Linyi now from engagement to marriage have what custom ah, about how much money? Do you give the woman money for checking the date? And what about marriage?

Young men and women after mutual understanding, mutual consent, will hold the engagement ceremony. The young woman was accompanied by her relatives to the young man's home, the man set up a banquet hospitality, and invited the introducer or friends and relatives to accompany. The man must give engagement gifts to the woman, mostly cash and clothing, some also send gold and silver jewelry such as necklaces, earrings, rings, etc., how many gifts are generally agreed upon in advance by both men and women. In rural areas, young men and women engaged to marry before the general also "send books," "send days," "under the makeup" and so on.

Send the book, also known as "over the red". In the past, children's marriages were arranged by their parents, and both parents determined the marriage contract between their children by betrothing them. Marrying a chicken with a chicken, marrying a dog with a dog, marrying a flat carrying away," he said. Men and women to determine the marriage, the male side of the matchmaker to the female side of the home, the exchange of men and women's names, ages and parents and matchmaker's names, etc. "book", as the basis for marriage. The man also has to give the woman betrothal gift. In addition to clothes, money, jewelry, and leg ties and socks, there are two packages of salt, two packages of rice, one pair of needles, and one pair of green onions. Sending salt, rice, etc. means "fate has arrived", sending needles means "marriage", sending green onions means "from the date" (from the breakthrough of the "four olds") After the "Four Olds" were broken, only cash and clothes were sent to Shuzi, and "Shuzi" was no longer exchanged). The woman back to the book of a hat, a belt, a dress, a hand towel 1 pair of socks and shoes, 1 pair of cigarette packets (now more than two boxes of cigarettes).

Send the day of the man according to the two men and women's birthdays and eight characters, such as please "Mr." check the date of marriage, sent to the woman's home to inform, commonly known as "send the day". In the past, send the day generally have "four-color gift": steamed bread (or chicken), meat, big chub fish, flour skin. Now send more clothes and cash. Send the day after the two sides will be married on the date of their respective notification of friends and relatives, friends and relatives in their wedding to send gifts. The gifts for the man are called "gift-giving" and those for the woman are called "gift-filling boxes".

The day before the wedding, the man sent someone to the woman's home, "under the makeup," meaning to urge the woman to be married on time. The gifts are usually a pair of red and blue jackets, a set of cosmetics, a pair of male and female chickens, a pair of fish, and a knife of meat. The dowry gift is usually returned to the man's home with the dowry, so there is a saying that "the dowry gift cannot be afforded". Chickens are called "long-life chickens". If a woman leaves a "long-life chicken" at the time of the dowry, it means that she has a "big box" when she gets married. Inside the box, there are "broad-minded noodles", "pressure buns", cakes and "worship shoes" (i.e., from the bride to the male family elders and brother and sister-in-law, siblings and other shoes) and so on. In recent years, the big box is no longer seen.

Marriage The man is called "marrying his wife" and the woman is called "getting married". Most of them choose an auspicious day according to the lunar calendar. Before the liberation, because the marriage of children by their parents to arrange, men and women in the wedding day to get to know each other. There has been such a true story in the territory: a village has two families on the same day at the same time to marry, by mistake, the two families are the wrong bride, and worship into the marriage. Waiting to realize this matter, raw rice has been made into a cooked meal, have to make the mistake. Later had a child, one of the family named it "poor", the other family named the child "wrong". After liberation, men and women got married by first registering and then holding a wedding. Before the wedding, the man to buy furniture, decorate the new room, the woman to prepare the "dowry".

In the past, when a woman got married, the woman's family sent the bride to the man's house in a sedan chair (the bridesmaids called the "sedan chair's") or a cart (the bridesmaids called the "cart's"). 50 ~ early 70's, the carts were all covered with mats, and the woman was seated on the right side of the cart, and the cart's sat on the left side. In the early 50s and 70s, the carts were covered with mats. Behind the carts were those who carried cupboards, cabinets and tables, and two people who carried small stools, commonly known as "dowry carriers". When stopping the car, the one who carries the dowry has to go up and pad the legs of the car with a stool. Later, the male party hired a car to the woman's home to pick up the bride, the groom generally do not go with the car, the bride accompanied by the "bridesmaids". Car to the male party parked outside the gate, first stay a moment, called "grinding sex", meaning that after the door after the temperament of the meek. At this time, the male party set off firecrackers. Bride by the male "frame daughter-in-law" to help the bride off, the bride off the first "tread cake" (generally rice cake, meaning "step by step", such as the male side of the family name is high, then the bride does not step on the cake). Groom out to meet the bride, both sides exchanged handkerchiefs, generally in the courtyard by the "master of ceremonies" presided over the first worship of heaven and earth, the second worship high hall, and then couples worship, and then *** into the new room. At this time, there are special people in the yard, chestnuts, dates and sugar cubes, meaning "early son", sweet life. Thereafter, the man set up a banquet to entertain guests. The female party to "send the bride" is mostly the bride's uncle or uncle, uncle, etc., was honored as the guest of honor, commonly known as the "big guest"; other to send the bride said "loose guests". Wedding night, there are often some friends, classmates or juniors to the bridal chamber "room" for fun, rural neighbors on the bridal chamber to see the daughter-in-law or to be happy cigarettes, children want chestnuts, dates or sugar, late at night are automatically left. Thereafter, the bride and groom by the male relatives waiter drink "cup wine". That night, the cave room lights do not go out, called "long life lamp". Soon after the wedding, the bride to be accompanied by her husband back to her mother's home, commonly known as "over the moon".

1. Eating dumplings: the groom before the wedding departure, to eat dumplings with their parents and brothers and girlfriends, said the parting, the mother fed her daughter dumplings, the bride cried.

2. Happiness: the groom and the female family to meet, should hold the bouquet to the room to be married to the bride, at this time, the bride's girlfriend to deliberately stop the groom, but the conditions to be promised to the groom, usually to the red envelope gift deal.

3. Farewell: the bride should kowtow to her parents to say goodbye, and the groom can only bow and salute.

4. Going out: the bride should be held by a female elder with a high degree of blessing bamboo plaque or black umbrella to protect her walk to the limousine, because the bride can not see sunlight on the top of the head, the other party wants to be like the female elders, to live a happy and fulfilling life. (Note: Prepare the bamboo plaque and put the word "happy" on it)

5. The limousine: the bamboo plaque can be placed on the back cover of the limousine.

6. To the fan: before the bride on the limousine, an auspicious boy holding a fan to the bride (placed on a tea tray), the bride will return the red envelope to thank. (Note: Prepare a fan with two small red envelopes)

7. Do not say goodbye: when everyone leaves the door of the woman's home, never say goodbye to the woman's family.

8. Throwing the fan: After the limousine starts, the bride should throw the fan out of the window, meaning not to bring the bad nature of the in-laws, the little boy will pick up the fan and give it to the woman's family, the woman's family to return the red packet in appreciation.

9. Firecrackers: firecrackers are set off when the limousine leaves the woman's house.

10. Touch the orange: the gift car to the man's home, by a child with two oranges to meet the new couple, the bride to lightly touch the orange, and then give red packets of thanks.

11. Holding the bride: the bride off the bus, the male party should be a blessed elder holding a bamboo plaque on top of the bride's head, and support the bride into the hall.

12. Avoid stepping over the threshold.

13. Crossing the fire bowl and stepping on the tiles: after the bride enters the hall, she has to cross the fire bowl and step on the broken tiles.

14. Entering the bridal chamber: the newlyweds sit together on a bench pre-padded with the groom's pants, saying that the two of them are united in their desire to have a male child in the future. No man is allowed to enter the bridal chamber. (Into the bridal chamber to choose to book the hour)

5. Avoid sitting in the new bed: the wedding day, no one can not sit in the new bed, the bride can not lie down to avoid a year-long illness in bed. In addition, after the bed to the wedding night, to find an underage boy, and the groom to sleep in bed together.

16. Burning firecrackers, go to the wedding banquet: the gift car left the cave, set off firecrackers.

17. into the hotel lounge (honeymoon suite), friends to see the bride.