Do you know the marriage customs in Quanzhou?

Men get married when they are old enough, women get married when they are old enough. Marriage etiquette is not only a person's life-long event, and by the family and society attaches great importance. China's ancient marriage etiquette, there are "six rituals" rules. The six rites are: Nacai (marriage proposal), asking for the name (asking for the name of the woman), Naji (betrothal), Naji (sending gifts), please period (notification of the date of the wedding), and kissing (marriage). The six rites of passage set out the basic procedures for marriage, and although they have gone through a long history, they are still practiced by successive generations. Although the six rites are not practiced in the modern folklore of Quan Gang, they are included in the actual activities. Said pro marriage in feudal society to follow the "parents' orders, matchmaker's words", the family has a son or daughter of the year and the crown, the proposal of marriage on the doorstep. In the old days, there were matchmakers who specialized in arranging marriages, and they would go to the door to arrange marriages for people who wanted to get married, and this was also the case in Quan Gang. Traditionally, the so-called "matchmaking" of "explicit marriage", of course, there are also people who are close to the family to serve as a temporary, but often refers to professional matchmakers, this kind of practitioners are mostly middle-aged and elderly women, Quan Hong Kong people called "matchmaking woman The practitioners are mostly middle-aged and elderly women, whom the people of Quan Hong Kong call "matchmakers". Although free love is now emerging, but there is still room for matchmaking activities in rural areas, mostly for the first introduction of the matchmaker, the two sides initially considered suitable and then fall in love, but also achieved a lot of happy marriages. In recent times, generally to the age of 18, is considered to enter the marriage age. Male parents to matchmakers or friends and relatives for their sons to find objects, to the female parents to propose marriage. If the two sides recognized, the female parents will be their daughter's "eight characters of the birth date" with red paper in regular script "Kun made a certain year, a certain month, a certain day, a certain time Rui Sheng", by the matchmaker sent to the male family to get married. The male party is pressed in the hall in front of the ancestors of the wooden main card or home stove under the incense burner divination, three days at home did not break the dishes and cups or family members do not have the head burn ear-heat inauspicious things, known as the "three days round", depending on the female party, "the eight head of the clear", the object is appropriate. Otherwise, the return of the "eight characters of the birth date" to show that the marriage negotiations can not be booked. This form of rejection of the other party, the woman believes that the fate of this, do not mind. There is also "on the Chinese zodiac" custom is also an important part of the folklore of the marriage of the tiger on the dog does not fit, snake on the snake does not fit, horse on the horse does not fit, and so on, the Chinese zodiac does not fit, the two sides have scruples. Some people also ask a fortune-teller on the birth of both men and women for divination, to see the two sides of the fate is consistent or grams. These are of course superstitious words and deeds, the new era of young men and women do not think, enlightened elders will not care about these. The marriage is commonly referred to as a match. After the marriage successfully, both men and women should be for each other's family history, occupation, character, etc. to carry out some investigation on the marriage to obtain a basic agreement, generally by the male party to meet the "matchmaking" requirements. Day by the matchmaker and the two men and women agreed, in the woman's home. The blind date is a key part of the success or failure of the marriage. The man prepares gifts and goes to the woman's house accompanied by relatives and the matchmaker, who cleans the door and prepares tea to welcome the guests. During the process, the woman will come out to offer tea, which is in fact a face-to-face meeting with the man and his relatives; the woman's relatives will also scrutinize the man. Tuling and other places also have a woman to the man's home blind date custom, this is because the woman herself also want to see the man's family environment, only in mind. In the territory, there are also matchmaking neither to the man's home, nor to the woman's home, that is, men and women choose a place, brought by the matchmaker to meet. So after the right to see, if both sides are satisfied, the next step is to choose an auspicious date "engagement". Engagement Engagement is inevitably mediated by the matchmaker, and both parties "bargain" over the bride price, trousseau, and pandan. The more enlightened women's parents don't mind the amount of the bride price and trousseau, while the more conservative ones are very demanding. Generally speaking, the amount of the bride price depends on the man's family, etc., ranging from 20,000 yuan to 40,000 to 50,000 yuan. Plate of the general 6 to 8 quintals, as much as 12 quintals, plate of the quintals are generally pre-determined a number of pounds of each of the noodle line, pork, pig's feet (fishing villages and yellowtail) and other things. In the area of Jieshan Town, which is on the border between Quangang and Xianyou, due to the influence of the customs of the neighboring areas for a long time, the rites were simpler and the bride price was greatly reduced, with only 3-6 quintals in the panchayat. Now with the improvement of material life, many physical are folded into cash delivery.