The Inheritance and Utilization of Traditional Chinese Family Education Content and Methods

In family education, it is especially important to give children more opportunities to make choices and to cultivate their ability to make choices, judgments and trade-offs in their daily lives. If we can give our children more opportunities to choose, they will feel that they are respected and trusted, which will bring them self-confidence and a sense of accomplishment, and make them feel that they can take control of their lives.

In our daily lives, we can provide them with more opportunities to choose, such as which clothes to wear this day, and to organize their own activities when conditions allow. In the absence of conflict of principle, you can try to follow the child's arrangement to deal with his own life.

And, selective questions often allow parents to avoid the embarrassment of a defiant child answering all questions with "no": at this stage, open-ended questions ("? Is it okay?" "Shall we? "?" It is difficult for parents to get satisfactory answers to open-ended questions ("Is it okay?" "Shall we?" etc.), and the child tends to take "no" as the standard answer. The "multiple-choice" questions, on the other hand, are usually carefully thought out and answered by the child.

Parents need to be patient with their children as they make their own choices, because children's reactions are different from those of adults. You can't just ask a question and the child will answer it, you must give the child time to react and think. And waiting patiently will show more respect for the child's interests and choices. Sometimes we also need to repeat the options we offer appropriately, because the child begins to learn to think may forget what he or she is doing in the process: the child's attention span is still short.

Also, it is perfectly possible to explicitly state and address something while still including options. For example, if something has to be done and the child doesn't want to do it, if we set up opportunities for choices in ways and means of dealing with it, the child will often choose more happily and thus get the job done.

In short, giving children the opportunity to choose what to do and to accept the consequences helps them to develop good self-confidence and self-responsibility.