Tradition and modernity, new civilization and old order - the 80s and 90s living in the cracks, what do you think?

We always forget how cold it is in winter in the summer, and forget how hot it is in the summer by the time we get to winter.

The price of growing up is always profound, yet I don't expect that price to be so great. Geographic discovery and colonialism decimated the Native Indian population by 90%.

The growth of a person, of a society, is such that some people succeed and others die out.

The Industrial Revolution made people's lives more affluent, but pollution came with it: in the 1950s, the London smog epidemic killed more than 60 people in a week.

In 1840, the Opium Wars opened the door to China's modern history, but the massive influx of opium into the country led to a massive uptake of opium by the Chinese people, a growth that came at too high a price.

Three years ago, I went to Tibet and saw a novel in a local bookstore called "Tibetan Marriage," which is about two women with different cultural backgrounds and different values in their marriages, telling the story of the conflict between modern marital culture and tradition.

Two very different women, a tolerant, generous, in the traditional marriage system, a person with the heart warm five men's rough chest, and tie them tightly at home, so as to accumulate and continue the strength of the family. One who is capricious, casual, and lives only in her own imagination and desires.

The sacredness of Tibet has made many people yearn for it, and to this day phenomena such as polygamy and polyandry still exist in remote areas of southern and northern Tibet.

The movie "Dog 13" is the story of what happens to a girl during her brutal change from childhood to adulthood.

In the words of director Cao Baoping: ? No one notices at what point we suddenly grow up, everything seems to happen naturally, but that day comes is actually very cruel. I want people to look back at that day.?

Growing up is like that, an old feudal empire grew into the new China that it is now, and it came at an equally heavy price. The Opium War, the Sino-Japanese War, the War of Northern Expedition, the War of Liberation over and over again, how many people paid the price with their fresh lives.

Is new necessarily good? We have to put a question mark on this progress. The so-called Western culture, which has strongly penetrated into other countries, is in fierce conflict with the local culture of each country. It is the deep-rooted culture of traditional societies that is so ingrained that when we surge into the modern world, conflict is inevitable.

Taking the parties in a marriage, when you are a wife you have to give, you have to love others, you have to deal with the complexity of family relationships, which means you have to do your duty.

When a lover you have no responsibilities, I often think? Lover? The word is not really accurate, in this materialistic society, how many lovers are there? The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty. The person of the person? Either a person to take the money to buy another person's body, or two boring men and women, each other with each other's body to pass the lonely time, do not have to get involved in each other's lives, less responsibility for the ties, can better enjoy the pleasure of the flesh, look at the marriage of our surroundings, not the two people in the marriage, but the two families in the marriage.

Newly formed small families, both parents and siblings in the mix, and even take for granted how to guide you to live, how they should be good, often get people confused. The result of this meddling is that the small ones make it difficult, and the big ones make the newly formed family fall apart.

I'm learning to be a wife, well, not every woman is born to be a wife, but I believe every woman is born to be a lover.

Perhaps, many people have not yet figured out how to grow up, but have begun to face the reality of the world?