What is a Korean wedding like?

Korean WeddingThe Korean ethnic group in China moved from neighboring North Korea one after another from the late 17th century to the middle of the 19th century. They settled in Yanbian, Jilin Province and all over the northeast. Because of the history of the Korean and Han people have long been friendly exchanges, so the customs of the Korean people, in addition to maintaining the original cultural traditions, but also by the influence of Han culture. Even in the marriage customs of the Han Chinese some of the wedding customs have long been abolished, in the Korean modern marriage customs are still retained. Such as the original implementation of the Han Chinese "six rites" custom, in the Korean people are often arranged in a well-organized, strict and conscientious implementation.

The Koreans attach great importance to the four major rites of life: crown, marriage, funeral and burial. Young men and women can choose their spouses only after the ceremony of crown and maturity. Matchmaking is also strictly in accordance with the six rites of the Nacai, asking for the name, Naji, Najin (Naji), please period, and welcome the six rites of the program. The ceremonial rites are held at the woman's home first.

Korean wedding, the groom should wear a dress, accept the instructions, leave his parents, personally ride to the woman's home to meet the bride. Along the way, a "wild goose" holding two wild geese walks at the front of the procession. Welcome to the bride's home, to hold a series of ceremonies. One of these ceremonies is held in front of the "groom's room".

The road to the "groom's room" is paved with blankets, the best man gives the groom a fan tied with white silk, the goose driver puts a wooden goose on the blanket and asks the groom to use the fan to push the wooden goose up the steps. If you accidentally overturn the wooden goose, you will be ridiculed by the people. The Korean ceremony of pushing the goose is an ancient custom like the custom of the six rites. It uses a symbolic ceremony to wish the bride and groom to grow old together like the geese.

China's Korean people have always had a "southern marriage and northern mourning" said. South, refers to the "South Road people". The South refers to the "South Koreans", who moved from the south of Korea, and the North refers to the "North Koreans", who moved from the north of Korea. Most of the people from the southern provinces live in the Liaoning and Heilongjiang provinces of China, while most of the people from the northern provinces live in the Yanbian area of Jilin Province. The South Wedding, which is a wedding ceremony that focuses on the people from the South, is a complicated and grand ceremony. Nowadays, in Korean weddings, female marriages and male marriages take place at the same time. But not in the past. In the marriage of male Taoist people, the groom has to marry to the bride's family first, and then marry the bride back home after a period of time. In the Korean language, this kind of marriage is called "Hankong Nadri" (Three Kingdoms), which reads, "Goguryeo people, their custom is to do the marriage, the words have been decided, and the woman's family makes a hut behind the big house, called 'wedding room'. Evening and evening to the female outdoor, the name of their own kneeling, begging for female lodging. This was done three times. The woman's parents would then allow her to stay in the hut. They were then given money and money to live on. When the child is old enough, they return the woman to her home." This means that the "Hankong Nadri" is a kind of "two marriages" marriage custom. That is to say, they first live the life of "living from their wives" and then live the life of "living from their husbands". But it is different from the "two marriages" of the Brown people in Yunnan Province. The two marriages of the Brown people are a manifestation of the ancient custom of "not falling from the husband's home", i.e., after the wedding, the bride returns to her mother's home for a long period of time, and then goes back to her mother-in-law's home after a few years or after the birth of her first child, and then the wedding ceremony is held on her return. The Korean "Hankong Nadri" is a composite form of the marriage customs of "living from the wife" and "living from the husband".

The Hankong Nadri wedding is held twice.

The first one is "the man's family marries his son and the woman's family welcomes her son-in-law". The wedding takes place mainly in the woman's house. The bridegroom rides to the woman's house on horseback wearing a dress and dismounts and rests in a temporary wedding room. At the time of the wedding, the groom enters the hall with his feet on a mat, and the bride is carried into the hall by her brother. When the bride and groom are together, they pay their respects to each other. On the third day after the wedding, the groom returns to his home. After half a month, the bride's family sends someone to take the groom back to live with his wife for a long time.

The second time is after a few months or a year, the bridegroom will marry the bride home. This time, there is only a big banquet but no wedding. The bride meets her in-laws, uncles and aunts and uncles, and then lives with her in-laws.

The Korean people in China are a people who pay great attention to etiquette, and wedding etiquette is often very complicated. When the marriage is fixed, both parents meet at the woman's home and express their opinions to each other. In the end, the marriage is finalized by both parents. Otherwise, no matter how good the relationship between the young man and woman is, it is not recognized. After the betrothal, a "small wedding" is held. The man's family prepares a feast and brings clothes for his future daughter-in-law to the woman's home. The woman's family also prepares food. Close relatives of both the man and the woman gather together, talk and laugh, and the atmosphere is very cordial. On such occasions, both parents say something modest to their children. For example, the woman's parents say, "My girl is still young and doesn't know any better, so I'm counting on you in the future." The man's parents, on the other hand, swear before the woman's parents that they will take good care of their daughter-in-law. In such a small wedding, both parents are happy to set a date for the wedding.