An example of women getting rid of traditional bondage

"Girl, you can also rush to study liberal arts, and the advantage of studying science is too small ..."

"Girls are going to get married while they still have value. When they are old, only others will pick your share ... "

"Age is so big, divorced what ah, make do with ..."

"After a woman gives birth to a child, the center of gravity must be on the child, so she has no energy to do a good job ..."

Every woman should have heard many similar words when she was growing up. Although many prejudices against girls have changed now, many of them are still stubborn.

If you want live high, sometimes you need the courage to get rid of social prejudice and many constraints.

I recently read a novel "She and Her Islands", which describes the group image of women and tells the story of a modern atypical "matriarchal clan". Although the women in the book are ordinary people, they are all trying to get rid of these shackles. From them, I see courage.

The author of She and Her Islands is Nan Yi, who graduated from the Chinese Department of Renmin University of China and the East Asian Department of Stanford University. Now Douban writes full-time, and her works have always been dominated by women. There is a male character in Yi Nan's original name, which she thinks is the embodiment of family preference for boys. In her works, she opposes the old ideas and the world's prejudice against women.

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As a girl, from school, I will hear something similar: "Only in primary school, girls will be better than boys. After junior high school, boys will be better, especially in science. "

If girls do well in science in middle school, they will say that boys don't study hard.

Tao Shuna, one of the protagonists in the book, was very smart since she was a child, and her academic performance was very good.

Despite this Excellence, when she was assigned to high school, the teacher advised her to choose liberal arts, because "there are many talents in science classes, and as a girl, there is no advantage."

Fortunately, Tao Shuna has her own ideals and wants to be an astronaut. With the support of my mother, although I hesitated several times in the choice of science and liberal arts, I finally chose science, and along the way, I read my favorite major and got my doctorate. During my PhD, I also completed my internship at the Academy of Aerospace Sciences.

Such an excellent Tao Shuna only said in her father's eyes, "Get married early, otherwise it will depreciate when you get older and you can't find a good man."

But her father didn't affect Tao Shuna, and she finally got together with the boy she liked for many years.

In the eyes of many people, it is better for a girl to get married early than to read many books. Once, I had a neighbor and sister, and her grades were very good. She was always one of the best students in her class, but after she graduated from high school, her mother wouldn't let her go on to school. Let her go home, get married and have children. When I saw her again a few years later, her eyes had lost their original luster.

It's never too late to get rid of a suffocating family.

In the novel, Li Yijin's mother Meng, under the arrangement of her parents, married a worker in the factory.

After marriage, the atmosphere in the family has been very depressed. The husband is obedient to his parents, but when he faces Meng's mother and daughter, he is another face.

The husband also took Meng's salary card and gave him only a small amount of living expenses every month.

In the long-term suffocation environment, Meng pinned her hopes on her daughter Li Yijin, hoping that she would get ahead and have a good home. She was very strict with Li Yijin, and even ruined Li Yijin's rare friendship because of the other party's poor grades.

But in the end, Meng found that his expectation for his daughter only made her an enemy and made her desperately want to escape from this home.

Therefore, seeing her sister's divorce, she had the idea of divorce.

Even the retired old lady divorced with the support of her family and reached a settlement with her daughter Li Yijin.

After having children, you can achieve great things.

Grandma in the novel was a factory director before she retired, and her third daughter Meng Yi 'an inherited her mother's genes and worked hard in the workplace.

Later, she got married and had children. On the day of giving birth, she was still working in the company, but after giving birth, she found that her original position had been topped by another male colleague.

The male colleague also specially asked his colleagues to take care of her and said not to disturb her during lactation.

Later, Meng Yi 'an resigned and started his own business. Doing education and public welfare has achieved very good results.

This reminds me that in reality, many women are at a disadvantage in the workplace, and women may pay much more than men for the same position.

Once, I had a married and fertile female leader who worked overtime almost every day and came to the company to work overtime on weekends. Later, with a new male leader, the male leader hardly worked overtime. Women are more demanding in the workplace, and they will be more biased. It's not easy to move up.

Although it is not easy, many working mothers still do well, but many people are biased and unwilling to give working mothers a chance.

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Besides Tao Shuna, Meng and Meng Yi 'an, there are many female characters in the novel, all of whom have made their own struggles for a better life.

Grandma left the small fishing village to learn knowledge and become the factory director; Meng Weiming, her second sister Meng Wanqing, supported her daughter and her decision all the way, and finally decided to divorce regardless of other people's eyes. ...

I felt gnashing my teeth when I first read the novel, but there was always warmth and emotion in the story, and I was moved by the struggle of ordinary women and the strength of family friendship in the story.

May every girl get rid of bondage and prejudice and bravely live a high life.