What are the characteristics of Chinese style parents?

I feel that when it comes to educating my children, when it comes to making me particularly angry, I feel that it is better to be single or to live alone without children. Chinese parents love their children in their hearts, but they don't do it in the right way, so it is difficult for the children to understand and accept this kind of brutal love.

They subconsciously follow the traditional thinking, the relationship between the child and their own as a hierarchical relationship, a blind but defend their dignity, regardless of the right and wrong to copy and imitate the old generation of "under the stick out of filial piety," the way of education, reckless like the child to transmit anxiety, and ultimately get the result of the polar opposite. They want to talk to you, but never give you equal status. They want to communicate with you, but when they are questioned, they will be confronted with verbal violence. They want you to be strong and confident, but they want you to be subservient and obedient to them at home, and to criticize, criticize and even abuse you in front of others.

When you're wrong, they want to blame you and all your behaviors, but don't help you figure it out. When you get it right, they are ecstatic and brag about the excellence and success of their education, even if they just gave you a bite to eat. They are so impatient that they can't communicate well and be patient with you, which are two of the basic tenets of homeschooling. When we look beyond the surface of impatience and anxiety, we can only see another ****-similarity in their parenting, which is controlling their children with their own ideas. Psychologically controlling parents also inflict incurable damage on their children.

Controlling mothers generally have the following characteristics: highly neurotic, prone to anxiety, easily triggered by some small things to anxiety, anxiety produced by the need to bet on the outside world to relieve anxiety, lack of friends, lack of their own hobbies. Husband and wife do not get along well and feel that their husbands are incompetent. If the parents quarrel a lot, it will be exponentially harmful to the children. On the one hand, strict discipline children, on the other hand, but also particularly love their children, do not want their children independent out, generally through the accusation, disparagement, distrust and other ways to interfere with and control children.

Characteristics of a controlled child: A child who is more skillful and knowledgeable, and whose grades are not too bad. Willing to pay for others. Junior high school grades decline (relative to elementary school), if the decline is serious, generally accompanied by isolation and bullying. If grades are upstream. Generally more lonely and arrogant. Strong ideals. In the middle of high school, grades decline severely and relationships are sensitive, with a desire to socialize on the one hand, but overly self-conscious on the other, leading to poor friendships. Begins to rebel against his mother, but is dependent on her. Education is the process of forging a sword for a child, and these parents seem to prefer controlling the sword-bearer before meeting the beast. A child without a sword in his hand, anything will be a roadblock for him.