Do our parents really want to change the way of education?

My parents love me very much. I was never beaten by my parents when I was a child, but I was threatened by old people.

I have had a daunting parenting experience since I was a child.

Because the big environment at that time was like this, parents would educate their children in this way, so many children were rebellious and timid.

It is not advisable to intimidate preschool education. We should change it, otherwise, our children will have the following situation.

First, there will be rebellion.

. When a child makes a mistake, parents don't talk to him patiently by persuasion and education, but by violence, which will cause psychological shadow to the child. After a long time, he will have rebellious psychology in his heart.

They will reject their parents' education and are unwilling to communicate with them. Anyway, they will be beaten. So they will hide their hearts. After a long time, they may hurt themselves in the face of problems.

Some children will pound their heads if they can't solve a problem. In fact, this is related to parents' usual education methods. What's more, children will impose this violent tendency on others.

When the problem reappears, it will not be solved by peaceful means, but by force, even hurting others.

Second, I am willing to please others.

Children who grow up under the threat of their parents are easy to look at others' faces and please others. They will follow others, be careful what they say, and they will put a low profile.

Because they are afraid that others will dislike her and that they will not play with him, they are always trying to please others. Such children will grow up without their own independent personality, easy to listen to other people's suggestions, and instinctively retreat after encountering difficulties, so it is difficult for them to succeed.

Third, children will become very timid.

Living with parents for a long time will scare their children into cowardice, because in the face of fierce parents, they dare not show their heart, but only hide behind their backs to secretly observe their parents' faces and please their parents.

When such children grow up, they will also become afraid to take on problems and responsibilities, evade and shirk their responsibilities, and think that everything has nothing to do with themselves, because as long as they bear such mistakes, they will accept a beating.

Fourth, children will lose trust in their parents.

If parents often carry out threat education at home, when their children are still young, they don't know that what their parents say is false, and they are all scaring them.

But when children are older and start to have their own consciousness and judgment, they will know that their parents are deceiving themselves, so they will distrust their parents more and more, and they will not tell their parents when they really encounter difficulties and dangers.