The source of not being born by mourning.

The saying that people don't borrow their lives can be traced back to the ancient etiquette and custom culture in China.

There is a traditional folk proverb in China that you can borrow money for funerals, but you can't borrow money for weddings. This is because in China's traditional culture, holding a funeral is a ceremony of mourning and remembering the deceased relatives, while holding a happy event is regarded as a ceremony of celebration and joy. Therefore, it shows the importance and standardization of family economy and social interpersonal relationship in China traditional culture.

In ancient China, social interpersonal relationship and family economy were inseparable, and people attached great importance to mutual assistance in social interaction. In this cultural background, family economy and social interpersonal relationships are intertwined, forming a saying that grief is greater than heart death.

The sentence "I don't want to borrow my life" embodies two important concepts in China's traditional culture. First of all, it reflects the importance that China traditional culture attaches to family economy. In the traditional culture of China, family economy is the foundation and guarantee of family life, so the management and operation of family economy is very important. This sentence is the norm and guidance of family economic management, telling people how to make correct decisions in family economy.

The influence of mourning without life;

1. This custom helps to maintain harmony and order in the community. In traditional society, people attach importance to mutual assistance and cooperation between neighbors, and it is the embodiment of this spirit of mutual assistance to borrow one's life instead of one's life. When there is a funeral in a neighbor's house, everyone will help with it, giving spiritual condolences and material help, which will help strengthen the cohesion and sense of belonging of the community.

This custom also helps to inherit traditional culture and values. In the traditional culture of China, death is regarded as a mysterious and solemn thing, and it is the embodiment of this traditional concept to replace life with mourning. In this way, people can inherit and carry forward the values of filial piety and etiquette in traditional culture, and at the same time promote mutual understanding and communication among community members.

This custom also has some negative effects. In modern society, with the improvement of people's living standards and the change of ideas, more and more people begin to pursue the choice of personal rights and freedom. Therefore, this custom of overemphasizing neighborhood mutual assistance and traditional values may be regarded by some people as a constraint and restriction, which is not conducive to the protection of individual rights and social progress.