Definition of puppy love (science)

Puppy love, also known as adolescent love, refers to the establishment of a love relationship between underage men and women or their interest in different sex, infatuation or secret love. Narrow definition: puppy love, as the name implies, is puppy love. Broad definition: It is generally believed that puppy love will bring many problems, such as affecting teenagers' physical and mental health and academic performance, especially for girls, but generally it will not have too serious impact. Puppy love often ends in failure, and few of them can be together for a lifetime; Some people think that puppy love is teenagers' exploration and study of the relationship between men and women, preparing for future love and marriage, and should not be excessively prohibited and suppressed.

Puppy love behavior of teenagers who can't live independently and are far below the legal age for marriage. This is a controversial concept. Most educators in China believe that primary and secondary school students' falling in love is a premature behavior that does not conform to their age characteristics and should be stopped.

The characteristics of puppy love behavior can be summarized as: obscurity, simplicity, difference and instability. Because teenagers often blindly imitate the love of adults, they can't tell the essential difference between friendship and love. Therefore, most middle school students think that "puppy love is harmless" is just a kind of affection, not for the purpose of getting married. In recent years, premarital sex, teenage pregnancy and teenage mothers abroad are the root causes of puppy love. The roots of puppy love are mainly related to social rumors and misleading propaganda of sexual freedom by mass media, lack of correct sex education at home and school, and early puberty. The development of sexual physiology arouses the awakening of sexual consciousness, arouses teenagers' mystery about sex and arouses their desire to explore and try; Parents and teachers are allergic to puppy love, and blindly stopping them will strengthen their rebellious psychology; In the current information-developed era, middle school students have obtained a lot of information related to sex from various mass media, and their horizons have expanded dramatically, turning their hazy sexual consciousness into conscious pursuit.

Teenagers' puppy love generally goes through the following stages: ① Determine the goal. Start to pay attention to a certain opposite sex and miss it silently. At this stage, you can flirt with each other and make eyes at each other. Some middle school students' puppy love only stays at this stage and becomes "unrequited love". If you dare not associate with the opposite sex you like, you will also form emotional barriers, which will affect your normal life and study. 2 take action. Write love letters, pass notes, give small gifts, etc. Between middle school students of the opposite sex, it is a manifestation of affection for a certain opposite sex. At the same time, you can have dating behaviors, such as going to the park, watching movies, traveling, etc. ③ Frequent dating. Gradually enter a one-on-one relatively stable date, which may be open, and it seems that the "love" relationship has been determined. 4 sexual relations. Although it is a minority, it has increased in recent years, especially among students in vocational high schools, technical secondary schools and technical schools. Because I feel that I am about to enter the society, and I am an adult. I have more premarital sex than ordinary middle schools. However, because educators are not unified in their sexual concepts and educational methods, the definition of puppy love tends to expand, and healthy heterosexual communication in adolescence is often labeled as puppy love, which also brings educational difficulties. For example, spontaneous group and collective activities of middle school students. It is the performance of adolescent cluster; The opposite sex helps and cares for each other, and occasionally moves alone; There is also friendship between peers, childhood friends, etc., not necessarily puppy love.