What are the methods to eliminate the psychology of gnawing at the old?

Due to the influence of the traditional concept of parent-child, our parents have devoted their life's financial resources and energy to their children without regrets, and until their children reach adulthood, they can't get rid of the inertia of unconditional and all-round dedication.

Therefore, to save the NEET, our parents need to fundamentally change the concept of parent-child, actively carry out self-psychological adjustment, really cut off the psychological umbilical cord between parents and children, and completely break the psychology of parent-child integration. Parents should deeply realize that no matter how strong the family ties are, the two generations are independent of each other.

(2) Adjusting cognition

Some of our young people have fallen into the employment confusion of "being too high to be too low" because of vanity or comparison psychology, and have no choice but to start a life of gnawing at old bones. Needless to say, those who give up their jobs and run away from home, even some blind graduate students. Therefore, we should adjust our cognition and change our employment concept.

We young people should deeply realize that the road to life is to survive first and then develop. At the beginning of life, the greatest glory is to support yourself, and the greatest success is to stand on your own feet. Moreover, in terms of social responsibility, employment is one of the basic signs of adults. How can people who can't be independent economically talk about their social significance as "people" and how can they talk about life?

(3) Challenge yourself

From the perspective of psychoanalysis, it can be said that for whatever reason, no one in our minds can feel really good.

Because living on one's laurels means parasitism, as a young man, a parasitic life will never find peace of mind. Because parasitism is a shameful thing and a painful thing.

We young people should be brave enough to face our hearts and challenge ourselves, so as to stimulate the sense of independence, self-improvement, courage to try and self-reliance potential.

(4) Take action

In fact, many young people don't admit that their families are old. Therefore, after the above psychological adjustment, the most important thing is to act.

Before you act, you often have a mental set, and you are used to imagining things very hard. This is the psychological reason why some people give up their actions. However, once we act, we will find that things are much easier than we thought.

(5) step by step

In order to reduce the difficulties in action, we'd better take small steps in action, and the smaller the steps, the easier it is to succeed. When necessary, it can be carried out under the guidance of psychological counseling professionals.

For example, the first step is to undertake housework, the second step is to go out bravely, the third step is to try short-term jobs that are easier to adapt to, the fourth step is to engage in long-term jobs, and the fifth step is to seek ideal jobs. In this process, record every small success to constantly strengthen yourself and urge yourself to go step by step on the road of life.