No More Divorce —— Shorthand of the 69th Family Virtue Class Case of Anyang Lianchi Academy

-Anyang Lianchi Academy 69th Family Virtue Class Case Shorthand.

Chongyang Wang

If modern society is advancing rapidly and there are a lot of phenomena deviating from tradition, then the divorce rate is rising year after year, which must be the first choice.

Therefore, in the face of the "divorce crisis" in today's society, many people of insight and caring units are taking active actions to make some contributions to the solution of this crisis. Lianchi Academy in Anyang, Henan Province is one of them. Anyang Lianchi Academy is a public welfare organization that responds to the call of the central authorities, inherits and disseminates Chinese excellent traditional culture. Public welfare training courses on Chinese traditional family virtues are held all the year round to teach filial piety, loyalty, courtesy, honesty and shame, and how to be a good son, a good girl, a good husband and a good wife.

To tell the truth, Lianchi College has held more than 60 training courses on family virtues in succession, and there have been a large number of cases in which students who are about to divorce said that they would never think of divorce after attending the study. There are also divorced students who want to remarry after attending the study, or resolve their resentment and restore their health.

On June 5438+065438+1October 12, 2020, in the last half-day comprehensive speech and question-and-answer session of the 69th Family Virtue Public Welfare Promotion Class, which lasted for seven days in Anyang Lianchi College, several such cases were concentrated, which made all teaching teachers and volunteers feel gratified.

1. A 3 1 year-old male classmate learned the "secret" to make his wife change her mind.

A 3 1 year-old male student from Handan City, Hebei Province took the stage and said that he had known that traditional culture was magical before, but he never had time to study. The reason why I came to study this time is also with a problem-my wife is divorcing herself. The root of his wife's divorce is himself, because his wife found out that he was in love with another woman online. His wife was very angry and divorced. Now I live in my mother's house and don't go home.

The male student said that only after taking part in the study of family virtues did he know that he had done something wrong, and his wife's divorce was caused by her own lack of virtue. When he returns, he will use practical actions to make his wife change her mind.

The lecturer sitting in the audience asked the male student what he was going to do when he returned. The student said, I must follow the teacher's principle of being a man-find the benefits of others and admit that I am not. The lecturer said you were shouting slogans. The student smiled shyly and said, yes, I know I did something wrong, but I need more guidance from my teacher and tell me what to do when I get back.

The lecturer said, I ask you, do you want face or family? Family or face? The student said that he wanted a family.

The teacher said that if you want a home, you should do this when you go back: apologize to your parents and in-laws. It's unfilial of you to engage in online dating, which almost broke up the family, worried your parents and made your in-laws angry. If your parents-in-law want to scold you, you just have to bear it honestly. This is called "suffering". You should not only suffer, but also sincerely apologize. Then sincerely apologize to your wife and ask her to forgive you, understand?

The students got it.

The teacher then asked, do you have children? The student said that there are two children, one is seven and the other is four. The teacher said, do you want your child to find a mother or a stepmother? Gay theory, of course, is to find a mother. As soon as the voice fell, the audience burst into laughter.

The teacher said that if you don't find a stepmother for your child, you have to suffer and take the initiative to break the deadlock. If you are sincere, your wife will turn back; If you are sincere, your wife will turn around. The student said, ok. Then, he is ready to step down. The teacher said, don't step down yet. I think you are a little introverted. You may not be able to do what I said when you go back. You can now practice how to apologize to your parents, parents-in-law and wife on the stage. You can stay here, but you can only go back.

The students said in a higher voice on the stage, "Dad, Mom, your son is unfilial, which worries you." . Grandparents, I'm sorry. Honey, I'm sorry. I hope you can forgive my bad temper.

As he spoke, he shed tears.

The teacher went on to say that when you go back, your parents-in-law and wife may scold you when you admit your mistake. You must remember that you must never hold a grudge. Otherwise people will say that you are acting, and all your efforts are in vain.

The student said, remember, I'll do it.

Seeing that he was so determined and learned the "secret" to make his wife change her mind, everyone happily gave him warm applause.

2. The 33-year-old female student who has filed a divorce lawsuit in court decided to withdraw the lawsuit immediately.

A 33-year-old female student from Linzhang County, Hebei Province, said after taking the stage that she was a mother with four children. The four children looked happy, but before she came to study, she had sued her husband to the court for unspeakable reasons and was ready for divorce.

The students in the audience were a little surprised to hear this.

The female student went on to say that I came here because of my mother's strong recommendation. My mother is an old student and a volunteer here. In the past, when my husband and I were in conflict, my mother often reasoned with me that divorce was not good. I understand all these reasons, and I know that divorce is not good, but I have to fight for breath, so I still insist on suing my husband to the court.

After the complaint was submitted to the court, my mother insisted that I study here. After studying, I discovered that I am a very proud person, and I am too competitive. Actually, I don't want a divorce either, but why should I go to court to sue? I just want my husband to come to me, beg me, apologize to me, and then I'll drop the lawsuit and go back to reunite with him.

At this time, someone in the audience asked, how come you have four children at the age of 33? The student said, I gave birth to three children, the eldest is seven years old, the second is four years old, and the third is twins, two years old.

After the female student listened, the lecturer asked, you have four children, and it's the same old question. Do you want your children to be with your father? Or with my stepfather? The student said, dad.

The lecturer said that you want your child to live with his parents, but you have already taken the parents to court. What should I do? The female student said, I will drop the lawsuit when I go back, and I will drop the lawsuit unconditionally. I feel now, what face, nothing is important, only home is the most important.

Seeing that she was so determined, everyone in the audience gave her warm applause.

But as soon as everyone encouraged her, she got excited, and when she got excited, she put her foot in her mouth. She said loudly, I hope all the young people in the audience are "proud of me", don't make mistakes like me, cherish family and affection, and don't divorce lightly. The lecturer in the audience corrected her and said that it should be "taking me as a warning", so she took her husband to court. Can she still be proud of you?

When the teacher said this, the students in the audience burst out laughing. Female students also smiled and said, yes, yes, take me as a warning, take me as a warning. With that, he walked off the platform with warm applause and laughter.

The reason why the author wrote this slip of the tongue joke is to tell everyone. Anyone who has accepted the guidance of traditional cultivation and moral standards will laugh and cry. Such people are probably "real people" in our traditional culture.

To tell the truth, the scene of everyone laughing at that time was not easy to see on other occasions. As a volunteer of traditional culture, I always feel that that smile exudes the dazzling brilliance after the awakening of life.

Such laughter will frequently appear in the comprehensive speech session of every family virtue class in Anyang Lianchi Academy.

Third, divorced 4 1 year-old female students sincerely apologize to their parents.

There are about 60 students in this family virtue class, and the happiest one is the group of five who come to study.

Why do you say that? Because it is rare for a family to take seven days off for closed study at the same time. If the whole family understands it, they will establish a correct three views, and the harmonious life of the big family will soon be there. How can there be so many household chores that are difficult for honest officials to decide?

This family comes from Xiaogan, Hubei Province. They are 63-year-old father, 66-year-old mother, 4 1 year-old eldest daughter, 35-year-old son and 33-year-old second daughter.

Of course, the reason why their family came to study collectively was to treat their 63-year-old father. My old father suffered from cancer for two years. A friend who studied traditional culture recommended the family virtue class of Anyang Lianchi Academy, saying that if the old man could learn the traditional way of self-cultivation, know how to be a man and admit his mistakes, maybe his illness would be greatly alleviated or even improved.

So they came to Anyang Lianchi Academy.

(a) the eldest daughter, divorce is the biggest unfilial.

After taking the stage, the 4 1 year-old eldest daughter was the first to pick up the receiver and talk about her feelings. She said that she came to Lianchi College to improve her father's condition, but after attending the study, she found that what needed to be changed most was her personality.

What impressed me the most was studying the filial piety class taught by the teacher in the class. She said that after listening to this filial piety class, she found that her divorce was the biggest unfilial. Because children are divorced, parents are bound to worry, which is also an important reason for parents to get sick.

As she spoke, she stood in front of her parents, bowed to them three times sincerely and said loudly, Dad, Mom, I was wrong. I shouldn't have divorced and worried you.

After bowing, she added that she was also deeply touched by the relationship between husband and wife that Teacher Wang taught in her class. She said that Mr Wang's husband likes gambling very much. Mr. Wang didn't divorce, and finally ushered in the change of her husband with his own change. He didn't do as well as Mr. Wang. She said that she was very unkind to her husband, and even though he had many shortcomings, she should not divorce him. After divorce, children should not be poisoned to make them hate their father.

She said that through her study, she finally understood the truth that "I am getting better and everything will be fine". When she goes back, she should be filial and educate her children well so that they can become useful people to society.

Everyone applauded her speech warmly.

(2) The second daughter, son and old man all understand the truth of being a man.

Subsequently, the second daughter of 3 1 year-old and the son of 33 also talked about their feelings. Their feelings are the same as those of their sisters: they all come with the mentality of playing with their father and treating their father. After attending the study, they realized that what they need to change most is themselves. I usually have a lot of unfilial behavior, so I must correct it when I go back, do my filial piety well and let my parents spend their old age safely.

Later, the 63-year-old father said happily, I am very grateful to the dedication of caring people, so that I can learn such a good course. He said that after attending the study, he learned how to be a man and how to be filial to his parents. After studying these days, I compared what I learned with my previous behavior, and I deeply reflected. I discharged a lot of bad emotions accumulated in my body for a long time, and my body was much better. He said that he was very weak when he first came, and even he panicked when he went to the dormitory on the second floor last time. Now he doesn't panic when he goes upstairs.

Hearing this, everyone gave the old man warm applause.

At this time, the lecturer under the stage told the three children on the stage that when people laugh, they will have "gods" and when "gods" come out, they will be "ghosts". Be filial when you go back and make the old man happy. Although this is not a place to treat diseases, it can tell you the truth of being a man. People who learn to be human will no longer be angry, resentful, resentful, annoyed and annoyed at will, but will be happy. As long as you are happy, your body will recover. The three children on the stage highly agreed with the teacher's words and nodded frequently.

Finally, with warm applause, a family of five walked off the platform happily.

In just three hours, * * * 30 students took the stage to speak, and the gains were exciting, which made people feel the strength and charm of the traditional standard of self-cultivation

The traditional moral standards of self-cultivation first tell us that being a man is Tao, not Tao, but robbery. Only by following the life norms summarized by ancient sages can we live a beautiful family life of father and son, brother, friend, master and wife.

Today, due to the limited space, we just choose three cases from the perspective of "Don't divorce easily" to show the charm of traditional culture, hoping to inspire everyone, and also hope that everyone will try their best to take time to systematically study traditional ethics, so as to achieve physical and mental harmony, family harmony and promote social harmony. ...