The Dilemma of Traditional Filial Piety in China

With the changes of the times and the progress of science and technology, a group of elderly people who do not know how to use smart products are gradually eliminated; Children pursue high-quality urban life, but they also silently abandon some rural elderly who have been hunched over in the fields all the year round.

People are very old, but they have lost their dignity. Now China's traditional filial piety is gradually weakening, which is the absence of traditional virtue education? Is it the imbalance of the focus of family environment? Or the influence of modern economic and social development?

Understand filial piety and pay attention to the education of the next generation of traditional virtues.

The so-called "Zhu Dexiao comes first." That is, in many traditional ethics in China, "filial piety" is in a priority position, which is also the premise for everyone to learn other virtues.

To some extent, if a person can always be filial to his parents and let them enjoy their old age, then his other personality can be seen.

Xu Shen in the Eastern Han Dynasty said in his Shuo Wen Jie Zi: "Filial piety is good for parents. Starting from the old province, starting from the child and inheriting the old. " Filial piety means being kind to parents. Filial piety is passed down from generation to generation.

The current education advocates the all-round development of students' morality, intelligence, physique, beauty and labor, but it also lacks systematic and comprehensive filial piety education, which requires parents to consciously educate and train their children, so as not to let them have the psychology that their elders' selfless love for them is a matter of course, and to develop a selfish character, ingratitude or ingratitude.

As a result, the concept of filial piety is gradually weakened in family education, which is not conducive to the healthy development of children's body and mind.

The maintenance of the elderly has always been a hot topic in society.

Some elderly people living in cities and towns have their own pensions or old-age insurance. They already have the consciousness of "saving money for the elderly" and can arrange their old age properly, but they rely on their children.

However, most rural elderly people have gradually lost the ability to create family income, but have become left-behind elderly people with zero income and pure consumption. Confucius, a sage in ancient times, said, "If parents are here, you can swim well if you don't travel far."

For the left-behind elderly people, they expect their children to go home and reunite with their families all the year round, but they can only get meager financial support from their children, lacking their children's personal care for the elderly, which is desolate and lonely.

To take a step back, for those elderly people with children around them, the pension situation is not satisfactory.

On the surface, children can prepare two or three meals a day for their parents, but they are not allowed to eat at the same table with themselves, and their parents' room arrangements are extremely simple and casual.

First, the elderly parents are invisibly regarded as the burden of life, and the traditional concept of filial piety is gradually weakening. Children only provide material support to their parents, so comfort themselves by thanking their parents for their upbringing.

Confucius also believes that when children perform filial piety, the most difficult thing is not their inability to support themselves, but their inability to always love their parents and treat them with full love.

So if you don't treat your parents with sincere love from the heart, how can you talk about children's filial piety to their parents?

Filial piety means loving parents and taking parents as the center of the family.

Montaigne said that the concept respected by this society is really unfair. It can forgive young people for playing, but it prohibits the elderly from pursuing enjoyment.

The so-called filial piety lies not only in adoptive parents, but also in reverence for parents, giving them enough dignity and love, and taking them as the center of family.

Respect parents in etiquette, and respect for the elderly etiquette is not an armchair strategist, not for others to see. Instead, we need to do something for our parents. For example, we can prepare a birthday party for our parents, treat the elderly as guests and take good care of them. The urgent task is to "have an old family like a treasure", try our best to achieve a balance between material and spiritual, and let parents enjoy family happiness.

They don't blindly put their children first in the family and are indifferent to their parents' birthdays. Instead, they spoil their children, meet their requirements, and hold banquets to celebrate their adult ceremony or graduation ceremony.

The psychology of "loving children" makes the family's center of gravity seriously unbalanced, which not only affects the shaping of children's good character, but also does not respect the elderly enough.

Secondly, Confucius said, "filial piety today means that it can be raised." As for dogs and horses, you can keep them. It's disrespectful. Why not? "

It means that it is as important to support parents as respect, and it is advocated to support them on the basis of respect and love, which requires children not only to support their parents, but also to love their parents. Without respect and love, what's the difference between keeping a dog and a horse? Why do you say filial piety

In an environment of it runs in the family, children can put down their work in traditional festivals, take their wives and children to call their brothers and sisters home to have dinner with their parents, and let them play with their beloved grandchildren, which is the greatest expression of love for them.

Filial piety is to raise parents' body and mind well.

Dickens once said in A Tale of Two Cities that this era can be said to be the best or the worst.

With the development of economy and society, most people are busy with the real life of rice, oil, salt, sauce and vinegar tea. Their understanding and practice of filial piety is also simple and rude: parents cannot be hungry, but they cannot be frozen.

This is their way and concept of holding their parents' kindness. But the care that the elderly want is not only the material needs of food, clothing, housing and transportation, but also spiritual comfort and satisfaction.

It is to enjoy the family happiness of four generations of children and grandchildren living under one roof, and it is also to be caring and attentive when they are old and weak, rather than the cold maintenance expenses in the passbook every month, or the elderly who receive state pension subsidies have no child support at all.

The elderly can generally solve the problem of food and clothing, but they still can't escape the situation of "no dutiful son in front of the hospital bed". Once the elderly get sick, they can't afford the high medical expenses, and their children don't want to pay for their parents' illness by blaming each other.

This phenomenon is not uncommon, and we can often see these worrying phenomena in social news.

Faced with the weakness of filial piety in today's society, most people may still sincerely recognize that filial piety is a responsibility, but egoism has gained the upper hand in their hearts, and they will naturally choose to avoid responsibility and just live their own lives.

But no matter how the social economy develops, the old people need to "have fun", not only in material life, but also in emotional communication in spiritual life.

In filial piety, children need to spend more time and energy to "honor their parents" besides paying attention to "adoptive parents", and it is a sense of responsibility to cultivate their parents' body and mind.