Traditional marriage, one of its main significance is to protect the rights of women

The fact that I have mixed feelings about the subject of marriage does not mean that I have any experience with it. On the contrary, I haven't even seen its boundaries yet, it's like a mirage.

The understanding of "marriage", I'm afraid, is like a long unopened book in front of me. I want to tear off the wrapping, but I'm afraid I won't be able to finish it in peace. If I put it aside, I would be plagued by curiosity. When I hesitated, I chose to share my thoughts on marriage with you.

One psychologist summarized the changes in marriage in this day and age. He said: before, marriage was the primary goal of adults, and it was only established if you had a family; now marriage is the last choice of adults when they are ready for everything.

This summary has gained the approval of many people, including some elders. What is marriage? How is it formed? I'm sure the major search engines can give you the answers you want. If you want to categorize marriage, it can be divided into traditional marriage and modern marriage.

Traditional marriage, one of its main significance is to protect women's rights. Looking at the most fundamental biological characteristics, we need to recognize the fact that women spend far more energy on childbearing and childrearing than men (if anyone disagrees, that person must be a man or a scum), and this is a fact we can't help but face. In this case, women don't have the extra energy to take on a man's world, for one thing.

Secondly, if a woman can't find the resources she needs to raise a child out there, she needs someone to help her raise the child with her. This is when a man is the best choice.

Thirdly, as evidenced by the number and size of sperm and eggs, a woman is limited in the number of eggs she can produce in her lifetime and needs to work hard to find and time fertilization. On the other hand, male sperm are on the order of hundreds of millions. For men, sperm are not as "precious" as eggs. The size of the egg is also larger than the sperm, again confirming the whole process of fertilization and who plays the dominant role.

Allow me to turn my brain up a bit. Why is it that a child's last name generally matches that of the male? My personal understanding is as a safeguard. Males are naturally combative, sensitive to territory and territory, have a clear and strong sense of boundaries, and will fight back against any enemy that encroaches on their territory. When a woman gives birth to a child with a man's last name, it means that the child is the man's, and he can keep his property safe, and the child is no exception. When a woman lives after a man, her surname will also follow him, and this is also to protect him.

The above is my personal view on traditional marriage. But nowadays, in this society, women's status is gradually improving and they are more capable in all aspects. She can do almost anything on her own except a man's sperm. This is one of the fundamental reasons why traditional marriage is less important in today's diverse world.

There are more and more things a woman can do to take care of her children independently. For example, breastfeeding can be replaced with formula and housework can be left to a nanny. All she needs to do is work hard to earn money. They are no longer afraid to compete with men in the outside world, and even surpass them in some ways. These experiences helped her regain the confidence in her bones, while earning the respect of men and society. The world has turned upside down, and they no longer need the protection of men, no longer grovel to serve them in exchange for survival. Such days will be gone forever, a thing of the past.

Modern marriages are more of a spiritual construct.

Before two people meet, they are constantly polishing and persevering in their lives and careers in order to accomplish two goals. First, to lay the economic foundation for perseverance. Second, to develop and refine character.

Entering the society, give and take, which is in line with the needs of social development, in line with the laws of nature. It is only a matter of time to establish a good economic foundation. Personality development comes from the summarization of new interpersonal experience. This is a society where people deal with people. It is difficult for people to live without others, and those who seek affluence have a large number of relationships, after all. Each relationship is a mirror that reveals an unknown side of them. These unknown parts of their personality along with the known parts make up the whole picture of their personality.

Both of these people have experienced society and they are fully aware of their true needs as well as their strengths and weaknesses. The most important achievement is that they have become independent individuals. In the traditional era of marriage, due to material scarcity, personalities are sticky and inseparable, and this casts a shadow over the happiness of marriage. This becomes a thing of the past when each is an independent individual. They will not quarrel over money and material things and their expectations from each other will be minimized. On a material basis, the two share the same goal of true and eternal happiness. This part will only come from the spiritual world.

So the most fundamental difference between traditional marriage and modern marriage is the difference in meaning. More and more young people are realizing the changes that have taken place in their marriages, and they are no longer sacrificing themselves in order to "help their parents get things done". They have come to understand the true meaning of life and what it is all about. This is the progress of civilization and a by-product of human evolution.

Yesterday, I listened to Luo Zhenyu, the founder of Luo Lixi, talk about "Understanding Marriage, A Story", which benefited me a lot. He said: an old man said, the most important thing about marriage is not the mountains of material, nor is it the romance across the mountains and seas, but when I am old and lying in bed, poking my wife with my elbow, she can understand that I have a bad throat and want to drink water, without having to say much. This kind of tacit understanding and affection takes time to sink in. Two people are like two trees, intertwined with each other, **** with the growth. Slowly, these two trees become one tree and bear fruit, which is trust and rare in the world.

Really, in the long river of marriage, two people have found in each other the best and most real themselves, splashing each other with light and heat. The cohesive emotions have weathered the storms and changed day by day.

Marriage is no longer a necessity, but a choice that can bring us more joy and strength.

This is my understanding of marriage. What about you?