What are the aspects of Chinese marriage tragedy?

Marriage in China is often complicated. Marriage is not only the union of two people, but also the union of two families. A little contradiction in marriage will often rise to the entanglement of two families. At the same time, if the relationship between husband and wife breaks down, they will choose to continue to endure rather than divorce because of many factors. So the tragedy of traditional marriage is manifested in:

The first is the excessive participation of elders, especially the man's parents. Many young people will still live with their parents after marriage. After all, considering the pressure of life, both young people have to work to make money, and parents are certainly more at ease with their children. Such families live together, because everyone's living habits and experiences are different, of course, there will be many contradictions. And every contradiction will bring trauma to the relationship between husband and wife. The interpersonal relationship in the family, especially the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, has been a difficult problem since ancient times. As an elder, you should know how to let go and not interfere too much in your child's life when your son is married and established. However, China's parents rarely do this. They always regard their children's small family as a part of themselves and want to take care of everything. In this way, the contradiction has intensified.

Secondly, in traditional marriage, it is advocated that the man is the master and the woman is the master. But now the times have changed, and the society requires women to be independent, so women need to take into account both external and internal factors. Therefore, the status quo of many families is that every mother has to finish her work every day and take care of the family. She is very tired and can't get the understanding and support of the other half. Therefore, in recent years, there is a popular saying called widowed parenting, which vividly expresses the husband's sense of participation in marriage. Every woman divides herself into several parts. For the sake of family, children and lovers, she ignores herself and lives too tired.

Nowadays, with the rapid development of society, people's ideas are constantly changing, and many new ideas have been accepted, but at the same time, some old ideas cannot be completely abandoned, which leads to great differences between the old and the younger generation, and these contradictions also make problems in marriage continue.