Why the traditional British family is patriarchal in structure

The British generally believe that spoiling and pampering children is the biggest obstacle to the formation of an independent character. In order for children to adapt to the needs of society and live and work independently in the future, they must be trained from an early age to live independently, so that they can learn to respect others and exercise self-restraint, and know to be responsible for their own behavior. If the children are unable to adapt to society later on like others, they have failed in their duty as parents to educate them.

Morals are not taught

Moral education in British primary and secondary schools is not called moral education, but "education for the social health of the individual", or "socialization process". The aim is to enable them to understand the basic principles of human behavior and how to discipline themselves to integrate into society and become part of it. There are four core moral concepts: respect for life, fairness, honesty and trustworthiness.

The British also have a concept that "morality is infected, not taught". It is embodied in the moral education of British primary and secondary schools, that is, children are not required to memorize the moral code, but are required to know and understand ethics and morality from the depth of their hearts and from their daily lives.

Children are not blank sheets of paper

When we were young, we memorized Mao Zedong's quote, "A blank sheet of paper, free of burdens, is a good place to write the newest and most beautiful words, and a good place to draw the newest and most beautiful pictures." Later, people thought that children were just like a blank sheet of paper, and that whatever adults taught them would be what they would grow up to be in the future. A British friend said that Westerners used to have the "blank paper" theory. Thinking that children are "TABULARASA" (Latin, that is, the blank state), but now scientific research has proved that the child comes to this world, innate already partially inherited the parents' temperament, character and other psychological genes, therefore, "blank paper theory " is an oversimplified view of things.

Honesty is not an isolated virtue

British schools generally do not have specialized moral education classes, but offer classes in a variety of the world's major religious beliefs, including Buddhism and Taoism, as electives. This course is considered a very important one for the development of a child's character and conscience.

Not only this, but most British schools organize weekly class discussions on a selection of things that happen at school or in society, so that children can express their views, **** with the discussion, to understand and judge for themselves what is right and wrong. Group games are also an important way to make children know how to take into account and sympathize with others and how to cooperate with peers. British schools also generally encourage children to raise small animals, organize students to chat with the elderly in homes for the elderly, raise funds for charitable organizations and participate in other public welfare or environmental protection activities to cultivate children's love and social interaction skills. In the view of British educators, honesty is not an isolated virtue, but is closely linked to self-respect and respect for others, and to the love of life and nature.

Not indifferent to winning and losing, but more to enjoy the process

The teacher is not teaching students to learn the LaoZhuang's transcendence, indifferent to winning and losing results; on the contrary, the British school, "winning and losing" two words are always on the lips of, because of a variety of competitions in a variety of titles, full of students of the school life, but because of the competition, each student has the opportunity to appreciate the teacher's message. But because there are so many competitions, every student has the opportunity to realize the message conveyed by the teacher: you will win, but not every time you win, everyone wins and loses, the important thing is to enjoy the process of participation and do what you want to do. Many Chinese immigrants who have moved to the UK feel most y that the British choice of life is often to do what they like to do, even if it is not trendy or fashionable.

Don't get in the way

British social and moral education, there is another impressive point, that is, from an early age to teach children to learn to take care of themselves, at the same time pay attention to do not get in the way of others. This is in fact the watershed between public and private morality, and is also known as the "moral imperative for strangers".

British elementary school attach great importance to fostering children's independence, and personal hygiene and neatness of study equipment are all within the scope of moral education. Confucius said, "Do not do unto others what you would not have them do unto you." In the West, there is a very similar but perhaps more positive way of putting it: treat others as you would like to be treated.

This way of thinking permeates every aspect of British society. Why can't you turn on your rear fog lights when there is good visibility? Why should you change your high beams to low beams when someone is overtaking you? If you think about other people's situations and the dangers that may be posed to other road users when you drive, you are also thinking about your own safety. A British traffic regulation that reflects this not explicitly stated reasoning everywhere.

Parents allowed to physically punish children

The family is the cradle in which children grow up. The concepts and behaviors of parents and other family members play a decisive role in the development of a child's moral consciousness. In the British family, there is absolutely no reason to see children's pampering, and children who make mistakes will be corrected or even punished. Parents often exercise strict discipline over their children on the premise of respecting their independence and making them understand that their behavior is not without boundaries and that they are not allowed to do whatever they want. The law in Britain clearly states that parents are allowed to physically punish their children, and many schools still retain the rule of corporal punishment of pupils.

In the average family, children under the age of five are not allowed to eat at the same table as adults, they are not allowed to pick at their food or clothes, and when it comes to what they should do, they always follow the rules, and willful mistakes and bullying of the young are severely punished. Regardless of the person to whom the child is addressed, he or she must be polite and speak politely, and parents and siblings are no exception. Conforming to standards of speech and behavior and being courteous to others are basic requirements for every child. On the contrary, the child will be reprimanded by the parents, including physical punishment. Only children who know how to behave and are polite will be praised by their parents.

Spending money to "train" children to be naughty

When we were young, our parents always modeled us on a child who never went out to play. But in Britain, children are always naughty or their parents are paid to be naughty. Every weekend there is an activity, either dinner at some friend's house (often the whole family goes there, with the parent generation chatting and the child generation playing), or there is some kid's birthday party, or they go swimming or play soccer. In short, it's pretty much an interactive day for parents and kids, rarely staying home to watch TV or anything like that.

The most important thing to look at is friendliness

In the eyes of the British, the most important thing to look at is whether a person is friendly or not, and it has nothing to do with his profession, gender, income, education or private life. They teach their children from childhood to be kind to all life, including animals, plants and so on. When the weather is good, they take their children to farms to see nature or in their own gardens. Even for small beings like ants, even in the summer when the kitchen is crawling with ants, their moms eliminate ants while admonishing their children that they should never play with ants or make their deaths too painful. And just hit one or two so that the other ants would sound the alarm and keep the rest of their mates out of the area, or catch the ants in little bottles and take them to the garden to be released.

On one occasion Barry, a goldfish the kids had, died. It really wasn't easy for a goldfish that had been kept for almost three years, and it was time to rest in peace after enjoying rock 'n' roll every day for so long. The kids' mom had them call their dad, who was at work, to tell him the bad news, and the next day there was a short funeral at a nearby church. Last week, Angus actually had an exaggerated nightmare about dreaming about Barry, and the mom explained to them that life has to end sometime, but Barry lived a happy life because everyone loved him.

I don't know how much the kids get it, but at least I know that this kind of education, while it seems a little silly and cute to us, isn't wrong.

The most important quality is courage

The British impress the world in much the same way as the French writer Jules? The British give the world the same impression as the French writer Jules Verne's protagonist in his novel Around the World in Eighty Days, Philia Fogg. Fogg was a British gentleman who followed the rules to the letter.

We have always thought that British education must also be rule-following. In fact, the modern British pay great attention to cultivating children's courageous and resilient character, and they know that courage is the driving force behind a person's initiative to forge ahead.

British parents often take their children on adventures, delving into nature and surviving in treacherous environments, with the very clear purpose of exercising their children's will and bravery, and preparing their personalities for their future lives.

British parents believe that the child's pampering in the child is very harmful, so the family education in particular focus on the child's independent consciousness training. At a very young age, parents will let their children try to do all kinds of things in life, such as their own meals, their own clothes and pants, their own room, and other self-service things.

Private car ownership in the UK is very high, and many families have their own cars, which make it easy for them to take their children to and from school. However, parents in the UK rarely drive their children to and from school; they let their children carry their own backpacks on foot or take the school bus to school.

British people will take the initiative to give up their seats on public ****cars when they meet the elderly, the disabled and pregnant women, but they will not give up their seats for their children, who are considered to be in need of exercise and should be encouraged to be independent.

Home education in the UK

Whether it's Chinese children or British children, three meals a day are always essential. You may say, it's just eating, what's the big deal? But don't look down on the table, there's a lot to learn about it.