Ten sentences from nan, a master of Chinese studies, to his parents.

South's concept of educating children is in the same strain as China's traditional concept of educating children, which is a way to really start from being a man and an adult and then talk about making contributions. This is the essence of China's traditional culture and education wisdom, which aims to let children establish the virtue of a gentleman before talking about her husband's career. The following is an article I carefully arranged for you, hoping to help you.

In today's era when everyone is staring at modern education and western education, this is extremely rare and rare, almost a swan song. Therefore, it is particularly worthy of domestic parents' attention and serious understanding. More importantly, according to this kind of educational wisdom which has been proved to be effective by thousands of years' history in China, a tall and profound personality and interest foundation will be established for children.

Teach children, teach people first.

I often say that our education has no direction and purpose in the past 100 years. What do we want children in our country to learn? There are also problems with educational methods, which need to be reconsidered.

The content of "University" is a way to touch the education in China. What is the purpose of education? Teach to be a man first. Where does life begin? Let's start with the cultivation of mind.

Physical and mental cultivation is the foundation of being a man. No matter what occupation or position you are, as long as you are human, this is the basic literacy. This is the foundation of education in China. "University" said,? From Tian Zi to Shu Ren, firstly, they are all based on self-cultivation? .

If we want to ask the Chinese nation, what is the purpose of China education? We repeat: for? Being a man? , not for? Life? .

As long as the child is a good person and has skills.

Children should grow up by themselves, don't ask too much, and let them develop freely. Education is not to see whether he will succeed in the future, but to hope that he will grow into a good person first.

Especially modern schools and extracurricular remedial education methods are simply? Fishing after fatigue? The way to make the mental health of ordinary underage boys suffer the most serious damage from overload.

There is an old saying? A thousand hectares of fertile land, it is better to have a skill? . Children will have their own skills to make a living in the future, such as being carpenters and plasterers, which has nothing to do with knowledge, identity and status. This is the minimum. Learning is learning, and eating is eating. There used to be many learned and capable people in China, but they didn't come out to do it? Stone? Yes, because he has the ability to make a living.

I only tell my children that you don't have to be promoted and made a fortune, you must want to do great things and go to a famous university. As long as you learn a living skill well, you can make a living, and you will be honest and honest all your life. Getting rich and being an official is a thing of the past. My education for children is like this. Everything needs their independent development. Is this what the ancients said? People are expensive and independent? The truth.

It is harmful for children to expect their success.

I think most education in ancient and modern times, at home and abroad has made a mistake. Parents often subconsciously place their unrealized hopes on their children, but forget their sexual orientation and nature.

Parents should think about how to train and coach their children correctly and let them become adults. It's a big mistake to only ask for studying, taking exams, making progress and hoping to get ahead. Loving children like this will only harm them.

The purpose of education and culture, the greatness of education and culture, lies in changing people's defects and supplementing people's regrets.

First of all, we must understand the nature of children.

Education, we must first know the child's sexual orientation, first understand a child's temperament direction. ? Education is just the edge. Teachers should try their best to help him, cultivate him and let him stand up on his own talent. This is the purpose of education.

Unfortunately, the basic purpose of modern people's understanding of culture and education is only to? Make a living? . Do we want our children to study, study and receive education only for their future, to have a good job and high salary, or to earn a lot of money and live a good life? Life? .

What's more, some people pin their hopes on their children and desperately force them to go to school. No consideration for children at all? Sexual orientation? I am interested in my personality, but I still don't understand my child's psychology and health. I blindly force my child to study, don't I know? Love hurts instead? Therefore, the consequences of a child's life are hindered.

Let me briefly say, what does the university say? People don't know the evil of children, and people don't know the greatness of seedlings. Parents have a preference for their children, so they only see his advantages and don't know his shortcomings. As parents, we should pay attention to these two admonitions from ancient sages. But the ancients had another saying, called? Know your son better than your father? It is very important to point out that parents know their children's nature, because teachers and others don't really know every student completely. Nowadays, parents just care too much about their children's education, but they don't pay deep attention to their children's pension.

Let children start from doing small things well.

It is one thing for children to start learning, but according to the traditional culture of China, what is the real purpose of children's pedagogy? Sweep it and deal with it? When children enter primary school at the age of six to eight, how to sweep the floor and clean the table, and how to talk politely and politely with teachers, adults and friends are the most important. In ancient times, people began to learn when they entered primary school? Sweep it and deal with it? , is the basis of learning to be a man, and the purpose of education is to be a man.

Don't sweep the floor, clean the table and serve the dishes. These are all a kind of life education. If you learn life education, you will naturally learn to do things when you grow up. If you don't learn basic education well, but you specialize in reading, it's called learning knowledge and learning IT. Without the foundation of being a man, this kind of education is a failure.

But people today are the opposite of the ancients. Nowadays, children, whether attending kindergarten, primary school or even university education, are learning knowledge, but they don't understand the fundamental truth of being a man and doing things, and society is in chaos.

Never spoil the child and let him stand up by himself.

Children in ancient times were like this. Parents cultivate their children with care and have the heart to send their 12-year-old children out as apprentices. There are no parents who spoil their children now. ? Children should stand on their own feet. As long as they want to have a mouth to eat, they should not do bad things. It is his skill and his destiny to go out and do something.

I was born at eighteen or nineteen. I am not a great man. You see, those great people all stood up by themselves and had no education. They are all self-taught. I tell you again, don't just expect your son's success, your daughter's success. There is a saying in China's ancient prose about the education of love. Li En gives birth to harm? Parents' love for their children is kind, but? Li En gives birth to harm? Too much love for children makes him unable to stand on his own feet.

For example, it is painful for parents to teach their children to scold them, but when they grow up, they will know how useful you are to them. Temper one's education with pain. Although he hated it at that time, he will think more and more later, right? Is injury a good thing? . Now you are educating your children in a westernized way, and I absolutely disapprove of it. Everything is for the children, and all young people will be hurt. Now so few young people are useful, all of them are raised in greenhouses. Born in the palace, longer than a woman's hand? After all, it is hard to be of great use.

Education should start with prenatal education.

Traditionally, education in China begins with prenatal education, and education begins with conception. There are rules. Husband and wife separate rooms, and then the pictures and things hanging at home will be changed, and the fetus knows it. What matters after birth is family education, not school.

According to the Book of Rites, once a woman is pregnant, her habits will change and she will read different books. In fact, the fetus has been in the womb for three months, and he already knows all kinds of behaviors, good and bad, such as parents quarreling after five or six months. This is intellectual, his consciousness has grown, but he forgot it at birth, but that influence is deeply polluted.

Therefore, China's cultural education begins with prenatal education. Parents' opinions, all words and deeds are constantly affecting children, and this influence is education.

Mother's education is particularly important.

It is very important that China's culture lasted for 3,000 years, largely due to women. Only when a family has a good housewife and a good mother can it talk about ways to maintain family order. ? China has always had good housewives, so it is very important to have a good woman when it comes to China's education, housekeeping and maternal education. ? Modern female education is very popular, but it is very difficult for women to be good wives and mothers, and it will be even more difficult in the future.

China's Confucian ideal for two thousand years? Qijia? Only in the simple rural families in the past can we often see that kind? Eyes full of children and grandchildren, chickens crow at noon in the rice fragrance season? Situation. However, such a well-off family must have a virtuous grandmother or housewife. As a real behind-the-scenes host, it is not necessarily the result of my husband or grandfather.

Mother education is the great enlightenment of world cultural education. As big as a country, a nation, as small as a child, without a good educational foundation of a good traditional wife and mother, then everything will be spared!

To be a woman, the hardest thing is to be a good wife and mother. Now that women are educated, they go out to work. Children can't bring, rice can't be cooked, vegetables can't be cooked, clothes can't be sewn, and family management is not good. For example, if you have a child, the first-class family will take a poor tutor, give the child to the servant to take care of it, then send the child to school and shift the responsibility to the school; If you break the law, you will argue that this is a social problem.

One of our classmates said that she wanted to run a women's university, and she should pay more attention to the "internal rules" in The Book of Rites and Biography of Women. This is our traditional education about women, including the education of children.

Be sure to let the children recite the classics.

In recent years, I have been advocating that children should read and recite. Now the evolution of education is very interesting, and the books read in primary school are of little use in middle school; Middle school books are of little use in universities; University books, studying abroad is of little use, I don't know what to read. I laugh when people say I'm learned. In fact, what I have been showing off all my life is what I looked like before I was thirteen.

Most people don't understand that this is the basic education method that China people have lost. In other words, West Renye Fang has forgotten it. There is only one primitive method of human education, and that is reciting. Especially when reading China's books, read aloud. What's the point of reading aloud?

This has a lot of meaning. I read more and naturally understand the phonology of words and words. In other words, I also know the knowledge of pinyin between words and languages. No matter Chinese or foreign, read aloud and gradually realize. When you grow up and understand phonology, you will have a wide range of knowledge in the future. If you learn a foreign language, regardless of English, French and German, you will understand the spelling of phonemes.

No matter the four books and five classics, or ancient books, any paragraph is like singing, and it is easy to recite with a little explanation. Memorizing it like this will be useful for a lifetime and will never be forgotten. Remember not only China culture, but also foreign languages.

Endorsement is not specific and unstable. It is not painful for children to carry things on their backs, but they are very happy. Because you sing and recite exclusively, your mind is calmer. Thought and behavior must change. This will talk about the problem of brain waves, that is, let the brain and nerves think arbitrarily, so as to calm down, change the physiological function of the body and get health. When the brain becomes healthy, thinking and behavior will also become healthy.

Endorsement has many advantages, but general medicine, especially brain medicine, has not been studied in detail. I'm not an expert in brain medicine. I just want to mention that the function of recitation can increase a person's intelligence, memory and thinking ability, and make his thinking more delicate and meticulous.

Children recite ancient books and really recite ancient Chinese. After the development of intelligence, they can see at a glance that this benefit has come out. You can see the current education method. Every child from primary school to middle school, the heavier the schoolbag, the thicker the glasses, the homework at 90 o'clock in the evening, the exam every day and every year, the things in high school and middle school, and the things in front of the university. This is a waste.

Education must be gradual, and never go too far.

I often tell my friends that your children are too smart and should be careful in education. Nowadays, parents in many families are very happy to see their children smart, and they all try their best to cultivate their children. In fact, educating children is like planting a good flower. If you fertilize too much and water too often, a good flower seedling will be hurt.

Don't break the child. It's hours, but it's not necessarily good, okay? It is a truth that if you are too smart when you are young, you may soon have problems, but you may not be smart when you grow up.