Mother-in-law old feudal ideas how to say her (in the face of feudal conservative mother-in-law)

My hometown is in a third-tier city, my father has two brothers and sisters, my uncle is an elementary school teacher, my uncle's mother is a rural woman with little education, she has been around her family and husband all her life , and her concepts are conservative and feudal, and the idea of male superiority and female inferiority is serious, and she has a lot of incomprehensible remarks.

For example, dinner must be given to the man of the house first meal; women, children's clothes and men's clothes can not be washed together, otherwise the man will be bad luck; men can not give women wash underwear, bad luck.

Cousin Xiaowei a meter eighty-two head, is also considered a talented person, the test is a teacher training college in our local area, in the school to meet the girl Li Li, Li Li a meter five and a half, long and very beautiful, the two in addition to the gap between the head big point, other conditions are quite match. However, the aunt smacked the girl short, said the impact of the next generation.

In the cousin's insistence, they got married, soon Li Li pregnant, and the cousin by the aunt's teachings, chauvinism is very serious, that the woman is supposed to do more chores, but the face of the reality of the firewood, rice, oil and salt or some compromise, although the two inevitably bumps, but still can go on.

Strangely enough, every time the aunt went to the cousin's home, Xiaowei two families on the fight, Li Li at first felt puzzled, and then slowly understand, the original is their mother-in-law did not give her husband a good word.

Li Li to Xiaowei when complaining, Xiaowei always said: "Our family has always been so, mom on their own so demanding, you adapt to the good."

Once, Xiaowei is washing clothes, aunt came , a look at Xiaowei's clothes on both sides of the family put together to wash, she was angry Xiaowei said a pass, Xiaowei held a bellyful of gas, and Li Li began to quarrel, and finally upgraded to fight.

Later, Li Li suffered from fibroids, menstruation on the blood flow, aunt prevented Xiaowei to Li Li wash underwear, said bad luck, Xiaowei two families for this and a fight.

Li Li repeatedly thought of divorce, but she felt that the aunt is after all their mother-in-law, is the eldest, plus Xiaowei's nature is not bad, just too low emotional quotient, will not be rounded to deal with the problem. In order to maintain their own families, she has been tolerating compromise, but the aunt of Li Li's tolerance as obedience. So Xiaowei husband and wife quarrels and fights have become commonplace, and finally the two lost divorce.

At the time of the divorce, Li Li disliked her mother-in-law: "You think your son is very good? When you meet a mom like you, your son is sure to be a bachelor."

In this marriage, the aunt thought feudal and old-fashioned, cultural level is not high, the ability to accept new things is low, many ideas are still stuck in the ancient times, overly involved in the son's life, that the woman is to the family as the most important thing, to the man as the most important thing, but she forgot that she is also a woman, so this approach will only make the son's life more and more bad.

Xiaowei as a man, filial piety parents should be, but can not be stupid filial piety, can not blindly think that the mother are right, at the same time, to play a lubricant role between the mother and the daughter-in-law, learn to solve the marital problems of the high IQ, so that they can protect their loved ones.

Li Li would have been very respectful of her mother-in-law, began to tolerate at every turn, but she is not weak, the domineering response to the divorce, so that her mother-in-law was speechless! Some things can back off, but some things must not be compromised.

It is said that love is a matter of two people, marriage is a matter of two families. In marriage, just two people love each other is not enough, it needs every member of the family respect, understanding, tolerance. Divorce is not an easy thing, after all, marriage is not child's play.

And as we, we have to learn from these things, know what we should do, what we should not do, know how we should grow, how to be strong. There will be many bumps in the road of marriage, we have to face them, we can't just run away from them, and do it with a clear conscience, and don't let anyone bully you so easily.