On the importance of family education, see how the ancients educated their children!

China is an ancient civilization with a history of 5,000 years, and has always been famous for attaching importance to "family education". The ancients educated their children to cultivate their self-cultivation, making them "manage the family and rule the country", leaving many valuable experiences for future generations.

Zhuge Liang taught his son to "aim high"

Zhuge Liang served the country and the people all his life, self-denial and dedication, and set an example for future generations. He taught his children to be ambitious. At the age of 54, he wrote the famous Ten Commandments to his eight-year-old son Zhuge Zhan. This is not only a summary of Zhuge Liang's life experience, but also his requirements for his children: "A gentleman's trip is to cultivate one's morality by quietness, to cultivate one's morality by thrift, not to be indifferent to ambition, to be unfair and to do nothing." If you study quietly, you have to study. If you don't learn, you won't have a wide range of talents. If you don't want to learn, you will not succeed. "To persuade children to become morally cultivated people, we must first meditate, cultivate self-cultivation and introspect; Be self-disciplined, do not indulge yourself, and cultivate noble character and integrity. Unless you are indifferent to fame and fortune, you can't have a clear and firm ambition; Unless you have a clean heart and a clean mind, you can't realize your lofty ideals. To realize the ideal, we need to keep learning knowledge. Only through meditation and hard work can we learn real knowledge. Without firm will, we can't succeed.

Zhuge Liang has high hopes for his children. His children are indifferent to fame and fortune, loyal to the country and have made contributions to the country. This is the meaning and value of "tranquility" and "Zhiyuan".

Kom's godson "cultivate one's morality for all"

In the Northern Song Dynasty, Kou Zhun lost his father in his early years and his family was poor. He lives entirely on his mother's knitting. Kou's mother often teaches Kou Zhun to study while spinning in the middle of the night, and supervises Kou Zhun to study hard. Later, Kou Zhun went to Beijing to take the exam and won the Jinshi. The good news reached her hometown. At this point, Kou Zhun's mother was seriously ill. On her deathbed, she gave a painting she drew to her family Liu Ma, saying, "Kou Zhun will be an official in the future. If he is wrong, you can give him this painting! "

Later, Kou Zhun became prime minister. To celebrate his birthday, he invited two troupes to prepare a banquet for him. Liu Ma thought the time had come, so he gave him Combe's painting. When Kou Zhun opened it, it was a photo of the class at the cold window, on which was written a poem: "Lonely lamp class is bitter, bitter, and I hope you can cultivate yourself for everyone;" Diligent family style and the cultivation of loving mothers, he will not forget poverty when he is rich. " This was her mother's last words. Kou Zhun read it again and again, and tears welled up in her eyes. So the birthday party was cancelled immediately. From then on, he was honest and selfless, and became a famous sage in the Song Dynasty.

Xu Mian vowed to leave his innocence to future generations.

Xu Mian, Minister of Liang Dynasty, lived in a high position all his life. He is strict with himself, fair and prudent, frugal and not greedy, and has no property. Most of the usual wages are given to the poor and the poor among relatives and friends, and there is no savings at home. Some of his clients and old friends suggested that he buy some property for future generations. He replied: "others leave their property to future generations, and I leave my innocence to future generations." If children and grandchildren have virtue and ability, they will get married; If they don't succeed, even if I leave my property, it's useless. "

Xu Mian often educates children to pay attention to moral conduct. He once wrote to warn his son Vae: "Our family has been clean for generations, so we usually live a poor life. As for buying an industry, it has never been mentioned, not just not operating. The ancients said, "It is better to teach them to study a scripture than to leave the whole basket of gold to future generations. "It is not empty talk to study these remarks carefully. Although I have no talent, I have my own wishes. Fortunately, I have to learn from the lessons of the ancients and dare not give up halfway. In the past 30 years, since I was in a high position, some masters and old friends have strongly advised me to play it by ear when I have status and power, and I have always refused to adopt it. Because I believe that only by leaving precious innocence to future generations can future generations enjoy infinity. " Xu Mian's children later became famous sages.

Family education is characterized by words and deeds, imperceptibly. Because of children's plasticity, it is particularly important to educate their character. They will gradually come into contact with the truth that they can't understand at the moment, and only the correct guidance can make it right. Parents always want to leave the best things to their children. In fact, no matter how much property is given to them, it is a thing apart. Only by teaching them to attach importance to morality and kindness can they really benefit from long-term and future considerations, and can they keep a clear head at any time, distinguish right from wrong and choose the right path in life.

Parents are children's first teachers and their first contacts. This shows that family education is very important. Parents should strive to improve their own quality and set an example. Family education is the most important function for families to undertake social responsibilities. Everyone's socialization needs not only family upbringing, but also family education. People learn to walk, talk, behave and live independently at home. Get the mastery of physical development, psychological development, personality formation and basic skills of social life in the family. Games, study and labor are the three main forms of human social activities. Generally speaking, minors mainly play games and study, and with the growth of age, they gradually transition to participate in social practice activities based on labor independently. Family not only provides children with the initial place to play and study in life, but also guides them to transition from play to study, and then from study to work. This kind of guidance is family education.

Family education is an important part of children's growth. As the saying goes, parents are children's first teachers. Parents are with their children from the moment they are born. Children's language learning, mental attitude and behavior habits are all influenced and infected by their parents, which has a great influence. However, some parents are not aware of the influence of family on their children's education. Therefore, doing a good job in family education is extremely important for the healthy growth of students' body and mind.

First, the family environment affects children's growth.

Because environmental factors are universal, regular, natural and accidental, children will be affected by various factors. Spontaneity, in particular, has both parallel and contradictory effects on education. At this time, the child's physical and mental development may sometimes be beneficial and positive, and sometimes it may be bad and negative. Therefore, the role of environmental factors should not be underestimated. Under the influence of family, some children can show their special talents in some aspects earlier. As the saying goes, "those who are near ink are black, and those who are near ink are black" explains the role of environment on people in a certain sense. In ancient times, there was "Meng Mu moved three times", from "his house was near the tomb" to "moving to the city", and finally "living next to the scholar", which finally made Monk a scholar under the influence of the scholar. This shows that people have long attached importance to the influence of the environment on people.

Second, parents set an example for their children's growth.

Family is the cell of society and the first environment for children to live. Children's real "first teachers" are parents! Teaching children to be human is the first condition for their growth. When children look at the world with inquiring eyes, when they know the world, their parents are the most common ones in their eyes, and their words and deeds are expressing their attitude towards life. Parents are always unconditionally recognized by their children at the beginning, so they are not conscious, but the imitation objects are determined. Therefore, parents must set an example in everything, set a good example for their children, and stay in their hearts as decent people. Honest people should be honest people, responsible people, people who are consistent in words and deeds, people who are punctual and cherish time ... those who are greedy, selfish, haggle over every ounce, bully the good and fear the evil, brag, violate the law and discipline, and lack love are the most detrimental to their image. Once printed in children's minds, it is not only indelible, but also a potential cause of emotional obstacles with parents in the future. At the same time, it is often one of the reasons why children have morbid psychology such as self-pity, autism and self-abandonment. In addition, we should dare to admit our mistakes in front of children. The thinking that admitting mistakes means lowering one's prestige, so it is the most stupid and dishonest way to argue irrationally and even drive to contain children, which will engrave disappointment, sadness and contempt in children's hearts. Therefore, we should shape our own image and be the "first teacher" of children.

Third, parents' emphasis on education affects their children's growth.

Nowadays, most parents are busy making money, providing a good living and learning environment for their children, and will ignore the importance of their children's education. Some parents may simply think that letting their children go to the best schools and have the most advanced learning tools is an investment in education. In fact, parents' attention to education is not only a simple material investment, but also a psychological concern and care for children. First of all, we should understand children's psychology and follow the law of children's psychological development. Secondly, in life, children should be taught to know themselves correctly, neither belittling themselves nor belittling themselves, so as to treat people correctly. Otherwise, children will know others unilaterally and overestimate themselves, and they will always be unhappy when they encounter things, either because they are jealous of others, or because they are worried and resentful, and they will lose happiness because of some unhealthy emotions. It is a positive psychological state to cultivate children's self-confidence. The basic point of self-confidence is to believe that you have the strength to complete a task, even if the task is challenging. Self-confidence comes from successful experience and the correct way of parents. Appreciating children is the basic attitude that every parent should have towards their children. Finally, children should be educated to face failures and setbacks correctly. In the world, there is no road paved with flowers in front of children, only waiting for them to harvest one fruit after another and experience the joy of success. No one can avoid the inevitable failures and setbacks in life.

In short, children's education is not a person's business, nor is it a responsibility that one can bear. Family education plays an important role in promoting children's habit formation, learning attitude and academic performance. The growth of children depends not only on the constraints of the school system and the management of teachers' teaching, but also on the family environment and parents' education. There is an urgent need for families to cooperate with schools and teachers to do a good job in family education. In order to create a better learning and growth atmosphere for children, the state, society, schools and families all have unshirkable responsibilities. Family culture is a fortress of traditional culture and a haven of cultural conflict. In personality shaping, the family exerts a subtle and deep-rooted influence through its blood relationship. A sound personality cannot lack the internalization and edification of family culture and emotion. Parents should constantly learn from themselves, update their educational ideas and concepts, and improve their educational level and ability. At the same time, family education should be more closely combined with school education, so that children can better develop good behavior habits and improve all aspects of quality. Only in this way can our children get really healthy growth and development.