How terrible it is to cheat, the confession of a cheating man.

I saw a movie about cheating not long ago.

The plot is ordinary, but the ending is intriguing.

The hero and heroine have been in love for many years, and as a result, their wife was cheated by Xiaorou, and they actually met and eloped.

But before long, the lover abandoned her.

She was penniless and had to go back to her husband. I didn't expect her husband not only didn't blame and scold her, but just hugged her lovingly.

At that time, I wondered that there was no such man in the world who could tolerate such a thing.

I didn't expect the story in the movie to actually happen to me.

(The following is a real case of readers, and the characters are all pseudonyms. )

Because of a phone call, I found my daughter-in-law cheated.

I never thought that I would be betrayed one day, and it was betrayed by someone I loved deeply.

If I hadn't called her temporarily that day, I might never have known that she had another man.

The story goes like this:

We have been married for five years.

I have a very lively son. I am a small boss of a startup company. I can't say that I have a successful career. At least I have a house, a car and some money, but I have no time.

My wife used to be the beauty queen of our grade and the goddess in many men's hearts.

After I got married, I didn't want her to be too tired, so I asked her to resign.

She is at home every day, painting, planting flowers and accompanying her children.

At first, she especially enjoyed this kind of life. But over time, she became more and more dissatisfied, and sometimes she deliberately found fault.

Every time I admit my mistake, I don't know where I am wrong from beginning to end.

I always think that men earn a lot of money, and the best love is to let the woman they love have food and clothing.

As everyone knows, more and more money, but less and less cute.

Strangely, for a while, she didn't complain that I didn't accompany her, nor did she get angry with me at will. What's more novel is that she began to watch various art exhibitions.

However, the reality is so cruel that I have no strength to fight back.

That day, the kindergarten teacher called and said that his son was unwell and pulled his pants. He called his mother, and his cell phone kept turning off, so he had to call me.

It was two fifty in the afternoon.

At that moment, I was upset. Many ideas came to my mind:

Liu Xue, it's gonna be okay!

Liu Xue, where the hell have you been?

Liu Xue, a man who never turns off his phone, how could he turn it off? He won't be kidnapped, will he?

Later, I didn't think much, so I was in a hurry to go home and send pants to my children.

I was still on the phone on the way back to the company.

But by 4: 30 in the afternoon, no one answered.

At five o'clock, the phone finally got through. I asked her, wife, what are you doing?

She: I'll pick up the children. The teacher said that the child pulled his pants this afternoon, and you sent me the clothes.

I am furious: I ask you now, what did you do this afternoon? Why didn't you turn on your phone all afternoon?

She: What's the matter with you? Why are you so mean to me? I went to see an art exhibition this afternoon. The signal in that hall is very weak and there has been no signal.

Me (suppressing anger): Well, I'll send the children to grandma's house today and talk about it in detail in the evening.

I don't know how I stayed up until eight o'clock, and I don't know how I finished the work that day.

When I got home, I asked her: What did you do this afternoon? I want to hear the truth. Even if it hurts me, I still want to hear your truth.

She: Honey, I really went to the art exhibition.

Me: Then tell me in detail the ticket purchase record, address and what exhibition you saw.

She: ..............................................................................................................................................................................

Me: Go ahead, I want to hear the truth.

She stood up, poured a glass of cold boiled water, gulped it down, and then showed me her card.

The process was very painful. Now that I think about it, I am still very sad and hurt my bone marrow.

She made it clear that she fell in love with a man two years older than her because she was dissatisfied with my neglect of her, my irresponsibility to my family, and my thoughtfulness and care for her.

He has no money or power, but he is very interesting and considerate of her.

So she fell.

I'm not stupid. I want to be hurt by you.

When she finished, I didn't know what my mood was that night.

I only remember that I held my fist tightly and slammed it on the table, and the top layer of glass broke.

What really makes me desperate is her attitude, which ignores everything and seems to punish everything.

At that moment, I doubted myself. After all these years, what happened to our relationship?

I work hard to make money. Is it really wrong?

She asked: Now that you know everything, what do you want next?

I held back my roar and said, what do you want?

Her eyes lit up, then faded, and she whispered, "Husband, can you not divorce?"

I don't know if this is a delaying tactic or a real idea.

At first, I pretended to forgive her.

Pretend nothing happened, pretend that we are fine, pretend that I still love him.

But I can't control my anger at all.

A voice in my heart has been telling me: if you are a man, get a divorce quickly.

What do you want with a woman who has been fucked by others?

Are you still a man? Your wife cuckolded you! How will you mix in the future!

How can a son have such a mother!

Although it seems to be peaceful, we have to continue to pretend to love each other for the sake of our children and our family.

But for the sake of children and family, I have to continue to pretend to love each other.

Struggled for half a year.

Until one time, when she came back late, my uneasy mood was aroused again in an instant, and then two people had a big fight, cursing anything was the most ugly and hurtful.

Her eyes were red with anger, and she said quietly, I know you can't get through that hurdle. On the surface, you forgive me, but in fact, you hate my guts. If you really can't get through it, then divorce!

I stayed.

I thought I would be the first person to mention divorce, but I didn't expect it to be her.

But I really love her. Although she betrayed me, I still don't want to lose her, do I?

I don't want my son to have no mother, and my parents have no daughter-in-law. Most importantly, I really can't live without her.

She made up her mind, and I found something bad.

But I don't know what to do.

Let's just say I'm in a mess now. Let's go out for a walk alone first.

Walking that day, I don't know where the end point is and where the road is.

On the way, I met a couple flying kites:

The woman asked, "Why are you a kite and I am a thread?"

The man said, "because no matter how high the kite flies, as long as the thread is still there, it will hold on tight and the kite will definitely come back." I want to be the one who holds you tightly. "

After listening, the woman buried her head in the boy's arms.

I, an old gentleman, shed tears for some reason.

Yes, a kite can only soar in the sky with a thread, and a kite with a thread can have a sense of belonging.

Why didn't I understand such a simple truth before?

As long as I hurry, the kite will definitely come back.

Returning to rationality, I understand that this masked life can't go on! But I don't know how to change it!

So under the introduction of a friend, I turned to an appointed emotional counselor to help me.

He asked me a few questions, which made me think:

In the face of her betrayal, should I endure to continue living or choose divorce?

What do I really want?

L What efforts do I need to make for my marriage?

My answer is as follows:

Even if she betrayed me, I still don't want a divorce.

She means a lot to me, and I don't want to lose her.

I want it back.

Do you know that you are important?

With the help of the consultant, I got up the courage to communicate with my daughter-in-law on my own initiative.

I remember being nervous.

However, I didn't expect her first sentence to be: "Husband, I'm sorry."

Looking at her tearful eyes, I hugged her tightly and said softly, "daughter-in-law, do you know that you are very important?" If I haven't said it before, is it too late to say it now? "

She couldn't help crying and couldn't even speak clearly, but I could clearly feel her feelings, the feeling of being forgiven, cared for, cherished and valued.

Looking at her tears, my eyes turned red.

I cried for almost an hour, until my mood gradually calmed down, and I began to enter the theme.

Me: I'm sorry for your hard work these years. I didn't pay anything for this family.

Wife: Yes, you make money every day. I just want you to spend more time with me and my children, but you will never understand.

Me: OK, I promise, I will arrange more time with you from this week. I'm sorry, baby, you have paid so much, but I have never seen it. I keep saying I love you, but I never really thought about what you care about.

Hearing this, my wife began to cry again, and I could feel her grievance.

I hugged her again and said, daughter-in-law, this family can't live without you.

Then my wife told me with red eyes that if I continued to ignore her, she was not sure if she would fall in love with someone else.

Finally, we have three chapters:

I can quarrel, but I can't fight.

L any dissatisfied place or behavior should be actively feedback.

If necessary, express your needs, don't hold back.

Look at my sincere attitude She promised me and gave me a chance to see my next performance and my attitude towards home.

After all, I owe her so much for so many years.

I know the next road will be more difficult, but with her around and the help of a helpful emotional counselor, I am not afraid.

After all, women need to be cared for with heart, not money.

The record is over! ! !

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When some couples find out that their other half is cheating, no matter how angry and desperate they are, they will choose to continue.

Even though I know you don't love me, even though I am in pain, I still don't want to change my life now.

Many people will wonder why they chose this way.

He betrayed me. Is it necessary to save him?

In fact, I admit, it is really too rational to choose to ignore the injury.

Rational enough to ignore all feelings.

Once feelings are denied, people are no longer people, but things and dolls.

Just like a line in Sun Face: "What you want is a doll named wife, a doll that is beautiful, obedient and envied by others. Generally, they are shelved and let her travel-stained. When the guests come, they will dress up beautifully. "

The tragedy of materialization is always two-way: while objectifying others, it is also objectifying itself.

So they exchange their values through marriage.

But then, what's the point of getting married?

Not all love will be destroyed by time, and not wanting to lose is the most painful part of love.

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