploitation, so we should have an overall principle and humility to adjust the gap between the rich and the poor; Second, the spirit of "humility" now not only refers to material distribution, but also includes many behaviors of people, such as reputation and status, as small as giving up one's seat on the bus. Needless to say, modesty, as a part of moral content, has also become an important part of human spiritual civilization. Spiritual civilization and material civilization complement each other and are indispensable. Human beings don't need a society with poor materials, but they don't want a society with ugly spirits.

Regarding the discussion on whether "Kong Rong Li Rang" is applicable forever, I think the key lies not in the moral value of "Li Rang" itself, but in why people question the modern significance of "Li Rang". Furthermore, what changes have taken place in people's values and morality? Which of these changes are reasonable and which are unreasonable? This problem is not clear in a few words.

Mujo's dad:

I think we should combine "humility" and "safeguarding rights" at the same time to cultivate children's "sense of competition" and "sense of cooperation".

The purpose of small "humility" is to "safeguard rights" in a larger and broader way. If a person has the virtue of "humility", he will win the respect of more people, thus making people morally noble, thus becoming more influential and cooperative, and further gaining greater "pears".

Mother bird:

The education I gave my daughter

Yes, humility and rights protection should be combined. If the result of humility is taken for granted, it can't be recognized by others and can't be respected accordingly, then this humility will last forever, which will undoubtedly greatly damage children's self-esteem and interests.

Tell me about the recent education for my daughter for discussion. My daughter's deskmate is a Korean boy, ten years old, naughty. It has been recorded several times that the pencils (8- 10) in my daughter's pencil box were deliberately poked out. More often, because I didn't listen in class, I bumped into my daughter and kicked her in class, which made my daughter very angry. But she didn't tell the teacher. She thought that disturbing him in class would affect the teacher's lecture. She didn't take any resistance measures, because she always thought that it was not a good student to start work, and it was impossible to rely on reason alone, so she felt unhappy. I taught her to play several times, even if he stepped on his foot at the beginning of class and then explained it to the teacher, it was useless. She thinks this is wrong. So, after the pencil was broken again, I had a serious talk with her and explicitly asked her to poke all the pencil heads of that boy and teach him a lesson. If I do, I will give you a big prize. At the same time, considering that the boy might complain, I practiced how to defend myself in front of the teacher with my daughter.

Reflections on the Spirit of "Kong Rong Lirang Pear"

The word "friendliness" comes from Hanshu? Xi Fu Gong Biography: "Hou Yanfu in Kongxiang is friendly with Gong Tongjun." Meaning: Yan Fu and Xifu Palace come from the same town, so they are very friendly. China people have always regarded kindness as their highest goal, and being kind to others and beggar-thy-neighbor are our fine virtues. In the good virtue of being kind to others and neighbors, we strongly advocate the "Kong Rong makes pears" type of friendliness.

First, the friendly spirit of "Pears Made in Kong Rong" has profound connotations.

The friendly spirit of "Pears Made in Kong Rong" has been formed in the traditional social culture of China. For thousands of years, it has imperceptibly influenced the national spirit of China people and the behavior and attitude of China people. The friendly spirit of "Kong Rong Lirang Pear" was born in the traditional social culture of China and has profound connotations.

(1) The friendly spirit of "Kong Rong Rangli" is the sublation and sublimation of "kindness" and "benevolence" in the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation. In ancient Tessa, there were many brilliant expositions about friendliness. Laozi said: "Jianghai can be the king of the hundred valleys, occupying the best geographical position." The Analects of Confucius said, "Bows are thicker than others." Xunzi knew the importance of friendship. He said, "Kind words with others are as warm as brocade, but bad words with others are as deep as spears and halberds." "Although people are kind, their blessings are far away." There are many aphorisms about kindness, benevolence and benevolence in China's voluminous cultural ancient books, such as "The upper class should not be arrogant, the lower class should not lag behind", "All men are brothers in the four seas", "Don't lose their kindness, don't do evil", "Love each other and bring out the best in each other", etc ... All the good words in life handed down by the sages and sages are the wisdom of kindness and kindness. Although some thoughts are not without historical limitations, they generally reveal the essence of interpersonal relationships and some basic principles for dealing with interpersonal relationships in a certain sense. The core of these ethical thoughts and the spirit of friendship of "Kong Rong makes pears" is benevolence, that is, advocating the moral concepts of friendship, making friends, helping others and benefiting others. This is the dominant basic moral norm in China in ancient times, and it is also one of the important ideological and theoretical sources that we advocate friendliness today.

(B) "Kong Rong let pears" type of friendliness simply expounds the basic connotation of friendliness. Kong Rong's behavior of letting pears show the positive side of Kong Rong's kindness and consideration for others in his life. Being friendly means caring for others, not demanding or imposing on others, and then helping others. It shows that people have a broad mind and a pure and noble spiritual realm. Kindness is the externalization of love, and the world full of love is a beautiful world. From a macro, broad and group perspective, the friendliness of "Kong Rong Rangli" embodies the strong desire and moral ideal of the people of all ethnic groups in China to pursue stability, harmony and unity on the basis of the same fundamental interests. From the microscopic, narrow and individual point of view, the friendliness of "Kong Rong makes pears" is the moral pursuit that every citizen should have in the process of dealing with interpersonal relationships. Friendly coexistence has become an important part of socialist moral construction. In a word, "friendliness" means friendliness and kindness. Kindness means being kind and close to people. Kindness means that one can think of others and society everywhere in life. "Friendly" means being friendly and kind to others.

Second, the friendly spirit of "Kong Rong let pears" has a distinct contemporary significance.

The Implementation Outline of Citizen's Moral Construction lists friendliness as the basic moral standard of citizens, which not only contains the essence of traditional morality such as kindness, but also gives it the significance of the times to reflect the development of human society and the realistic needs of contemporary China. The friendly spirit of "Pears Made in Kong Rong" has a distinct contemporary significance.

(A) The friendly spirit of "Kong Rong gives way to pears" is the moral pillar for the peaceful and healthy development of human society. An important feature of 2 1 century is the deepening interdependence between people, nations and countries. The division of labor is getting finer and finer, and it is an organic whole. If there is a friendly spirit of "Kong Rong makes pears" between countries, then maybe we won't see the ruins of the Yugoslav embassy or the displacement of the Iraqi people. Since no country, no region, no post or job exists in isolation, it is very necessary to make the friendly spirit of "Kong Rong Let Pear" become the moral pillar for the peaceful and healthy development of human society, so that all mankind can jointly create a friendly living and working atmosphere and ensure the peaceful and healthy development of the overall function of human society.

(2) The friendly spirit of "Kong Rong let pears" is an inevitable requirement of social stability, harmony and order. People and talents are politically interlinked. To build a harmonious socialist society, we need to carry forward and advocate the friendly spirit of "Kong Rong lets pears". The friendly spirit of "Kong Rong makes pears" has become an important part of socialist moral construction. If a person is kind to others, others will be kind to him, so as to form a joint force and achieve great cause, the atmosphere of the whole society will be harmonious and the overall efficiency will be improved. Over the years, all walks of life have carried out various activities of mutual assistance, love and assistance such as "Project Hope" and "send warm", which have carried forward the friendly spirit of "letting Kong Rong make pears" under the new historical conditions, fully embodied the harmonious interpersonal relationship of the socialist family, and produced great affinity and promotion for reform, opening up and socialist modernization. We are delighted to see that in the mass activities to create spiritual civilization, countless intimate and touching stories have emerged among comrades, neighbors, departments and regions. Under the new interpersonal relationship in Socialism with Chinese characteristics, we have every reason to believe that the friendly spirit of "Kong Rong makes pears" is the inevitable requirement of social stability, harmony and order.

(3) The group and mutual benefit advocated by the friendly spirit of "Let Pears in Kong Rong" are the inherent requirements of citizens' survival. Marx said: "The essence of man is not an abstract thing inherent in a single person. In reality, it is the sum of all social relations. " People are social and social, and the friendly spirit of "Kong Rong makes pears" is an essential factor for people's survival and development. People who are friendly to others will be respected by others, while those who are hostile to others will often fall into the predicament of isolation. In life, you will encounter many "sorry" from others. In life, everyone may also create a lot of "sorry". Every citizen should have the friendly spirit of "Kong Rong makes pears", not only be "dedicated" but also "happy", pay attention to treating others equally, help each other, respect each other, understand each other, support each other, and do a good job in cooperation in all aspects, which is a necessary condition to ensure the success of our cause.

Thirdly, the lack of friendship spirit in contemporary "Kong Rong Li Rang" and the responsibility of moral educators.

In real life, there is a typical misconception that "people nowadays are becoming more and more selfish" and that "Kong Rong makes pears" friendly is not something that everyone can do or benefit from. Not long ago, 75-year-old former football star and the first "national gate" Xu scraped a car while riding a bike on the streets of Beijing. In the subsequent dispute, he was killed by a young driver waving an old fist, which is proof. As a result, some people stick to the life creed of "honest people suffer, good people are bullied" and play tricks, try to be brave and try their best in interpersonal communication. It seems that whoever splashes, who is evil, who is cruel and who is horizontal will have the upper hand in society and will not suffer. This narrow mentality and wrong understanding is a huge obstacle to the practice of "Kong Rong let pears" and directly leads to the lack of the friendly spirit of "Kong Rong let pears" in real life. Confucius said, "If you don't practice morality and don't talk about learning, you will be worried if you can't learn." If you don't cultivate yourself, don't pay attention to learning, you can't do it after listening, and your bad behavior can't be corrected. All these are worth worrying about. ) In the current moral education work in the new period, it is the current moral education work and the mission of our moral educators to carry forward and cultivate the spirit of friendship of "Kong Rong makes pears" among students.

(A) seize the opportunity to carry forward and cultivate students at a critical moment, "Kong Rong let pears" friendly spirit. Undoubtedly, the promotion and cultivation of the friendly spirit of "Kong Rong Rangli" is a long-term historical accumulation process, which cannot be achieved overnight. It requires the unremitting efforts of moral educators to carry forward and cultivate students' friendly spirit of "Let Pears Be in Kong Rong". In the current moral education work in the new period, moral educators always attach importance to, strengthen and improve friendly education for students. Through the joint efforts of teachers and students, most students have shown a good attitude of being kind to others. At the same time, we should also see that to carry forward and cultivate the friendly spirit of "Kong Rong makes pears", we should seize the critical moment. There are students with excellent academic performance in the graduating class of Grade 05 of Senior Three in our school. On the eve of the college entrance examination, because my father was hospitalized, my family was in financial difficulties, and my enthusiasm for learning plummeted, which made me incompatible with my classmates. After understanding the situation, the teacher in charge of the class asked the students who are closely related to the classmate to take care of him as much as possible, on the other hand, he approached the classmate actively and mobilized the whole class to donate money for him after obtaining the consent of the classmate. Because the teacher in charge of the class seized the opportunity of education at the critical moment, not only did the classmate improve the relationship with his classmates, but other students in the class also received a good friendly education. His class was also the most sent college students in the college entrance examination in 2005. Numerous facts have proved that students' friendly consciousness will be particularly strengthened in extraordinary times and critical moments. Correspondingly, the students' touches and feelings are much more profound and far-reaching than usual.

(2) Advocating students' active participation, carrying forward and cultivating the friendly spirit of "Let Pears Be in Kong Rong" in personal practice. The cultivation of the friendly spirit of "Kong Rong makes pears" cannot be separated from propaganda and guidance, but putting it into practice is a more effective way. What you get on paper is so shallow that you never know what you have to do. Schools can create conditions, organize students to participate in various activities organized by schools in person, give full play to students' initiative, enthusiasm and creativity, and make due contributions to others and collectives, schools and society. For example, schools can carry out "dedicating love to underachievers", guide students to dedicate smiles, encouragement and moderate praise to underachievers, and carry forward and cultivate the friendly spirit of "Kong Rong makes pears" in personal practice. Schools can also encourage students to participate actively through campus art festivals, sports meetings and other activities, and carry forward and cultivate the friendly spirit of "Kong Rong Rangli" in personal practice. The school also encourages students to be friendly to friends and family in real life, "I am old, I am young, I am young", so that their surroundings are full of goodwill, kindness and kindness. Schools should encourage students to carry forward and cultivate the friendly spirit of "Let Pears in Kong Rong" in personal practice.

(3) Create an atmosphere, carry forward and cultivate the friendly spirit of "Kong Rong makes pears" in the interaction of true feelings. The promotion and cultivation of the friendly spirit of "Kong Rong lets pears" needs a certain environment and atmosphere, just as steelmaking in a furnace needs necessary temperature and conditions. There are 15 Tibetan students from Tibet in our school. The school seized this opportunity and launched the activity of "hand in hand" for Chinese and Tibetan students, which created a platform for teachers and students to carry forward and cultivate the friendly spirit of "Kong Rong Li Rang" in real interaction. The activities of "hand in hand" by Chinese and Tibetan students not only make Tibetan students integrate into school life more quickly, but also feel the sincere friendship of Han students, creating an atmosphere for cultivating the friendly spirit of "Kong Rong makes pears" of other students, and promoting and cultivating the friendly spirit of "Kong Rong makes pears" in real interaction. In this atmosphere, trust, concern, self-confidence, true love interaction, emotion and reason blend between teachers and students in the school, forming * * * vibration and * * voice in thoughts and feelings. Being here is like being in a powerful magnetic field and melting pot. Create an atmosphere, carry forward and cultivate the friendly spirit of "Kong Rong makes pears" in the interaction of true feelings, strongly attract students, cultivate students in depth, and inspire students to show more enthusiasm and friendliness.

How did this huge paradox come about? As an educator, shouldn't we reflect?

It took us thousands of years to reach the primary stage. I think this primary stage of socialism refers not only to material poverty, but also to spiritual poverty and moral immorality. Maybe that's why people are asked to salute. But the bottom line of being a man has not been kept, how to salute? As a song goes, "We are the successors of capitalism", which is actually asking people not to take over. How far is capitalism from us? Who will live to take over the day?

Therefore, I say that the education of "law" is the foundation, facing the public, always the first and most important. We can force everyone to obey the law, but we can't ask everyone to salute. If a certain ceremony really comes to the day when everyone can do it, then this "ceremony" will become another kind of "law" because "law" is also constantly improving. (In fact, if "ceremony" is not a kind of accomplishment, but a kind of regulation, it will serve the unequal hierarchical society, only suitable for the small-scale peasant economy and agricultural society, not suitable for the market economy and democratic modern society based on freedom and equality. )

Four-year-old Kong Rong knows how to take pears according to the law and how to obey the law. How commendable! This vivid material fully tells us how respectable it is to obey the law. However, we just ignore the roots, don't learn the law, and fool future generations with those so-called nihilistic virtues. What a pity!

Modesty, comity and forbearance are undoubtedly the signs of social civilization and progress, but fairness and law-abiding are the basis of social progress. A polite person begins by educating him to obey the law. Therefore, in our education, we should first educate students to abide by the law, take it according to law, and dare to take it according to law, and then be polite and gentle. Don't let the word "let" lead you to learn "etiquette" and "law" in the end, neither fish nor fowl.