What is the general brotherly relationship in northern rural areas?

I can answer this question by analyzing the family I came from. I am an out-and-out northerner. There are two brothers at home, and I am the boss. Personally, I think my relationship with my brother has changed a lot since childhood, which may be representative. Most northern families will have great changes in their feelings after birth and marriage.

When I was a child, there were many memories about me and my brother fighting for things or fighting. Of course, because I am two years older than my brother, I have more opportunities to cry about him. But then again, after all, the fighting brothers went into battle, my brother bullied me, and others bullied me resolutely. Maybe this is the characteristic of being a brother. Generally speaking, when I was young, the feelings between my brother and I were quite harmonious. After puberty, everyone has their own friends and life circles, and gradually there are not so many * * * as before. At this time, the relationship between the two people changed a little. When they both went to college and different schools, they found that the gap between them was getting bigger and bigger. This gap is not the gap between our ability and academic performance, but the emotional gap between us.

After graduating from college, I got married separately, and left family of origin with my small family, with little contact as before. As the saying goes, brothers settle accounts clearly and we share the benefits clearly. When you help each other, you can only borrow money from each other, not give it to each other. At the same time, when we were faced with money, our parents gave our brothers unequal conditions when they got married. My wife gave me less money when I got married, and my brother gave me more money when I got married.

To sum up, most of the brotherly relationships in the northern rural areas were not bad when they were young, but they grew up in different ways.