Can you accept your parents' divorce or remarriage?

In traditional Chinese culture, the concept of family has always been regarded as the highest value. As a child, one has the obligation to shoulder family responsibilities and maintain family harmony. However, with the acceleration of urbanization and modernization, more and more families are experiencing conflicts and problems. Among them, divorce and remarriage have become a serious social problem. For young people like me, I find it difficult to accept my parents' divorce or remarriage because I think it will have a great impact on the harmony of the family, the stability of affection and personal growth.

First of all, my parents' divorce will make me feel extremely lost and helpless. Family is the most important environment for a person to grow up, and my parents are the most important pillars in my life. Nowadays, as various pressures and challenges in society intensify, my parents' marital relationship is also prone to various problems. For me, my parents' decisions may be due to their own interests without considering my feelings as a child. After all, I was raised by them and depended on them to grow up, and if they were no longer united then I would feel helpless and disappointed. My parents' divorce was a major blow and psychological damage to me.

Secondly, my parents' remarriage is also unacceptable to me. Although remarriage is common in the society nowadays, in my opinion, remarriage means new relatives and new family, all of which need to go through a long process of adaptation. In other words, remarriage will seriously affect the stability of my family and the development of kinship relationship. I may need to adapt to new family members, expand my new network of relationships, and also adapt to a new environment and lifestyle. Such an adaptation process will require a lot of my time and energy, and it will also take time for my family and intimate relationships to be re-established. This will have a negative impact on my personal growth and development.

Lastly, the divorce or remarriage of parents is not conducive to the development of family harmony and affection. The family is a most basic social unit, and harmony is a prerequisite for family harmony and affectionate stability. However, parents' divorce or remarriage will directly disrupt the balance of family harmony, increase tensions and conflicts among family members, and reduce the intimacy and trust among family members. Obviously, this is detrimental to the future development of the family and the healthy growth of children.

Therefore, as a child, I cannot accept my parents to divorce or remarry. Instead, I hope that my parents will consider my feelings across their own interests, maintain family harmony, and resolve conflicts and problems through communication, mutual understanding and support. Only in this way can our family be a harmonious, happy and fulfilling one, and I can grow and develop successfully.