Why are Japanese heartless?

Why are Japanese heartless? If the first day since I set foot on Japanese soil is regarded as a new beginning of my life, it should be a very old problem. Although I have been observing and groping from time and experience, and consciously or unconsciously comparing with China where I grew up, I still have a definite answer to this question in my heart. Yes, compared with China, the Japanese are heartless. This will not change my conclusion, because I got some help and some manners as a stranger. Of course, the high level of public etiquette in Japanese society is undeniable. On the surface, this seems contradictory, but it is not. Let me talk about why the public etiquette standards in Japanese society are so high. In short, I think there are three main reasons. 1. Japan is a country where tradition and modernity, eastern and western cultures are perfectly combined. In this respect, you can also expand to Japan to absorb and re-develop new technologies. They respect the authenticity of a thing, and they will rack their brains to make it more exquisite and perfect than the original creator. This is also what the Japanese are best at, which is not unrelated to the support of Japanese democratic spirit. This is the source of all things of Japanese goods, there are 2. Japanese history is not as long as that of China, but it is relatively long in the whole world, and it prefers to keep traditional things completely than China. They don't use black-and-white judgment on the merits to eliminate something immediately, but keep controversial things for the time being. The Japanese thought that like China, because of a boiling passion, they could easily destroy something, but they could never recover it in the future. Therefore, the Japanese do not immediately deny anything, but temporarily keep it and study it slowly. This kind of ambiguous procrastination, the practice of exchanging time for space, can be seen everywhere in daily life and business, and it is also a necessary condition for doing something more perfect. Geographically, Japan is a country with a high population density (higher than China). Without the tacit understanding between people and society, it is impossible for this crowded island to accommodate so many people, houses, cars, even forests covering 70% of the country, and high-quality rice, a completely self-sufficient staple food. Therefore, being humble to others, not giving them any trouble, standardizing everything, regardless of size, and everyone doing it according to the rules are the secrets that this small country can make many people live comfortably to the maximum, and maintaining this secret comes from China's excellent traditional habits in ancient times and the complete legal system under modern western consciousness and concepts. China people have a friend who graduated from a domestic university and entrusted him to work in Japan and apply for a visa to study in Japan. All the conditions have been met except the lack of a Japanese guarantor. The Japanese who work in China have a good Japanese elder friend who lives alone after divorce, and the economic conditions are not bad, which fully meets the conditions of being a guarantor of domestic friends. Due to the different habits of Japanese society, China people have always been ashamed to talk about guarantors with the Japanese. Finally, I got a chance. Japanese people are sick. People from China go to the hospital to visit and buy condolence gifts. Japanese people have few family members to visit, and a foreigner is very moved to think of him. After the Japanese were discharged from the hospital, they ate with China people. People in China are very worried about their good friends. In the small talk with the Japanese, China people finally changed the subject and talked about their friends' sponsors. The Japanese didn't promise, but vaguely said to do something to see if they could help their friends. According to the thinking of the motherland, China people thought that the Japanese accepted it, and they thanked him for it. A few months later, the Japanese gave nothing to the China people. Although they still meet frequently, the Japanese never mentioned his friend's guarantor. Finally, one day, the people of China couldn't help it. They asked the Japanese whether they had issued resident tickets and tax bills. The Japanese were very surprised, as if they heard it for the first time, and finally they understood what the China people said. The Japanese told the people of China that he had taken him away from China. But I haven't met his good friend and I don't know what kind of person the client is, so the Japanese said they couldn't find such a guarantor. At this point, China people understand that the Japanese are only looking for a guarantor, and they have no intention of doing it themselves. In fact, if there is no clear commitment at the scene, it is basically based on the Japanese failed answer, which China people didn't see. As a result, China people think that the Japanese are not friends enough and heartless. China and Japan both consider themselves trustworthy friends, but separated by a layer of relationship, the Japanese will not make common judgments and inferences. On the other hand, in Japanese society, the trouble caused by this joint inference is far less than that caused by China. This seemingly heartless habit has laid the groundwork for many hidden dangers in the future. Different cultural environments have different perspectives on comments. What level of interpersonal communication should be achieved? This is something that annoys many people. People in China are often careless and don't think too deeply, or even if they do, they imagine according to their own wishes, regardless of various complicated and changeable factors in society, and they don't think much about what other people think and why they associate with themselves. According to this line of thinking, in fact, the so-called enthusiastic communication in China society is not only a few close relatives, but also some true feelings, so the vast majority. Especially in today's society, on the one hand, intrigue is prevalent, on the other hand, the sense of honesty is weak, and going out to do business, all need to make full use of the network. For me, the establishment of this network, if not immediate, is at least an intangible property savings for the future. China's proverb "Go out and rely on friends" is a vivid reflection of the deep-rooted national foundation of the society ruled by man, and it is the common people's thinking of pursuing personal interests that hinders the real. Japanese society is not so ruthless, but the result of a virtuous circle under a sound legal system. A complete, fair and efficient service system in all aspects of society has formed a dry relationship with abnormal interpersonal relationships, and there is no need to linger. When going out to do business, people don't need to rely on friends, and anyone can enjoy the service they deserve anywhere. At any time, * * organs and non-governmental service windows in any region can get 100% reproducibility of the results by doing100 tests. It will not be different from person to person, nor will it be treated differently because of place and time. So why do you always weave those tired cobwebs with ulterior motives? Such a network seems to be convenient for one's future, but in fact it is restricting the evolution of the whole nation and the progress of society. Accustomed to all the standardization of Japanese society and the natural way of life service, it is no wonder that Japanese who have experienced social life in China commented that in China society, you can do anything you want. It is estimated that Japanese who have never been to China can't understand this sentence, but for China people, there may be a little knowing smile and a little bitter smile. Because Japanese thinking and Japanese common sense are synonymous with rigidity, pedantry and ignorance in China, failed turtles basically have such unspeakable experiences. I like the ruthlessness of Japanese society, which gives me more privacy and free life. I don't need to smile at the insatiable face I don't want to communicate with, to say any warm words woven by clever tongue against my will, to ask for anything from others, or even to express a tiring promise to others, because everyone can do what they want equally. As long as it is not crooked ways, anyone can accept social services with confidence. Ruthless Japanese society means that you don't owe me, I don't owe you, and I pay taxes. I have difficulties, and society helps me solve them, not by a fickle face. Therefore, life in the cruel Japanese society may not be easy, but our sweat and fatigue are spilled on our efforts, and every effort will pay off, instead of exchanging ham for hukou and red envelopes for scalpels. The so-called human feelings in China society have hurt us mercilessly, and this feeling is hard to disappear. What is China proud of?