An episode in family education

This month, an episode happened at home, which triggered my deep reflection on family education: family education should be adjusted in time with the growth of children, otherwise it would be a disaster.

Before New Year's Day, I signed up for a meta-hypnosis course. There was no reaction at home when I first started online classes. On New Year's Day, I went to the ground class and mentioned that I would continue to apply for the advanced class. My family was in an uproar. Dad first stood up against it and thought I was brainwashed by pyramid schemes. If it is more than 2,000 yuan online, but so much investment in the later period, it is obviously too much. Besides, for hypnosis, that mysterious thing is simply not worth believing.

For myself, I clearly know that as a mother and a teacher, I have been studying the knowledge of traditional psychology since I finished the certificate of psychological counselor, and I have not been formally exposed to the methods and skills to solve problems. With the growth of children, in the face of the current situation that more and more people who are anxious, tired of learning and even depressed spread to students in recent years, I urgently need some methods and skills to improve my ability to solve practical problems in life and work. After the initial online and ground courses, I have identified this method and technology as meta hypnosis.

In the process of communicating with my son, my son especially recognized my idea. After the online primary school class, I gave my son a test lead-in. At that time, he was surprised by the effect of hypnosis, and then firmly believed that hypnosis was a science and supported me to study it seriously.

In the first few days of winter vacation, my son and I watched the movie Inception and The Hypnotist. We discussed the knowledge about psychology in the plot enthusiastically. My son is more sure that hypnosis is scientifically based and can't wait to say to me, "Mom, you must give me another hypnosis experience when you come back from further study."

With my son's support, my confidence has doubled. Learning meta hypnosis, from my personal point of view, is also intended to have an effective new skill in accompanying children to grow up. Although I never told my children why I did this, I didn't expect my son to accept it so much, which made me less worried.

But the reversal scene happened.

The advanced class will be held on the 20th-23rd of this month. On the last day, when I came home at night, my son was obviously unhappy. At this time, he muttered: "If you don't learn well, you are cheating. I won't believe you unless you can hypnotize me. Otherwise, dad is right, you are wasting money. "

It turns out that my father repeatedly mentioned his views at home during my classes these days. The child completely listened to what his father said again.

I controlled my emotions and slowly combed with my son. It is suggested that my son continue to try in depth and strengthen his new understanding of meta-hypnosis. At first, I gave my son a deep breath introduction and deepening. My son gradually entered the state, but obviously resisted criticism and opened his eyes angrily and said not to continue. In fact, he knew that he was put into hypnosis almost immediately, but he just didn't want to accept it.

After a while, my son calmed down a little and defiantly asked me to continue to do it for him. This time it was just a scene of deepening and adding, and my son was completely hypnotized. Under hypnosis, my son deeply entered the scene I set, which can be seen from his breathing, expression and devotion. After waking up, my son got up from the sofa, ran to the bedroom, threw himself on the bed, covered his head with a quilt, and kept repeating in his mouth, "It can't be true! How can it be true? "

At this time, I also realized that my son had completely accepted the truth of hypnosis in his heart, but what his father said was still hovering in his mind. He doesn't know who to listen to.

I understand the contradiction in my son's heart. Although I can't say anything, I clearly realize that the inconsistency of parents' ideas has affected and hurt the growth of children. He should worship his father and respect his mother, but he can't take sides.

I silently accompanied my son and told him that people's mentality gap when accepting new things is understandable. My son also acquiesced in what I said.

But I know that this series of things has been deeply left in his heart, which takes time. At the same time, parents need to unify their thinking and prove it to their children.

Children grow up day by day, especially after puberty, parents need to constantly learn new methods and skills, instead of accompanying their children to grow up healthily with their inherent experience, not only physically but also psychologically.

In this process, many different things will happen in the family, such as what I have stated. If parents continue to confront each other, the child will be in a dilemma: who does he choose to trust? This will definitely consume the children's own energy and affect the energy flow at home.

The crux of the problem is that as parents, while we are accompanying our children to grow up, our children are also promoting our promotion. This should be an opportunity to bring all-round progress and promotion of family members' thoughts and skills.

Teacher Li Shaoyuan, the founder of meta-hypnosis, once said, "Let meta-hypnosis become the psychological bank and happiness mechanism of the people of the whole country", which is not only a noble feeling, but also a higher vision of meta-hypnosis in meeting the psychological needs of the people of the whole country. Therefore, I am sure that I have chosen the right path and will definitely lead me to a happier tomorrow!

I will study hard and have more confidence to grow up with my children and make progress together. For my father, I will prove to him with firm and persistent study and practice, and we will also unify our concepts and use this practical technology to lead the family to make better progress and accompany the children to grow up happily and healthily!