The Manifestations and Causes of the Lack of Educational Purpose Practice in China

The manifestations and causes of the lack of educational purpose in China. First, the current situation of the lack of court education ethics in China. First, the ethical deficiency of court education concept. 1. For children, good knowledge education and moral education are related to their future adulthood and their future contribution to society. At present, although quality education has been understood and recognized by the society, the primary and secondary education in China is still shrouded in the shadow of exam-oriented education. Most parents still only care about and value their children's grades and scores, but ignore their moral quality and psychological development. Many parents judge their children from their exam results. High score is a good boy, low score is a bad boy. As we all know, the physical and mental endurance of teenagers is limited, and very few children take extreme measures to get rid of the pressure because they can't find a way to alleviate it. 17-year-old Xu Li is a senior two student in Jinhua No.4 Middle School, Zhejiang Province. Since childhood, Xu Li has been taken care of by her mother alone. Wu Fengxian's salary is not high, and sometimes he has to help others earn some money for Xu Li to study. After Xu Li was admitted to the key class of the school, Xu Li's mother put him in front of the class 10. Xu Li felt that her mother was too strict with herself, and it was difficult to achieve the goals set by her mother. She suffered great psychological injustice and pressure. At noon on June 65438+1October 65438+July 2006, Xu Li killed her mother with a hammer because she was dissatisfied with her mother's control. It can be seen that appropriate pressure can be transformed into power, but too much pressure will be counterproductive. Most parents attach great importance to the dissemination of knowledge and the development of intelligence, and regard intelligence as the whole content of education, but pay little attention to children's behavior habits and moral education, ignoring the cultivation of children's personality. 200 1 A senior one student who stabbed someone with a knife in a city in Jiangsu said in an interview, "As long as I study hard, my parents won't blame me for what I did." 2. It has become a common phenomenon in family education in China to pay too much attention to material input and neglect the care of children's hearts. With the increasing social material wealth, the family living standard in China has generally improved. Most parents are almost responsive to the material requirements of their children. Even in poor families, parents try their best to provide better living conditions for their children. As for the psychological and spiritual level, most parents lack the necessary care and care for their children, mainly because they don't pay enough attention to the care of mental health and the cultivation of psychological quality. On the one hand, because of their busy work, parents neglected the psychological communication and spiritual communication with their children, and failed to guide their emotions and educate them in time; On the other hand, some parents have low educational quality, so it is difficult to understand the psychological characteristics and development law of teenagers. (2) The lack of ethics in family education content is 1. Under the great pressure of entering a higher school, some parents are just trying to help their children cope with all kinds of exams, paying too much attention to the exam results, and taking the results as the only criterion to measure their children's quality and predict their future success. Therefore, many parents do not hesitate to spend all their energy to catch their children's study, or even limit their outdoor activities. In this case, many children are immersed in reference books and exercises all day. Although they have mastered a lot of book knowledge, they do not have the ability to live independently, adapt to the environment and work in teams, which is not conducive to their further study and adaptation to society in the future. 2. Pay more attention to individual education rather than the cultivation of sense of responsibility. There are more and more only children in our family. Parents pay attention to the cultivation of their children, but ignore the education of their sense of responsibility, resulting in many only children being self-centered, proud, willful, selfish and independent. Today's society is a society where competition and cooperation coexist. If such children are allowed to join the society, I am afraid that no one will not be eliminated. The cultivation of a sense of responsibility is an essential part of a child's healthy personality, which helps to cultivate the child's self-control and self-care ability, and also helps the child to understand and forgive others and form a good habit of gregarious. (3) Ethical deficiency of family education. Parents educate their children in various ways, and different education methods will have different effects on the physical and mental development of teenagers. Compared with the past, the way of family education in China has made great development and changes, but there are still some problems. Among them, the common and improper ways of family education are: 1. As parents pay more and more attention to education, parents' expectations for their children are getting higher and higher. In addition, many parents believe in the old adage that "a dutiful son is born under a stick" and "if you don't fight, you will lose the weapon". Therefore, expecting your own success becomes forcing your own success. Parents ignore their children's self-esteem, beat and scold them in a simple and rude way, and impose their wishes on them. In fact, doing so not only hurts children's health, but also seriously hurts their self-esteem and self-confidence. As a result, some children have formed extreme personalities and the parent-child relationship has deteriorated. Serious people have run away from home, embarked on the road of illegal crimes, and even committed suicide. 2. The successful implementation of the basic national policy of family planning in China has led to more and more one-child families. The one-child family has its own advantages, and parents have enough time, energy and money to train their children. But it is precisely because there is only one child that the only child becomes the focus of the whole family and the focus of life, and the only child consciously or unconsciously falls into a spoiled situation. Parents' care for their children is an important factor for their healthy growth. Spoiling is also love, but doting can only bring harm to children. With the development of social economy, more and more family economic projects become rich. Therefore, some parents are responsive to their children and blindly meet all their requirements. 3. laissez-faire because some parents are busy with work, entertainment or going out to work to make a living, they have no time and energy to take care of their children. Therefore, they use nannies and tutors instead of parents to educate their children. There are also some parents who have no awareness of educating their children at all. They believe that "children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren". As long as the necessary material security is given, other aspects will depend on themselves. Because of the limited knowledge and social history of teenagers, they still lack the ability to correctly judge various social things and phenomena. As a result, some teenagers have embarked on the road of crime due to the influence of some bad social atmosphere. 4. With the increasing number of only-child families in China, there are many parents who love their children as much as their lives. These parents are afraid that their children will be cheated and get into bad habits. As a result, they often adopt restrictive, prohibitive or even alternative education methods. The result can only lead to children's strong dependence, poor communication skills, rebellion and other adverse results. On August 30th, 2007, the South China Morning Post published an article entitled "Sending away a group of friends and relatives at the beginning of school", pointing out that when freshmen enter school, almost every freshman is followed by a large group of friends and relatives, which people have become accustomed to. The report mentioned a child named Bloomberg. Three years ago, Bloomberg left home to live in a high school. His parents went out for the first time and helped him arrange all the school affairs. Bloomberg was 16 years old at that time. Three years later, Bloomberg has grown up, but he still knows nothing. His parents are like two bookworms, helping him carry his luggage, find a hotel and arrange meals along the way. Yang Ke, who was admitted to an Anhui university, waved his hand, shook his head and said with a smile, "I won't. I can't even go out without my parents. I hope my parents can stay with me for a while, otherwise I will cry. " Second, the analysis of the reasons for the lack of ethics in family education in China (1) the impact of social change 1. The influence of economic development With the gradual development of the socialist market economic system, people's material living standards have been improved. However, the phenomenon of unbalanced economic development has also appeared, which has also caused economic differences between families. The economic condition of the family is one of the factors that affect the growth of teenagers. On the one hand, the quality of material life affects the growth and development of teenagers' bodies; On the other hand, the family's economic situation also affects the family's investment in education to a certain extent. On the one hand, families with poor economic conditions cannot give their children normal and necessary learning conditions; On the other hand, parents are busy with their livelihood and have no time and energy to educate their children. Some parents even let their children drop out of school to make money for immediate interests. Families with good economic conditions can provide adequate material security for their children, but there are also some other problems. Excessive superior family conditions may make some children cultivate vanity and pamper themselves. In fact, making children happy does not mean giving them whatever they want. This is not to give children happiness, but it is likely to endanger their healthy growth. 2. The influence of social culture "Learning to be an excellent official" is a profound thought in China's traditional culture. The accumulation of this kind of thought so far, coupled with the pressure of examination and employment, leads to the current concept of family education is learning first. The value orientation of family education in China is distorted to some extent. Our society is in a period of transition, and all aspects of society are changing rapidly. Under the great competitive pressure, people are becoming more and more practical. 2 1 century is the era of knowledge economy, and the role of knowledge is increasingly obvious. Therefore, under the joint action of the pressure of examination and employment and the traditional thought of "learning to be an excellent official", the value orientation of family education in China has deviated, which leads to the supremacy of learning becoming the main value orientation of family education in China. In this case, children's personality, personality, intelligence and quality can not develop harmoniously. The development of information technology provides a new channel for children to obtain information, but it also makes many children indulge in virtual networks, ignoring the communication between people, resulting in children's spiritual and emotional poverty. (2) the restriction of family factors 1. The influence of family atmosphere Yan Zhitui said in "Yan's Family Instructions": "It is a good place to live, such as entering the room, and it will last for a long time; Living with the wicked, like abalone, stinks for a long time. " ("Yan's family training? 6? 1 mu xian) shows that the family environment and atmosphere have a great influence on children. A good and relaxed family atmosphere is conducive to children's health; On the contrary, if children are in a bad, tense and depressed family atmosphere for a long time, they will not feel the beauty of life, which is not conducive to their physical and mental development. Mozi compared children to "Susie". He thinks that under the influence of what kind of family environment, what kind of morality and character are easy to form. 2. Adverse effects of intergenerational education At present, there are two main forms of family education in China: parenting education for children and grandparents' education for grandchildren. With the increase of work pressure and social competition, intergenerational education has once again flourished and become a common phenomenon. According to a survey of 20083 elderly people in urban and rural areas in China, 66. 47% people take care of their grandchildren, and 765,438+0.95% and 73.45% women in urban and rural areas take care of their grandchildren respectively. "Compared with parental education, intergenerational education has many advantages. First of all, grandparents have more time and energy, which can make up for the vacancy that parents are too busy to take care of their children and reduce the burden on parents. At the same time, it can also enable the elderly to realize their own value and enjoy family happiness after retirement. However, intergenerational education also has its negative effects. Most elderly people are almost obedient to their children, and even unreasonable wishes will be met without the original principles. At the same time, due to the differences in social experience, background of the times and education level, grandparents and parents have different ideas, contents and methods of educating their children, which leads to their confusion and confusion. 3. The influence of parents' own factors (1) The influence of parents' educational level on their children. Parents with higher education level have strong educational awareness and rational and open educational ideas, methods and purposes. These parents not only pay attention to their children's academic performance, but also pay attention to their emotional needs and inner world, and pay attention to the cultivation of their comprehensive qualities such as ability and interpersonal communication. Parents with low education often ignore the role of family education and their own role, and think that education is a school matter. In addition, some parents with low education often ignore the cultivation of their children's comprehensive quality and only pay attention to their children's achievements. (2) The influence of parents' self-cultivation on their children. In China's ancient family education thought, the role of example was attached great importance. The Analects of Confucius? 6? 1 Lutz has a saying, "He is straight, but he doesn't make orders. He is not straight, although he can't make orders." It can be seen that parents' words and deeds have a great influence on their children. Parents' words and deeds have an influence on children, and they have an influence on children. Parents with high self-cultivation will have a positive impact on their children in every word and deed; The low self-cultivation of parents will have a negative impact on their children's growth path. Therefore, some people say that "it is necessary to be hard while the iron is hot." All these emphasize the important role of parents' cultivation in family education. (3) The influence of parent-child relationship on children. Parent-child relationship is the most important relationship in the family. Whether the parent-child relationship is harmonious or not has a decisive influence on the healthy growth of children. Good parent-child relationship can make children feel their parents' understanding and concern for themselves, which is conducive to communication between parents and children, enhance mutual understanding and form children's optimistic, positive and healthy psychology. On the contrary, the tense parent-child relationship is not conducive to the communication between parents and children. Children can't understand their parents' love for themselves, and sometimes even regard their parents' concern for J as a restriction. In this case, the child's personality cannot develop healthily. (3) The interaction between school and family is insufficient. Family education and school education play an important role in the growth of teenagers. They are different and interrelated. Effective home-school cooperation can make full use of each other's advantages. On the one hand, parents can get more professional educational knowledge and methods under the guidance of the school; On the other hand, with the support and cooperation of parents, schools can educate children in a targeted way to achieve the harmonious development of the two. At present, our ethnic schools have not established an effective educational cooperation mechanism. The main reasons are as follows: First, families and schools lack the correct concept of cooperation. Some parents don't realize that educating their children is their right and obligation, and think that education is the unilateral responsibility of the school. As long as the children have no problems and don't communicate with the school, they lack initiative in the process of cooperation. Some parents only pay attention to their children's academic performance, and the purpose of communicating with the school is only to improve their academic performance. There are also some parents who have no time to interact with the school because of their limited time and energy. In the process of home-school education cooperation, the school is the guide. However, the leaders and teachers of some schools have insufficient understanding of home-school cooperation or have misunderstandings. They think it is their job to teach students, and parents should not interfere too much, taking their opinions as finding fault and challenging themselves. In addition, some teachers think that some parents' educational level and their own quality are not high, and they disdain to communicate with these parents about their children's education, which leads to the rigid relationship between parents and teachers. Secondly, the communication form between home and school is single. The traditional way of home-school cooperation is to hold a parent meeting or get parents to sign it, but there is no two-way interaction in the process. Generally speaking, parents rarely have the opportunity to speak, just listening to the teacher summarize the students' situation. Many times, only when children have problems will teachers invite parents to school and criticize them blindly. Sometimes even parents criticize together, but they don't really discuss the reasons for their children's mistakes with their parents and find solutions for their children. In this case, it is impossible to establish an effective cooperation mechanism between home and school education.