Why do most men don't understand filial piety, and mother-in-law is harsh on daughter-in-law?

The following are the reasons for this problem:

1. Traditional concepts and role cognition In some traditional cultures, mother-in-law has higher expectations and requirements for daughter-in-law, and thinks that daughter-in-law should obey and respect her mother-in-law's wishes. Mother-in-law may want her daughter-in-law to take more responsibility for housework and filial care. When her daughter-in-law can't meet these expectations, her mother-in-law may show severe behavior.

2. Dependence of sons and traditional power structure Some sons may have strong dependence and dependence on their mothers, which leads to the mother-in-law playing a leading role in the family. When the daughter-in-law gradually shows her independence and has her own independent opinion and decision-making ability, it may lead to her mother-in-law's dissatisfaction and severe criticism, because it shakes her power position in the family.

3. The conflict between life concept and values. The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law may also result from the difference between life concept and values. Different generations may have different lifestyles, values and expectations. When these differences are difficult to coordinate, it is easy to cause conflicts and disputes.

4. Distance and familiarity If the daughter-in-law is far away from her mother-in-law's house, it will lead to the lack of intimate communication and understanding between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, which will easily lead to misunderstandings and contradictions. Mother-in-law may be dissatisfied or critical of her daughter-in-law, or it may be caused by insufficient understanding.

It should be noted that not all mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are harsh on their daughters-in-law, and some have established good relations and respect.

The key to solve this problem lies in communication, understanding and compromise. Keeping an open mind, respecting each other's rights and opinions, establishing good communication channels and trying to find a balance will help to improve relations.