On the necessity of etiquette learning and suggestions on etiquette teaching in combination with modern etiquette.

Etiquette refers to the formation of people in social communication due to historical traditions, customs, religious beliefs, the trend of the times and other factors, which is not only recognized by people, but also observed by people. It is the sum total of various codes of conduct and norms aimed at establishing harmonious relations and meeting communication requirements. In short, etiquette is the code of conduct that people should abide by in social communication activities. China has always been a "state of etiquette". Etiquette is not only an important part of ideology and morality, but also an important form of spiritual civilization construction. Rites not only reflect a person's mental outlook, but also reflect the moral fashion of a unit, a region and even the whole society. With the increasingly frequent communication between people and countries, as well as the exchange and collision between eastern and western cultures, etiquette and customs around the world have been continuously integrated and developed. Colleges and universities should bring the etiquette education of college students into the training process. First, the necessity of strengthening etiquette education (1) College students adapt to the needs of modern information society. The rapid development of communication technology and means in the modern information society is changing people's traditional communication concepts and behaviors, especially people's communication scope is gradually expanding from interpersonal communication to public communication, from face-to-face short-distance communication to long-distance communication, and from slow-paced low-frequency communication to fast-paced high-frequency communication. This change in interpersonal communication in modern information society puts forward higher requirements for the content and mode of human social communication. (2) It is the need for college students to improve their ideological and political quality. A student who knows little about books and whose knowledge level is seriously out of harmony with moral standards cannot become an excellent talent. At present, there is a phenomenon in many colleges and universities: students have received high-level education, but their actual behavior can't even reach the basic moral level, and a considerable part of it is related to the lack of necessary etiquette education. Etiquette is an illegal social norm (including legal norms and non-legal norms), which mainly includes moral norms, religious norms, customs and habits, and living standards. , and it is the basic norm to regulate the behavior of social members. Systematic etiquette education for college students, so that they can master the basic code of conduct, can not only enrich their etiquette knowledge, master the etiquette norms that meet the social moral requirements, and know how to express their behavior according to the etiquette norms in real life, but also organically unify their internal moral quality and external etiquette forms and become a veritable modern civilized person with high moral literacy. (3) It is the need for college students to establish good interpersonal relationships. Whether they can establish good interpersonal relationships with others during their college years has a very important influence on the growth and study of college students. Psychologist John gotman's research results show that children who know how to solve the problems around them and deal with the troubles in life in an appropriate way are healthier physically and mentally, more concerned about others, more empathetic, more friends and better academic performance. Dale Carnegie's "The Road to Success" and Jimmy Donnan's and John Maxwell's "The Strategy to Success" all derive the same formula: personal success = 15% professional skills +85% interpersonal and social skills. Therefore, it is an urgent need for college students to adapt to the new living environment, develop from "dependent" people to "independent" people, establish good interpersonal relationships and successfully move towards society. If college students can master basic etiquette norms and knowledge, basic communication skills, and follow the principles of mutual respect, sincerity, moderation in words and deeds, equality and friendship, they can quickly establish a harmonious and good interpersonal relationship with their communication partners. (4) It is the need to strengthen the civilized behavior of college students and promote the construction of socialist spiritual civilization. Etiquette education is the most basic content in the socialist spiritual civilization education system. Civilized manners are the greatest embodiment of people's spiritual civilization. A person's speech, manners, appearance and clothing can reflect his ideological cultivation, civilized quality education, attention to etiquette and observance of etiquette norms, which can effectively show a person's education, demeanor and charm, and better reflect a person's cognitive level and respect for others and society, so that personal knowledge, accomplishment and value can be recognized and respected by society. Appropriate etiquette can not only give the public the trust and desire of affability, respect and cooperation, but also make the process of cooperation with the public full of harmony and success. Without etiquette, any social organization, from a small shop to a big country, can't make friends and collect information, enhance the understanding, trust, cooperation and support of the relevant public, shape its own good image and achieve its goals in an all-round way. Etiquette can not only beautify life, but also cultivate people's sociality, which is also the need of social life and communication. Montesquieu once said, "We are polite because we have self-esteem." "Politeness pleases those who are polite, and also pleases those who are treated politely." There are many quarrels, frictions, contradictions and fights in life, all of which are caused by carelessness in details. Elegance and generosity can deepen friendship and increase goodwill. Paying attention to speech etiquette can have a harmonious and friendly interpersonal environment, and paying attention to behavior etiquette can have a quiet and tidy living environment, promote interpersonal harmony and beautify life and society, so the cultivation of etiquette habits is an important content of spiritual civilization construction. If a student knows both books and manners, and his knowledge level and moral level are seriously out of harmony, it is impossible for him to become an excellent talent. An excellent talent should not only have high-level professional knowledge, but also have good moral quality and etiquette cultivation. Etiquette is the expression of good moral cultivation and one of the important ways to cultivate good moral quality, which needs to be reflected in a polite way. Although the research and education of etiquette have developed in China, especially the combination of occupation and etiquette has become the general trend. However, etiquette education has not attracted enough attention in colleges and universities, and most colleges and universities have not set up etiquette courses. College students are a group with a higher level of knowledge, so they should put forward higher requirements in terms of moral standards and etiquette cultivation. The pursuit of individuality is the characteristic of contemporary young people. In the process of pursuing individuality, many uncivilized, impolite and even ugly, stale and vulgar things are regarded as "trendy" and "chic". Around us, we can often see disheveled people, misbehaving people, swearing people and spitting people. The existence of this bad behavior has seriously damaged the image of college students and become an obstacle to their healthy growth. Therefore, it has become a compulsory course to carry out etiquette education and training, standardize college students' behaviors through etiquette, correct vulgar and ugly behaviors, and cultivate college students' good image, elegant temperament and demeanor, which must arouse the general attention and concern of college educators and college students. Under the tide of market economy, the society puts forward higher standards and more specific requirements for the personal quality of college students. Under the background of increasingly fierce employment competition, it is necessary to popularize and standardize college students' etiquette. Popularizing college students' etiquette is helpful to improve their comprehensive quality. In the process of popularization of higher education in China, an extremely important task is to continuously improve the overall quality of college students. Popularizing college students' etiquette will directly contribute to improving their civilized quality. Specifically, strengthening etiquette training is helpful to improve the cultivation of college students. Popularizing college students' etiquette will prompt college students to start from small things and their own behaviors, and gradually improve their self-cultivation; Help to maintain the image of colleges and universities. In society, the personal image of college students is often equal to the image of colleges and universities, so the maintenance of college students' personal image will directly contribute to the maintenance of the image of colleges and universities, and even contribute to the maintenance of the image of the whole higher education; Help to improve interpersonal communication. If college students want to make a difference in their future work, they must attach importance to interpersonal communication. While popularizing college students' etiquette, standardizing college students' etiquette is an urgent task for the construction of college students' spiritual outlook. Since the "Implementation Outline of Citizen's Moral Construction" promulgated by the central government listed "courtesy" as a basic moral norm, governments at all levels, universities and college students began to pay more and more attention to etiquette training. At present, an important task is to directly link all parties' attention to etiquette with the ideological and moral construction of college students, and to standardize college students' etiquette as an important measure for the ideological and moral construction of college students. First of all, college students' etiquette itself needs to be standardized. The so-called "no rules, no Fiona Fang". One of the characteristics of etiquette itself is standardization. If we don't pay attention to the norms of college students' etiquette, but let them go their own way when using etiquette, then college students will not be like college students, but confuse them with ordinary young people in society. Secondly, the spiritual construction of college students needs the standardization of college students' etiquette. The Outline for the Implementation of Citizen's Moral Construction points out: "It plays an important role in regulating people's words and deeds to carry out necessary etiquette, courtesy and civilized activities." Undoubtedly, the standardization of college students' etiquette will directly contribute to the construction of college students' spiritual outlook in China. Thirdly, standardizing college students' etiquette is an organic part of college students' behavior norms. The Code of Conduct for College Students promulgated by the former State Education Commission proposed that college students should pay attention to personal moral cultivation. Dress neatly and pay attention to hygiene; Honest and trustworthy, modest and prudent, speaking kindly, being polite to others, interacting with men and women, and behaving appropriately; Respect teachers and others; Respecting the old, loving the young and being ready to help others actually involves legal norms, moral norms and etiquette norms. It cannot be ignored that etiquette norms are an important part of college students' behavior norms. Standardizing college students' etiquette should not only meet the actual needs of college students, but also adhere to a scientific attitude. It should be clear-cut, step by step, practical and vigorously promoted. At an appropriate time, it is suggested that the education authorities formulate special etiquette norms for college students, which will be formally promulgated and implemented in colleges and universities across the country.