What's the difference between positive discipline and traditional discipline?

I understand that positive discipline is more important than "management" and more important than "teaching". This is an effective way to discipline children without punishment or connivance. This is a brand-new parenting method and a method of continuous learning in the process of practice. This method is different from the inherent parenting methods, such as "the dutiful son is born under the stick" and "the young tree is not trimmed and straight", which severely reprimands and disapproves of praising the child at will.

The most important thing about positive discipline is kindness and firmness.

1. Kindness requires us to respect our children. First of all, we should accept all the emotions and feelings of children. We allow children to cry, to make trouble and to spoil you.

If there is no goodwill in the process of facing children, they will become controlling parents. Such parents will ask their children to listen to themselves completely, and whatever I say will be what I say, which will lead to the child's strong desire for control, becoming an obsequious character, having no opinion and being unable to be responsible for his own life; Or the child is too rebellious, and everything the parents say is rebellious.

Being firm is to show respect for yourself.

We respect ourselves, that is, we respect our emotions. As adults, we also have emotions. In the face of children's crying and unreasonable demands, we will also be impatient and crazy.

However, having emotions does not mean that parents need to vent these emotions on their children. Parents can learn some skills to deal with emotions to ease their children's emotions, instead of adding harm to their children.

If there is no firmness, it means that children have no boundaries and rules in the process of growing up. This is downright doting and conniving, which mostly appears in parents who live apart from each other. We need to make rules for children and discipline them gently and firmly.