Social reasons for cheating

Men and women in urban areas, on the one hand, are against their spouses to have extramarital affairs, but on the other hand, they are joining the extramarital affairs team with their own practical actions, promoting extramarital affairs to become a kind of social fashion and trend. In the case of more and more temptations we face, in the background of the traditional moral concepts are strongly impacted, cheating has become almost every family, everyone must face and guard against a thing.

According to reports, the rate of cheating in our country has now become the first in the world, which is really unbelievable. I have a friend, he cheated with 13 women in two years, the age of these women's in 18 to 38 years old, half of the female initiative, and all are short-term acquaintance of the women around.

More often than not, for many cheaters, the purpose of cheating is not to break up a marriage, but because of desire and the need for human potential. To put it bluntly, cheating is adult sex play?

In the beginning of the game, everyone feels confused and uneasy inside, longing for cheating and resisting cheating, contradictory, struggling, trying to find an excuse for cheating, hoping that cheating can become reasonable, at this moment, love this gorgeous coat appeared, cheating people with fresh love concepts to cover the old love treaty.

So, why do modern urban men and women like cheating so much?

One, like the new and hate the old. From a certain point of view, cheating is the result of people like new and old. In people's eating, wearing, living, using, traveling, is not new and tired of the old.

If mankind will always eat only one or a few kinds of primitive food, there is no tea, delicacies, palace feasts, folk snacks, there is no food industry and food culture and its development; if mankind does not have a love of the old and the new, like animals walk, there is no bicycle, cars, trains, airplanes and other means of transportation invention and creation! ......

Economics tells us that because of diminishing marginal utility, people are always looking for new satisfactions, always seeking to maximize utility. In fact, love between a man and a woman is also about giving to the other while satisfying their own utility.

And the utility of any person, thing, thing, etc. to bring people is always decreasing trend, and over time let people produce numbness and boredom, and even be given up (although most people's marriages are not finally given up, that is also subject to a lot of constraints on the results). No one can spend a lifetime getting as much utility from their spouse as they do when they are in love, nor can they spend a lifetime giving their spouse as much utility as they do when they are in love, especially in terms of heartfelt pleasure.

Two, curious and mysterious. The less public anything is, the more mysterious it is, and human beings are curious and mysterious animals.

When you walk on the street, found a large group of people are surrounded by what is talking, gesturing, you will have to see the idea of the end, so also crowded over, think of the toes to see, it was just crushed by a car puppy. That's what curiosity and mystery are all about.

Men and women from secret love to public marriage, from strangers to live with each other, which is constantly open to each other in the process, but also constantly make each other lose curiosity and mystery of the process. Whereas cheating is inconveniently public and satisfies the curiosity and mystery of the cheater.

Three, freedom and tolerance. In China, many people take cheating as a kind of life spice.

Society also regards this phenomenon as "personal privacy", tolerance is relatively high, and no longer scorned by society. It's not like South Korea, where cheating not only costs you your job, but also your wife and kids, your coworkers and friends, and maybe even jail time. Imagine, in the face of such a huge cost, which man will still for a moment of pleasure desperate?

Four, the lack of personal values. Many young people in love when not responsible enough, the existence of a boyfriend and girlfriend, but also and others ambiguous and ultimately sentenced to feelings, this is a kind of values on the problem, their own attitude towards love is not serious enough to lead.

Of course, cheating since it is an inconvenience to the public behavior, of course, should be carried out in secret, that is to say, in time and space must be detached from the family, the organization and the supervision of society, which puts forward a new demand for environmental freedom. And the development of today's social environment changes, so that people in time, space, with more uncertainty, mobility and selectivity, organizations and society are also increasingly regarded as a personal behavior of cheating, reducing the public power to intervene in the private power, which gives cheating provides opportunities and convenience.