What are the customs in Guangzhou to invite wine

Marrying a chicken follows the chicken, marrying a dog follows the dog, in Guangzhou, should act according to the customs of my hometown. The so-called "local customs".

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(a) to propose marriage The use of cake goat, hopscotch, jiahe, gelatin lacquer, live chickens or flower cloth. --- "Bringing Chicken", meaning good luck.

(2) The Great Ceremony

The ceremonies before the wedding are the most solemn and important, and the bride price, bride price and dowry mutually agreed upon by the two families are to be honored on this day. On this day, the male family will be pre-prepared for a variety of bride price filled with food frame, box basket, sticker red cypress, or pick or carry, by the male family of the aunt and sister-in-law sisters sent to the female family in great numbers. The man in the "over the gift" in the whole pig and sheep is often sent, so the ballad has "line pig over the gift" of the lyrics. Cake food is also a must, is the "big cake", the type of cake up to more than a dozen kinds, according to the conditions of the family and the degree of elaborate pandering to prepare a kind of cake to several kinds of cakes ranging from burnt pork, chickens, geese, ducks, fish, rice cakes, and so on.

Women's families receive gifts from men's families, and immediately send the original dowry to the men's families. Mainly for daily necessities, the more common are clothes, quilts, pillows, mats and tents, as well as such as closets, dressers, suitcases, Baxiantai, bedclothes, refrigerators, televisions, rice cookers and so on.

"Over the big gift" is generally in the day before the wedding, the odd festive atmosphere is very strong, those who send gifts to the sister-in-laws, generally dressed in full costume, up and down the tufts of new, picking the crowded roads to walk, in order to tell each other along the way to the happy event.

(C) to receive the bride

generally include the room or warm room, welcome, back to the door three links, the time lasts three days. The first day to lay or warm room, the second day to welcome, the third day back to the door. Huizhou's custom is not the same, the wedding basically refers to the bride and lag two links, as for the bride (that is, to receive the bride), it mainly includes a room, sedan chair to welcome the bride, salt and rice, across the fire step au bar and so on the main several customs.

1. Pavement

Pavement is an old custom that continues to this day. It is a custom that after a woman sends her dowry to the man's house, the woman's aunts and sisters help to set up the new house. Two things to pay attention to, one is to set up the bed, cabinets, dressers and so on to pay attention to the orientation, feng shui, to pay attention to is the closet mirror can not be to the bed. Mirror and is synonymous with demon, and demon mirror to the bed, is obviously inauspicious. The second is to lay the room of the person to "good life", the folk believe that the main standard of good life is "more children, more happiness". Therefore, widows, infertile or childbearing women are not allowed to participate in the room, and many children, naturally, is the main participant in the room.

2.on the flower night

The day before the bride to get married, the clan's aunts and sisters (must choose the so-called good people) to specialize in combing and makeup for the bride to play flowers Jiang dress dress, which is what the folk said "flower", this night, folk custom is also known as "on the night of the flower!

This night, folk custom is also known as "on the night of flowers", is a very solemn ceremony before the bride married.

This ceremony, the bride is often accompanied by crying and singing, when the bride faced with a major turning point in life, are generally very emotional, the bride cried sadly, sleepless nights, more a traditional wedding "happy and sad" atmosphere.

3. Float to welcome the new

all the way to the drums. To the woman's home, the women's sisters refused to the door, the groom rushed to send "money", after all the sisters a pass, it will be able to take the bride out. Bride crying, not to go, the male family members of both hard and soft, coaxed out of the boudoir, and coaxed its (hard push) on the car, the groom will also give the limousine driver to seal the "lishui.

4, salt and rice

To receive the bride, in advance, with a good number of salt, rice, black sesame and other things, that is, on the way to receive the bride to spread along the road, so-called sacrifices to the God of the bridge; and along the road to spread, is for the sacrifices to the God of the road.

Spreading salt and rice custom in fact for China's traditional marriage rituals, "sprinkle beans" of a variant of the habit. "It is not a common practice in the south, but it is a legacy of the north.

5, cover the head, step on the concave bar and cross Wang fire

The bride received at home, this is the groom holding a fan fan, if the male family of the Miss Auntie eight grams, they must use the cover (bamboo woven container), sieve and other things to cover up not to meet directly with the bride. Folk believe that the bride red luck at the head, killing gas is very large, the groom fan fan, said "weak its killing gas", people avoid seeing, said "to avoid its killing gas". In some places, the bride out of the sedan chair, the groom with a concave bar (edited by a container) to block the bride's head place. According to folklore, where the married woman to filial piety, even if the sedan chair to the male family, but also a step back three times, and the groom of the concave bar, is to cover the bride constantly turning back to the line of sight, it is very famous, this practice is to make the bride focus on marrying to the male family, do not always think of the mother's home.

In addition to cover the head of this custom, there is also the practice of stepping on the fence, the bride out of the car, the male family will rush to the bride's feet in front of a concave fence, so that the bride's feet stepped on and through the folk said, "feet with the concave fence with the nest (concave) to turn," is very famous, which is to allow the bride to pass through the door after the bride to be able to concentrate on the male family in the "nest". "Nest" to do cattle and horses.

Treading through the fence ready to enter the house, it is customary to let the bride across the fire. Even if it is not set up a special fire pit, some old people also want to grab a handful of grass burning in the doorway, so that the bride across. This custom in the north is called "across the fire". Some places are also across the carbon fire, is a longer folk custom. He has two intentions. One is to take the word "prosperous", the bride across the prosperous torch, the next day to bring the husband's family "prosperous fire". Another is to take "avoid" word, mainly to avoid the evil Chong. Folk artificially there are two "evil" source, one is the wedding time, the viewers like clouds, which inevitably mixed with some of the family funeral, sick people, folk believe that they have an evil Chong, Huizhou is said to be with these people with "simmering (taboo)"; another source of evil is the From the bride herself, the woman's body with "dirty", which is a traditional Chinese old ideas.

While the meaning of the "fire", but mainly to avoid evil, the fire bowl burned by the wang grass, silk grass, pick card and other things, are traditional Chinese evil things. In particular, "wangcao", "wiping medicine", it is used to protect people from the evil body medicine.

6, holding candles

After the return of the bride, the bride into the bridal chamber before the first boy holding candles to the bridal chamber. The folk song also sings: "hold the candle, hold to the bride's room Duk (the end of the meaning, or the meaning of the innermost)."

According to customary practice, to be preferred to a boy (usually relatives in the clan more than one brother), with the wedding party to pick up the bride (at this time has been holding a good candle), pick up the return or that is, directly hold the candle to the bridal chamber to place. This should be Fengzi a common intolerable, with more brothers of the boy as a guide, for the bride to light incense, will lead to the children and grandchildren.

7, welcome the bride drums and music

"Receive the bride" throughout the process are generally drums and music. "Drums and gongs cabinet", to drums and gongs, cymbals, cymbals, with suona. Drum bands blow back and forth with the bridal party, rendering a festive atmosphere.

(D) lagging bride

The bride to the home, the first worship hall, worship heaven and earth, worship ancestors, worship parents high hall, and in turn to the male elders tea, which is called "drink the bride tea"; and all the elders should be returned to the seal of the "Lishui" package, in order to wish the newlyweds Great luck. After the ceremony, is a big feast "and the bride wine".

After the wedding banquet, people rush into the new room. First of all, to "eat the bride tea, smoke the bride". According to the rules of the bride to each pour tea and cigarettes, at this time, people tend to let the hot tea poured full, deliberately let the bride scalded; and intentionally blow out the bride to light a cigarette fire, so that the bride is at a loss; Erlang, and let the bride in a few inches wide on the long wooden bench to walk across, said "over the bridge". Bench easy to buckle at both ends, the middle of only a palm wide, people walk on it shaky, and some good things, but also deliberately broken stool feet beforehand, so that the bride fell from the stool. As for the bride and groom to bite candy, the bride to speak obscene words and so on, it is a common thing. The further down, the more chaotic order. Some secretly take pine needles and other prickly things to stab the bride's neck and back, or pepper spray to the bride's face, and push and shove. Women's family with the aunt and sister-in-law to try to persuade and support, but also to no avail. The bride also forced a smile, but the face flow trips with sweat and tears. This behavior of the bride to play tricks on, often until late at night.

"Listen to the room" habit, also belongs to the new room. Generations of inheritance, and even today can vaguely see the legacy of this wedding custom.

(E) three Chao back to the door

The day after the wedding, the bride got up early to serve her family, the day to meet the family and friends visiting neighbors, to the third day, early in the morning they will have to make some gifts with the bridegroom back to visit their parents, called "we Chao back to the door". It is Huizhou traditional wedding etiquette in a very elaborate ritual. If the proposed marriage, divination, settled, reported to the day, over the ceremony for the pre-wedding ceremony, welcome the bride, lagging bride for the wedding ceremony, then, three times back to the door is the wedding or ceremony.

Three dynasties back to the door and the ancient Hou "son-in-law" custom has a close relationship. Xiyang miscellany" book in the North and South Dynasties, "son-in-law" custom, said: "son-in-law to worship the pavilion (women live in the house) day, the woman's family relatives and guests of women gathered, each with a cane 'hit son-in-law' for the fun, to the great Commission on the person. "

Also known as "lagging groom", from the form to the content and "son-in-law", "play son-in-law" habits have similarities. According to the custom of Huizhou, the newcomer to the family-in-law after the first thing, is to meet the parents-in-law, and then one by one to meet the relatives in the family. In the worship of the sisters in the clan, often have begun to "lagging groom". According to traditional customs, the groom to the Yue family ancestors and the Yue family house of the four sides of the God, then the sisters to the side of the coaxing, or let the groom to worship a few more times, do not allow it to get up; or let the new Lang frequently kneel, do not allow it to intermittent; some good people, but also pull the groom to the chicken coop or pigsty next to the expressly said to be the groom to worship the God of the chicken coop or the God of the pigsty, in fact, it is the bridegroom teasing. If the groom does not comply, the sisters will be back to force "law enforcement", so that the groom had to be from.

By the end of the worship, the family in-laws feast Lang son-in-law. During the banquet, the father-in-law and the old man in the clan to come up with some pairs of questions and problems for the groom to answer, said to test the groom's talent, in fact, is difficult for the groom; and those good sisters, this time they copied the "stagnation of the bride" to tease the groom, so that the groom is in a terrible situation.

"Lagging bridegroom" although not as much as "lagging bride", but the sisters of the Yuejia family are always pointed directly at the groom, roughly on the bride in the male family by the teasing of a kind of "back to honor "

The bridegroom's sister is always pointing the finger at the bridegroom.

Newlywed three Chao Hui door is a traditional marriage in Huizhou custom, so the etiquette is quite elaborate. Back to the door when the gifts, the first for the chicken, folk said "with the road chicken", which is necessary for good luck. The rest of the gifts, such as fish, meat, geese, seafood, mountain treasures, cakes and food to listen to their own. These gifts, the male family are generally more than one, such as meat, prepare two, the female family received gifts, according to custom to return to the male family a piece. The rest, such as the big orange is indispensable, such as no big orange, that is, must be replaced by orange; big orange symbolizes "big auspicious", the female family to receive the gift. But also back to the male family big tangerine (Ji).

Not unless the marriage from afar, the city and suburban marriage, the three Chao back to the door is generally the father-in-law's son-in-law, the bride and son-in-law's sisters and sisters-in-law to eat a meal, and then make a return gift, the same day to return.

Return gifts to the guest of honor, there are steamed by the mother-in-law of the big red hair cake and red convergence cake, "with the road chicken" is indispensable. Huizhou also has the custom of returning to the door in January of the newlyweds, when the return gift mother-in-law steamed big cage (a kind of glutinous rice sweet cake), the maiden family aunt steamed convergence cake.

Booking a banquet 1. Generally choose an auspicious day to get married, usually to be booked in advance.

2. When booking a place at a banquet, there is a clear requirement for the main family seat, while there is no special restriction for other guests, and most of them are on a first-come-first-served basis or programmed by the host family.

3. It is recommended to pre-arrange the location for the guests to avoid the chaos and mis-arrangement. In particular, some friends and relatives may have a less cordial relationship, or more distant, to avoid misunderstandings, it is best to systematically pre-arrange the seating, the allocation of table number, so that guests into their places, foolproof.

4. When booking a banquet, you must list the name of the hall on the order, so as not to be too crowded or scattered seats later complaints. 5. dishes, the content of the banquet should be to the Department of detailed inquiries, pay attention to some of the bluff words, such as "auspicious sea fresh" or "dragon and phoenix hundred years of good luck," etc., to clearly specify the content of the dishes. Whether abalone or shark's fin, suckling pig is whole or part, should be clearly listed.

6. When booking the banquet, do not forget to arrange a new lounge, as well as ask whether there is a safe equipment. The bride's room should not be too far away from the place where the banquet is held, the area should not be too narrow, and ask if there is any equipment provided to hang and put evening gowns and ironing. F}u'A,Hc

7. Clearly ask the price of each service charge, such as tea, corkage, beer, soda, snacks before the seat and a variety of service charges. 8. Before paying the deposit, you should ask how the deposit will be handled if the wedding banquet is canceled due to bad weather or unexpected things, and whether you have to compensate for the loss, and never forget to ask for a receipt for the deposit. Be clear about the amount that can be added or subtracted from the number of seats and how the remaining seats will be handled. .

9. Budgeting for the number of banquets should take into account the attendance rate of the guests, so as to avoid some embarrassing situations due to insufficient or excessive guests.

10. The charges and service scope should be set out in black and white, do not make verbal promises.

Return gift is the wedding immediately after the return, at least to return half. People then at the banquet to, then back, not in the after the return. It is a polite way of treating guests, and on the other hand, it is a good idea to speak on behalf of good luck.